correctlywrong 2,203 Views
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I take an anabolic steroid by injection, and I am an RN.
Of course, I am taking it by prescription for a diagnosed medical condition, under the care of my physician.
Does it really matter?
Seriously. Is it less valid to live in a way that a person chooses than to live that way because it was predetermined by an accident of biology?
I chose certain parts of my unusual lifestyle. I conciously and thoughtfully considered what certain choices were going to mean to me, and what the consequences would be. But I made those choices because of who I am, and how I am.
My mom has accepted me for who I am, and has shown me love and support through all the changes she has seen me undergo. I am so grateful that she tries hard to understand me, even though I am very different from the person she had been dreaming about when I was a baby. We are both happier that she gets to have a relationship with her real son, not with a person that he is pretending to be in order to please others.
I wish you the best in laying down such a relationship with your daughter.
But do be careful about looking for causes and effects. You mentioned hormones as a possible cause for your daughter's choices, and that might have something to do with it. But consider also that behavior can influence physiology. Maybe the person that you mentioned who has high testosterone levels has that because of the choices that she has made and the way that she is living!
Remember that study that showed that men watching a football game can get a sudden increase in their testosterone levels when their team one, while men who's team lost saw their testosterone levels plummet. Mind and body are linked in ways that we don't fully understand just yet. Correlation is not causation.
What is described in the article is certainly the reason that I am leaving bedside nursing.
Let's talk about what YOU can do.
1) Learn from the bad example that was set for you, and when you find yourself in the role of a mentor or team member, focus on how you can do the opposite of what was done to you.
2) Consider whether it is appropriate to approach the PERSON with whom you had this conflict and give them professional feedback on how their behavior affected you. Do you think that this would help them to make positive changes in their future performance? If you decide to give this a shot, consider writing them a letter. Keep your emotions in check and just give the facts as you see them. Use "I statements." When X happened, I felt blah blah blah. As opposed to "When you did X, it made me blah blah blah." See if you can find someone like a counsellor from the school or even a therapist to help you draft the letter. Sincere feedback of this sort is a kind of gift that you could give to the PERSON, which could help both of you to grow as professionals. You may find that addressing the PERSON directly could resolve many of your issues with the situation.
Not all people are able to recieve such a gift with good grace. You might determine that the PERSON is not someone that you could consider approaching with feedback at this time.
3) Try to put this behind you as you become increasingly competent and comfortable in your career. You will need months and years before you become an expert, but you don't to be a nervous wreck while you gain the experience that will get you there. Everyone was a newbie once. Just breathe, do your best, and you will be ready to mentor someone else before you know it.
I've decided that my answer is to give the best care possible to the patients and the paperwork be danged.
I am less protected if there is an adverse event because my charting sucks.
I am less likely to have a patient experience an adverse event if I spend my day at my bedsides instead of at a computer.
However, statistics will eventually catch up with me and there will eventually be an event despite my diligence. I can either choose to speed up that date by changing my focus to documentation over patient care, or I can avoid it all together by leaving bedside nursing all together.
I've accepted a new position.
On my unit, we occasionally get people that we consider "single shift" patients. It is understood that no nurse should have to have them day after day. Mostly they are repeat customers, so we know from the door that we need to alternate their nurses.
It is a reasonable thing to ask for, to share the burden of an especially demanding patient/family. Especially if you keep the rest of your assignment, as those patients will probably notice that they get a more equitable share of your attention on the day that you don't have the patient you gave away. That is what gets me most about the very demanding people... they usually aren't actually accomplishing anything extra for their loved one, but they are taking resources away from others by monopolizing the staff's time.
Nursing is really stressful. Stress does exact a price, physically or emotionally. All people in very stressful jobs are at increased risk for mental and physical health problems, depression included.
There are times when I ask myself why I subjected myself to this lifestyle. I want to warn student nurses. "Hey, do you realize that the prize that you get for all the work that you put in during school is to work even harder? The prize for succeeding in nursing school is to be a nurse. Be really sure that is really what you want!"
I thought about taking antidepressants to keep my previous job. I could plaster on a chemical smile and keep going, but I decided that it was better to leave.
OP says that several jobs haven't yielded the right fit, but that doesn't mean that there isn't a nursing position out there that is the job of your dreams. The reasons that you entered the profession are probably all still valid... just the conditions necessary to appreciate them are lacking. It is possible to find fulfillment and even pleasure in work as a nurse, despite the stress and all the human suffering to which we are witness. SSRI's can be a temporary or long-term way to get through the tough parts, but a good counsellor is a great help as well. Remembering to take care of yourself helps, too. Enough rest, healthy food, time off to do the things that make life worth living for you. A monthly massage is not too expensive or too extravagant, and it goes a long way toward healing mental and physical pain. Self-care will probably do more to restore a nurse's well-being than drugs or counselling.
Sometimes self-care means trying again to find a better work situation. It has worked wonders for me.
Maybe you look like someone they didn't get along with once. Maybe they don't like your accent. Maybe they were offended because you ended a sentance with a preposition. Or there was some genuine miscommunication that troubled them.
It hasn't happened to me personally, but I have had to take on patients who have requested not to have one of my co-workers back. Sometimes it has been those people with whom I am proudest to work. Always, it has been due to a simple clash of personalities or something else that was really not the fault of the nurse in question.
The only really bad reaction I have ever seen from the nurse was to confront the patient about her reasons. That put the patient in a really uncomfortable position. She had felt uncomfortable with a male nurse who reminded her of a former abuser, and his confrontation of her only increased her distrust and general anxiety. If you absolutely need to know the reason, ask the nurse taking the assignment if s/he would mind to ask the patient if there is any feedback they can offer about what you could do better in the future. You may find that it isn't about you at all.
Try 29, 30, or 31.
I think we, as a profession, use much larger needles than necessary. I give IMs in the deltoid on nonobese individuals using what my facility considers a SQ needle, 25g, 5/8inch. If the deltoid is well defined, under only a small amount of subcutaneous tissue, why would I reach for a 21g 1.5 inch? Sure, that might be appropriate for a leg/glute/obese patient, but otherwise it is just thoughtlessly cruel.
Edited to add: Incidentally, 25g for a SQ! And I have seen some nurses reach for 23's! I use TB needles for most of my SQ, and I would use it for the purpose you describe.
Jehovah's Witnesses won't take blood products, so he is taking his own risk. I don't think they will even take synthetic due to the belief they are messing with God's will. The only thing I can think of off hand is Epogen. But I don't know how much it will help if they are actively bleeding
I signed on for a similar contract. Some days, I regret it, but I really had no other choice.
I sometimes jokingly refer to myself as an indentured servant, but that is essentially what it comes down to. It does add some extra stress every step of the way, to know that you really can't fail, because the consequences are now that much higher.
At the same time, what I did allowed me opportunities that weren't available to me otherwise. I basicallly couldn't have gone to nursing school or gotten medical care that I needed without the funds that I obtained this way.
It can be a good deal. Just think hard before you accept it.
The great thing about heparin is its crazy short half life. You can turn it off for a few hours and the patient's ptt will normalize.
I have seen a patient get a 10x overdose of heparin with no negative outcome.
The woman who died of spinal hematomas had an allergy to heparin, as in her it induced thrombocytopenia. Unless someone has that problem, once they have survived the first few hours after the heparin drip has been stopped or decreased without negative consequences, they can probably be expected to have no further risk of adverse effects from the event.
We really do have to take what we do seriously. We are putting very potent substances inside other people, and errors can have life-altering or even fatal consequences. And yet, we cannot help but be human. Do your best to check yourself, but never be afraid to have someone else check you. And if you check another person's work, really be critical and expect to find an error every time. Most people see what they expect to see, so if you are expecting to find errors, you will be less likely to miss them than if you just nod your head and agree without really examining what you are looking at.
Our hospital has a specialty unit where patients come to have seizures on purpose, while on 24 hour EEG monitoring and closed circuit TV. What I learned from the nurses there:
Protect their head!
Have suction set up ready to remove excess secretions, so that they don't aspirate.
Apply O2, preferably by mask. You don't need a NRB, but it doesn't hurt. A plain mask with the flow cranked up high is a good thing. It is not uncommon for people to have brief periods of apnea during seizures, and it will probably pass before the code team arrives. If not, they may get intubated and win a trip to the ICU.
Don't try to restrain the patient or hold them down. You won't stop the shaking, and you risk causing them musculoskeletal injuries.
Protect their head! If they aren't in a bed, get a pillow under it somehow. (Why do people seize in the bathrooms!)
It is amazing what a person can bite through when their jaw clenches in uncontrollable spasms. Don't introduce anything fragile into their oral cavity. Intubation equiptment and maybe a yankeur as needed are the only things you should dare put in their mouth.
A couple of milligrams of ativan is your friend. Now you see why everyone in the hospital should have an IV access until DC.
Most common causes of fever post operatively include anesthesia reaction (rare, early), atelectasis (common), DVT/PE. Two or three days after surgery, pan culture. First 48 hours, it is something else.
Management that isn't above taking an assignment when needed. Even occasionally, when not needed, to keep skills fresh and to find out first hand what the problems on the unit really are.
Nurses that aren't above team work, with each other and with other staff. Don't walk past the kitchen to ask an aide to go there and get your patient a pitcher of water. I don't care what they told you in school about how you need to learn to delegate. Part of learning to delegate is learning when to do it yourself, to demonstrate to your staff that you aren't asking them to do anything you aren't willing to do, too. (Note the repeating theme.) Aides should know that when an RN asks them to do something, it is because they need to have it done, now, and correctly. We have RNs who will go out of their way to find an aide to do something that they could have done more quickly on their own, because they think that getting their license means they don't have to do certain things anymore.
Aides that hustle rather than hide. If you spend more time to walk up and down the unit complaining about how many complete baths you have to give, rather than getting busy doing the work, you need a new job. If you have to be asked more than twice to do something for one of my patients, there is a problem, and it is that management doesn't work enough shifts to know who the troublemakers really are and to get rid of them. There are nurses and aides on the list and everyone but the manager knows who really works and who hides out and makes more work for others.
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