LaneyB 5,423 Views
Joined Dec 9, '08.
Posts: 298 (67% Liked)
I can barely make it in the door it rains bras and underwear from the other nurses just throwing themselves at me.
Let's be clear, I'm not defending that comment. I'm just saying if you want to be able to say it all direct and without any sort of preamble to set the stage.....yes, you'll have to thicken it up and let stuff go. If a poster hasn't been around here for ages to learn Rosers style then your comments can often very easily come off as snarky, dismissive and or condescending. I'm not saying I don't value your input I'm just telling you what I see.
Fast forward a bit and we've learned that a little tact and diplomacy goes a long way. We can be just as effective mentors and teachers without the snark.
As a snarky person who uses passive aggressive phrasing to be able to call people out without getting points, I am excellent at detecting meanness.
Roser13 doesn't pull any punches. If you're being stupid, she'll point it out. But, it's not with the intention of belittling you or telling you that you suck at life. She's basically saying, "That post was stupid."
Letting that be a license to say that she must have been tortured as a child shows way more about you than you meant it to, I'm sure. Bless your heart.
I've noticed an increase in the number of over-sharers in the workforce over the past few years. Over-sharing is also known by another name: boundaryless sharing.
Our personal information is too valuable to share with people who have only known us for a day or two. Save the chatter for those who are worth our time, such as family and real friends. Healthy boundaries can serve as a deterrent to spilling the beans.
I had a professor tell us a story at orientation that has stuck with me. This won't be as good as hers but I'm sure you will get the gist. . . Her orientation went just like yours. The whole look to your right and left they won't be here in the end thing, and this will break you. She said everyone felt defeated and worthless when they left. She went to brown and was able to sit in on the dr orientation. Theirs started off the same look to your right and left but then they were told you are here because you are the best of the best. Hand picked to be here. Walk out feeling proud. Some programs set us up to feel defeated and low, but please remember that YOU are in your nursing program because YOU are the best of the best!!!!! You've got this. Well, you and your crockpot.
You are barking up the wrong tree.
Nursing didn't change. Corporate health care changed nursing.
Your unit is obviously understaffed. We all know one CNA for 30 patients is not adequate. Are you aware of the nurse/ patient ratio?
It was never that I felt passing water and toileting a patient was EVER below me...the MAN kept piling so much responsibility on me, that I could not take on one more task.
Know your battles, pick them wisely.
You are certainly a person of few words.
I would say you got a 35.12% chance, but I have been known to be off a couple percent.
And don't hesitate to look that provider square in the eye and quietly say, "Don't. EVER. Speak. To. Me. Like. That. Again."
I agree with all of the above. As long as you are professional in your demeanor, informed and efficient in what you report with the pertinent information they need to answer your question, or give you subsequent orders, then you are doing your job.
I have said the following to a couple MDs in the past, but mind you...I had worked with them for quite awhile and we had rapport...
"Breath. I'm on your side". Pretty sure they are often reacting under pressure, exhaustion, and sometimes simply have immature interpersonal communication skills. As one poster said, they are human too.
What bothers me regarding this subject is that as a nurse, if we were to EVER speak rudely or in an outburst to a physician, our "you know what's" would be on the line.
Unfortunately as far as this type of thing is concerned, we are working under a hierarchy and they bring in the money. Doesn't excuse it, but they operate (no pun intended) under different expectations. Having said that, I have seen a world of change over the years. Back in the day, we used to be expected to give up our seats when a physician entered the nurses' station and fetch charts for them, etc....Glad those days are over. Would be nice to see more respect, though.
Anyone interested in a "pet peeve regarding doctors" thread?
Write the incident up after to speaking with the physician privately about the behavior. One rude incident, I let that go. If it continues, I file an incident report. If that is ignored, go to HR. MD's are supposed to be colleagues and rude abusive behavior creates a hostile work environment and that becomes problematic over time. I have zero tolerance for that anymore.
However, before doing all that I will speak with the MD privately about it. I give the person an opportunity to change the behavior.
I'm fortunate to work at facilities who don't tolerate this.
Well, hurry up so I can put both on my ignore list.
Sounds serious. You should put her picture up with a warning at the local Greyhound bus station, too. And anyone who walks by without looking at it should get a hard slap to the face.
So it's either say what you want to hear, or don't comment?
Why post on this website if you are going to try to dictate the content of the responses? AN is based on the whole concept of posters giving feedback to the starter of a new thread. You should be prepared to hear all kinds of responses when you start a thread.
BTW, people with severe chronic pain DO sleep. That does not mean that they are not in severe, debilitating pain.
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