brandy1017 28,723 Views
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Focus more on doing the job and less on trying to win a popularity contest. It is the former that earns your paycheck. When it becomes the latter, then it is time to find employment elsewhere because that kind of popularity usually is short-lived.
My advice is to ignore the snotty group that is excluding you. Talk to those nurses that you say you enjoy at work. Go about your business and only talk to the people who you find good to talk to.
I've had some of the same issues the various times in my career and this is what I've done to deal with it. I'm not comfortable trying to fit into a clique. Some of these groups are based on commonalities I don't share. Not to sound snobby but in actuality I find some of these gals to be awfully immature and somewhat lowbrow. I prefer to talk to the people that have something interesting to say, instead of a bunch of junior high antics.
Dont worry. Nursing is for you but you need to find your niche. I loved beside nursing when I was the student but had enough of it once started working on short stay surgical ward. Constantly rushing, answering complaints and demanding relatives, dealing with social issues. I was unhappy to go to work and I had few burn out crisis although being newly qualified. I had problem with night shifts as well. I wasnt so well and had headaches. I had 2 years contract too. Once the contract finished I applied for PACU position and now I love it so much. I have one patient at the time, time to look after patients, time to read their medical notes etc. Now when I transfer patient to the ward, I feel like it is not my world anymore and I am not going to go back there ever unless forced for some reasons. Go ahead. Look for some other options and dont give up
It's made me more assertive and less shy and timid. Granted, I still have my moments, but I've learned to project confidence and authority when I need to.
I'm now more comfortable asking for help out a second opinion when I feel I need it (and everyone needs it at some point). Seemingly in contrast, I also now have a stronger reliance on myself and my own knowledge. I know how to use my resources, I know the common diagnoses, procedures, meds, policies, etc. that are relevant to my patient population, I know (well, am now better able to predict) what docs might need to know from me or order in response to any issues. It's nice to be able to trust myself to figure out more and more independently.
Nursing has made me...I guess more discerning about people? I'm respectful and polite to everyone I tale care of, but there are those for whom it's primarily an act and those I genuinely feel great compassion for. It sounds terrible, maybe it is terrible, but there it is. And the ones I feel for (and don't feel for) are not generally who you'd expect.
Oh, you mean your favorite nursing job. I still have to say the favorite job involved working selling concessions at a movie theater. The pay was low, but we ate popcorn on our breaks and watched bits of movies when things were slow. Sometimes during my first year as a nurse, when I was struggling under a heavy load of responsibility, I would think of that old job.
I don't work for free, for my health, or for any other reason than to earn a decent living. I think we are all underpaid as it is, and the attitude that "its not about the money" but rather for "caring for patients" is one reason why we are underpaid. As long as we are willing to accept lower pay, our employers will be glad to give it to us.
Yes I have been drug tested on the spot at an interview. It wasn't really part of the interview process, though, it was because they'd decided to offer me the job and they were just keeping things rolling. I filled out all the employment paperwork at that interview too. I don't know how you'd refuse the test without looking guilty of something and losing your chance at that job. If it were me, I'd reschedule that interview just to be sure any test would come back clean.
Please be more cautious about this. Even in a week, are you 100% sure you will be negative? I wouldn't chance it. If you are positive, they will report you to the board even if you never end up working there. You could end up with a permanent mark on your license and end up in a program for addicts which included expensive random drug screens for years.
If I were you, I would wait at least a month if not longer. Even if you test yourself and buy a drug test online, that could have a different cut off for what is considered positive.
Not really a lecture but also be careful about the marijuana use. In the future, let's say you smoke it on your day off. You could be tested at any time at work if you have to go to employee health for any reason, like if you end up in a nonrelated accident. So just keep that in mind.
The next time you go to work take a full set of pictures documenting the condition of that sharps box and email them to yourself. These pictures could potentially help you to win a lawsuit someday if things go badly. If you don't have pictures then you're just going to be OOL. Consider filing a formal complaint with JACHO and OSHA because there is no excuse for this. File these complaints and you go on the record and the hospital can't sweep the matter under the rug and try to goat you for their failings.
Whatever you do please realize the hospital doesn't really care about you but they do care a great deal about avoiding liability on their part. If you don't complain higher up this will just go on to happen to other staff members.
1: How is there a needle inside a collection cup
2: Did you report this?
I actually did see my primary like a year ago for a check up and I told her I was feeling kind of depressed and all she did was ask if I was suicidal which Im not and then asked if I wanted to start zoloft. I feel meds would be my last resort and I did not like the fact she was so quick to push me on medication. So I guess you can say I held off trying to get help because I felt like she brushed off how I was feeling and didnt give me a referral to anyone. I felt I should see someone who is trained to handle mental illnesses instead of a doctor who just has a broad idea of what it is. I am able to look up therapists because I have good insurance so I dont need a referral but not sure who to see. Like I said in my question, a psychologist, psychiatrist or counselor?
I would advise seeing a psychiatrist. A lot of family medicine doctors are not comfortable dealing with mental health issues. I went through a spurt of terrible anxiety and after seeing my family doctor, he referred me to a psychiatrist. I am SO glad I went to see her.
I agree with the previous post, see a Psychiatrist , they are specialized for this . I wouldn't go to a PCP. Also, they can recommend you a good psychotherapist. It has benefitted lot of people but some not. Psychiatrist may start you on SSRI or something for GAD, and usually it takes 4-6 weeks to work, so you have to be patient.May be trying to find a day job will help you too.They also recommend:
Exercise -Very important , they release good hormones in the body . Its really necessary for you get some kind of activity.
Yoga- Yoga has helped numerous people to keep the balance between mind and body.
Multivitamins and healthy diet- Salmon, walnuts etc,
Having a good support system around you- Try to be around positive people. Read motivational books.
Last but not the least
Spirituality- If you are a believer there is nothing that God cannot do. God is the biggest healer.
I was re-reading a shift from last May about calling off for lack of sleep and was just amazed by how many posters feel obligated to work late when their relief nurse calls off.
I have never felt this way and have pretty much done it only when mandated a couple or 3 times per year.
I don't believe it's my duty to do staffing and I pretty much have worked OT or come in extra only when I want to.
The purpose of saying this is to just observe that so many of you seem to feel it's your responsibility to cover call-off's, but it is really the facility's fault to have adequate staff - unless it's a natural disaster or huge accident with lots of casualties and sick patients that couldn't really be foreseen or totally planned for. But routine daily staffing? It's just not the staff nurse's problem.
They didn't correct her on your previous complaints, or if they did, it didn't work. I think that firing was coming for a long time, and you did a good thing.
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