TempRNce

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1. Diversity

   TempRNce replied to BABYJADE06's topic in Relations

   You are plenty strong to have gone through this as long as you did, what a horrible thing to have to experience! If this was affecting your physical health it doesn't sound like you really had much of a choice, your kids do need you to be healthy. ...

2. Supporting your black friend: "Black pain as Back pain"

   TempRNce replied to TempRNce's topic in Relations

   I don't think there is anything wrong with talking about your own pain, and it can be helpful when that's your intent. What I find unhelpful is when people talk about their pain only as a way to dismiss the other person. Comments such as "I've felt...

3. Diversity

   TempRNce replied to BABYJADE06's topic in Relations

   Whites absolutely do have the right to form groups that exclude non-whites, and there are some in existence in your area (do a web search). But with few exceptions, minority groups are formed not to exclude anyone, but for a source of community. Yo...

4. Supporting your black friend: "Black pain as Back pain"

   TempRNce replied to TempRNce's topic in Relations

   You are changing the subject (see #3 and #7), but that's expect I don't think anyone would have a problem giving someone leeway if they are accused of being racist just for disagreeing, but is that always what's happening? I'll quote Melissa Harris ...

5. Supporting your black friend: "Black pain as Back pain"

   TempRNce replied to TempRNce's topic in Relations

   I wanted to post a guide for people on how to support their black friends if a topic like this comes up. The point is that you treat the black person's pain as you would ANY OTHER kind of pain, e.g. back pain. I'm sure I am a little bitter. It's ...

6. Supporting your black friend: "Black pain as Back pain"

   TempRNce replied to TempRNce's topic in Relations

   Here are examples (excerpts, direct quotes with emphasis added) of how variations of these unhelpful responses were used in the recent "black nurses and students" thread (https://allnurses.com/general-nursing-discussion/black-nurses-students-622935.h...

7. Hypothetical Ethical Issue

   TempRNce replied to Pepper The Cat's topic in General Nursing

   Exactly. I think refusing this assignment might actually be the more compassionate action if you thought your biases might get in the way of providing care. This happens with a lot of patients who never killed any children: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/...

8. Diversity

   TempRNce replied to BABYJADE06's topic in Relations

   I see what you are saying, but you are forgetting the historical and social context. Historically, "all white" organizations in the U.S. have formed specifically in an attempt to keep non-whites out and plot how to kill them - that should cause outr...

9. Not-so-friendly coworker..how do you deal with it?

   TempRNce replied to CharleeJo.RN's topic in Relations

   I think it's fantastic that the rest of your coworkers are so great, that will make her behavior easier to deal with. Since you don't know her it's impossible to really know what her deal is, don't spend too much time worrying about it or trying to ...

10. Supporting your black friend: "Black pain as Back pain"

    TempRNce replied to TempRNce's topic in Relations

    I apologize, I wasn't clear. I didn't mean for people not to respond freely, I just meant that all of the "Dont's" were things that seem clearly not helpful or supportive, so using one of them would have been pointless, UNLESS someone was able to sa...

11. Supporting your black friend: "Black pain as Back pain"

    TempRNce posted a topic in Relations

    I've noticed some difficulty on this site (and everywhere), in treating black people (and other minorities) with compassion when they seek advice about how to cope with racism, bias or isolation due to their minority status. For some reason it seems...

12. Diversity

    TempRNce replied to BABYJADE06's topic in Relations

    No one has posted in this thread in a while but I just read it. I feel that if the OP had specified that the hospital in question is hiring almost exclusively Latinos or Asians, and that white people are suspiciously underrepresented there this conv...

13. Need some travel advice from black nurses

    TempRNce replied to abbottcr's topic in Travel

    As a black person, you are using your first and only post ever to tell us all that the worst group of people you have ever experienced in life was ALL of your black coworkers in Mississippi? How many ignorant black people were there in all? Three? ...

14. Singled out nursing student

    TempRNce replied to Blacksheep80's topic in General Students

    (Highlighting some of the things the OP said that a few may have missed, let's stay on track here) First, let me join your supporters in sending you a group e-hug, and tell you that you are not wrong for feeling this way and are not alone. What some...

15. Need some travel advice from black nurses

    TempRNce replied to abbottcr's topic in Travel

    FYI the original post is years old, but I do want to respond to this. As far as "reverse racism" goes I think everyone agrees that mistreating someone because of their race, appearance, accent, religion, whatever, is WRONG and unacceptable. That be...