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When you went into the nursing profession and received your first salaried job, did it make you want to spend more and buy luxury cars, electronics ,etc?
I ask this because I'm pretty frugal, but when I see a car or new gadget that I really really like the first thing that comes to my mind is "I'm going to get that when I become a nurse". Did any of you nurses felt like that with your salary where you just have to buy, buy, and buy because you can afford it but you don't need it?
You can have cliques anywhere at any job. Working 3 12 hour shifts is great because you can go a month or more without seeing someone. It helps break up the clique mentality! Saw much more of it when 8 hour shifts were the norm and everyone worked a set schedule.
Some nurses socialize outside of work, but not everyone. It just depends on the unit and the coworkers. In general young singles hang out together and married with family socialize less. Personally I think it's better to keep work and personal life separate. I learned that the hard way from trusting the wrong persons. Sure I still socialize with a few coworkers, but keep things light and save my innermost being and thoughts to my loved ones outside of work. I learned to share a lot less of my personal life thru trial and error. To each his own.
I feel safe at work. It is more likely that someone could harm me elsewhere for example a mall. I'm not afraid. THe incidents at work were either confused dementia patients or angry patients that lashed out physically. Never had a weapon pulled on me. One time while on a walk in a deserted place a man slammed his brakes and started reaching towards me from the passenger window. I yelled at him to stay away and walked into the street so he'd have to turn his car around. There was some oncoming traffic and luckily he drove away. Another time while walking at that same park a strange man approached me, but another woman with a cellphone out made sure he left me alone. As a woman I'd feel more vulnerable to rape than someone pulling a gun. Though I feel safer now that I'm older as I think I'd be less of a target since they usually choose younger victims.
I do think ER nurses are more at risk than floor nurses and that there should be armed security and police nearby if you live in a crime ridden urban city! I believe some hospitals do have metal detectors in certain high crime cities. Now recently the police are a main target and in many cities they are now going out in pairs and not alone because of all the shooting of police.
To some extent thinking you are a safe is a false sense of security because violence can happen anywhere a mall, a park or festival even hair salons and stores. I think the govt should once again ban assault rifles. I don't understand why the ban was repealed in the first place. How many innocent people have to die before the govt does something! But frankly if the govt failed to act after all those innocent children were killed in Newtown, CT I don't know if anything will touch their hearts. Pretty hardened hearts to refuse to act after that attack! Where will it end? Only God knows!
That is a very sad situation. Why not go back to the NP that was understanding of your mom's need for pain meds and anxiety meds? This is exactly what I feared would happen with the pressure for Dr's not to prescribe narcotics, that people will be left with uncontrolled pain. I see this already with nurse friends who are treated as drug seekers if they need narcotics for an injury or chronic back problem.
Is there any way you can go back to the NP with her? Otherwise seek out pain management for sure. Sometimes non narcotics can help such as lido patches or a steroid shot, but narcotics should not be withheld from her. Plus she is dealing with anxieity and dementia. The dementia may be increasing the anxiety as she realizes she is forgetting things. I imagine that would be very unsettling.
Just be aware nursing is very stressful, most places short staff, you are juggling many patients and are responsible for everyone and everything, whereas the job you have now you see patients one at a time, on a schedule, you have a defined job. Nursing may feel like chaos to you. So many people go into nursing to help others and then find themselves overwhelmed and disappointed with the reality of nursing. Personally I wouldn't recommend it. Why not volunteer where you can make a personal difference and keep your day job! I wish I could have a defined job where I could say it's not my job when one of the myriad support staff doesn't do their job! If only!
Do not admit to any fault on your part, they don't care. Do not point fingers, they don't care. Don't fall on your sword and promise you'll try harder, they don't care.
Do describe the situation in factual terms, and state you disagree with their version.
Write ups are a means of documenting patterns and reasons for dismissal. When you include your version, you create the pattern for wrongful discharge.
It's time to get the heck out of dodge!
I made twice as much as a new nurse than a secretary yet my rent, student loans, car payment and credit card debt were over 50% of my income so I didn't feel rich. Plus I was living on my own, no more roommates so rent cost more. I got some hand me down furniture from family and one of my first new things I got I paid for on layaway.
Take a personal finance course before signing up for student loans and a new car. Splurge on something small to begin with. Keep your student loans as low as possible. Pay them no matter what! As another mentioned you can't get rid of them in bankruptcy and if you defer them the interest is only accruing and that will mean bigger loan payments for more years down the road. I put mine in deferment a couple times and it took me almost 25 years to pay them off. That is one of my biggest regrets! So glad to have the student loan monkey off my back!
Yes they did. I get the message from everyone's tone. I'm an idiot for trusting management it will not happen again.
Thanks for sharing your personal experiences and your journey to peace. I'm sure your memoir will inspire other nurses away from the trap of perfectionism and the super nurse phenomenon. Also to seek out support when struggling with personal or work problems, being open to using employee assistance programs or other support groups or therapy to deal with the difficulties of life.
I benefited from therapy as I struggled as a new nurse and know other coworkers that therapy helped them deal with personal and work problems. I don't know if I would have survived as a new nurse without the extra support I received! I have witnessed a few fellow nurses meltdown over the years and lose their jobs that may have been saved if they had reached out for support before it was too late!
We have to remember that we are only human and our job does not define us. We are more than just nurses. It can be easy to lose touch with friends and family because of the job, long hours, working weekends and holidays; and we have to fight to maintain close family bonds and friendships. We have to resist the pressure of the Nightingale super nurse stereotype and demands of management to work overtime to achieve balance. Let's be kind to each other and get off the competition train. Instead see each other as unique team members, each with our own strengths and weaknesses that together we complement each other and can do more together than alone!
Being "highly sensitive" isn't something anyone can just turn off without medication. Its not a lifestyle choice, it's an actual condition. It's a fancy term for people who are easily overstimulated.
Why have an alarm in the bathroom that no one gets to use?
Just retired from nursing and this type of abusive corporate healthcare. So glad, so glad, so glad. 34 years of intimidation, bullying and only devolution in status of nurses. And then we're told how "respected" we are and given a pen and cupcakes for Nurses' Week!
If you're going to make me wear googles and earplugs to simulate being elderly I need my cane. So I can bop you in the head.
As part of the training for the Assertive Community Treatment program back in 1998, Mental Health Professionals attended a 2 week training seminar in Chicago which involved similar exercises.
For example, for one exercise, we wore headphones mimicking auditory hallucinations while we went through our day. During my interview with a Psychologist, I was diagnosed with Hebephrenic Schizophrenia because I couldn't stop laughing.
In another exercise, we had to go out on the street and panhandle.
I made a dollar.
These empathy exercises were well planned and executed. Not only was the experience enlightening, it was also just plain old fun.
Too bad this one was not likewise.
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