brandy1017 23,524 Views
Joined Jun 30, '02.
Posts: 1,938 (66% Liked)
You can have cliques anywhere at any job. Working 3 12 hour shifts is great because you can go a month or more without seeing someone. It helps break up the clique mentality! Saw much more of it when 8 hour shifts were the norm and everyone worked a set schedule.
Some nurses socialize outside of work, but not everyone. It just depends on the unit and the coworkers. In general young singles hang out together and married with family socialize less. Personally I think it's better to keep work and personal life separate. I learned that the hard way from trusting the wrong persons. Sure I still socialize with a few coworkers, but keep things light and save my innermost being and thoughts to my loved ones outside of work. I learned to share a lot less of my personal life thru trial and error. To each his own.
When you went into the nursing profession and received your first salaried job, did it make you want to spend more and buy luxury cars, electronics ,etc?
I ask this because I'm pretty frugal, but when I see a car or new gadget that I really really like the first thing that comes to my mind is "I'm going to get that when I become a nurse". Did any of you nurses felt like that with your salary where you just have to buy, buy, and buy because you can afford it but you don't need it?
Just be aware nursing is very stressful, most places short staff, you are juggling many patients and are responsible for everyone and everything, whereas the job you have now you see patients one at a time, on a schedule, you have a defined job. Nursing may feel like chaos to you. So many people go into nursing to help others and then find themselves overwhelmed and disappointed with the reality of nursing. Personally I wouldn't recommend it. Why not volunteer where you can make a personal difference and keep your day job! I wish I could have a defined job where I could say it's not my job when one of the myriad support staff doesn't do their job! If only!
I made twice as much as a new nurse than a secretary yet my rent, student loans, car payment and credit card debt were over 50% of my income so I didn't feel rich. Plus I was living on my own, no more roommates so rent cost more. I got some hand me down furniture from family and one of my first new things I got I paid for on layaway.
Take a personal finance course before signing up for student loans and a new car. Splurge on something small to begin with. Keep your student loans as low as possible. Pay them no matter what! As another mentioned you can't get rid of them in bankruptcy and if you defer them the interest is only accruing and that will mean bigger loan payments for more years down the road. I put mine in deferment a couple times and it took me almost 25 years to pay them off. That is one of my biggest regrets! So glad to have the student loan monkey off my back!
It's time to get the heck out of dodge!
Thanks for sharing your personal experiences and your journey to peace. I'm sure your memoir will inspire other nurses away from the trap of perfectionism and the super nurse phenomenon. Also to seek out support when struggling with personal or work problems, being open to using employee assistance programs or other support groups or therapy to deal with the difficulties of life.
I benefited from therapy as I struggled as a new nurse and know other coworkers that therapy helped them deal with personal and work problems. I don't know if I would have survived as a new nurse without the extra support I received! I have witnessed a few fellow nurses meltdown over the years and lose their jobs that may have been saved if they had reached out for support before it was too late!
We have to remember that we are only human and our job does not define us. We are more than just nurses. It can be easy to lose touch with friends and family because of the job, long hours, working weekends and holidays; and we have to fight to maintain close family bonds and friendships. We have to resist the pressure of the Nightingale super nurse stereotype and demands of management to work overtime to achieve balance. Let's be kind to each other and get off the competition train. Instead see each other as unique team members, each with our own strengths and weaknesses that together we complement each other and can do more together than alone!
Talk, Discuss, and Share your experience at your favorite Nursing School.
Advertise With Us