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  • 12:58 am

    Quote from MaryColleenRN
    You have no business being in management with that attitude!!! If you can't handle bedside nursing, you'll never survive as a functional manager. The managers have to be the best bedside nurses to effectively manage others. Shame on you!

    I'm a bedside nurse turned manager who voluntarily still works at the bedside to stay in touch with the needs of the patient, their families and my staff. Yeah, some days suck, but it makes me a better nurse and a better manager.

    I wish more managers were like you. So many forget what its like to work in the trenches once they get into administration.

    We're blessed where I work with a great supervisor who is hands on and will help you with anything, just wish there were more out there like her.

  • Jun 23

    Quote from Nonyvole
    Cutting carbs? Hah! Between my MDD, GAD, ADHD, and chronic pain, I live on carbs.
    I agree if you cut carbs too much it can affect your mood and cause depression. I do think some people, probably the 2/3 of America that is overweight or obese have some insulin resistance and would be better off on a high protein, low carb diet. But I also think part of the problem is simply sugar addiction which they say is harder to stop then cocaine addiction.

  • Jun 23

    Quote from lifelearningrn
    It did bother me that the mother's letter to the judge was really an "all about me" narrative where she talks about how she can't even decorate her new home because of what happened. It was so self-centered, "why him; why me; why us????" I imagine the victim thinks that every, single day.

    How is the son framing this incident? He has convinced his parents it was consensual? That both him and this girl were having consensual sex behind a dumpster??
    No one would have consensual sex behind or around a dumpster! He treated her like she was garbage, raping her beside a dumpster! Thankfully two heroes appeared that put an end to the rape, stopped him from running away, and ensured she was given the medical care she needed.

    That his parents would either buy his lies or simply not care about the victim to protect their son makes me ill! The father's letter screams whats the big deal, while the mom's letter is ridiculous like she was trying to have him canonized for sainthood! Then the woe is me and woe is my poor family, I can't even decorate my house I'm so upset! Really! Really!

  • Jun 22

    Quote from arc1
    Whoa. Uhh no. I hope that does not happen to him. Vengeance is not the answer.
    I agree with you. I just wish this world was a better place where rape didn't happen period! I just hope the victim's impact letter opened his eyes to all the pain his actions of "20 minutes" have caused.

    What troubles me is he did not show any real regret and instead was focused on his losses, as if he was the victim. His family and friends who wrote letters to the judge did the same. One letter tried to minimize what he did as drunk college kids getting carried away vs a "real" rape like a kidnapping and rape. Rape is rape!

    In my years I know of too many woman who have been victims of rape. I helped a fellow college student who had been gang raped and then dropped off at the dorm go to the ER to be treated. She had been acting in a play with these men who she thought of as friends and they turned around and raped her and then dumped her off at the dorm like she was nothing! As a nurse I heard of many others struggling from pasts of sexual abuse and rape as both children and adults. This is such a prevalent problem and many times it goes unreported.

    I'm just so tired of hearing of these rapes by college athletes who seem to think the world owes them whatever they want and they can just take it without consequence! It galled me all the coverage about what he lost; his coveted chance to go to the olympics, his scholarship at Stanford, his chance to be an orthopedic surgeon. The mom even cried about not being able to enjoy decorating her new house because of this, someone suggested paint it jail house orange. lol They even had the gall to set up a go fund me type account to help pay the lawyers fees. I heard the dad was planning to appeal the verdict when it was clear his son lied about consensual sex! I'm glad the jury saw through his lies. It sickens me what jury trials put the victim through. She expected him to take a plea deal and admit his guilt and here he gets a lesser sentence after being convicted of three felonies!

  • Jun 22

    I'm surprised there has been no mention of the Stanford rape trial and sentence on all nurses. I'm opening up the discussion as I feel it pertains to us in many ways. One as people who may have been victims or know others who have been victims of sexual violence and two as nurses that have taken care of others in this situation, whether directly in ER or a patient suffering from PTSD with other health problems as well.

    I applaud the survivor's bravery and her impact statement that has gone public. I hope this will comfort other survivors, but even more I hope this will discourage rape in general. Campus rapes are common and rapes at frats are in the news frequently. Once again a college athlete got off with just a slap on the wrist, although I don't think he counted on all the negative publicity this case has garnered.

    What disturbs me the most is the letters of the parents to the judge. The father's don't punish him for 20 minutes of action. Then the mother's letter, who by the way is a nurse for gynecological surgeries and in the past as a pediatric nurse, who had not one iota of empathy for the victim. Her letter simply astonished me. I can't believe as a woman, as a nurse, as a mother of a daughter she had no empathy for the victim! This troubles me the most! I imagine in her years as a nurse she must have taken care of a rape victim and her total lack of empathy for the victim disturbs me greatly!

    What do the rest of you feel about this?

  • Jun 21

    Quote from JaxJax5423
    yup. I actually work at a great hospital that is staffed well. But some of a these demands from parents are unbelievable. And in addition to my patient care......I was asked to audit charts, replace iv pumps for biomed, edit and review a new welcome letter, start a draft for a presentation on iv infiltration. REALLY! So I'm biomed, education, and management too. Without the pay!

    So I may not have 6 patients, but they require our Involvement in everything.

    I'm only 5 years in and part time.....feeling on the road to burn out.
    Sounds like you have to get assertive and learn to say no to all the extra demands! Practice, just say no!

  • Jun 20

    I'm surprised there has been no mention of the Stanford rape trial and sentence on all nurses. I'm opening up the discussion as I feel it pertains to us in many ways. One as people who may have been victims or know others who have been victims of sexual violence and two as nurses that have taken care of others in this situation, whether directly in ER or a patient suffering from PTSD with other health problems as well.

    I applaud the survivor's bravery and her impact statement that has gone public. I hope this will comfort other survivors, but even more I hope this will discourage rape in general. Campus rapes are common and rapes at frats are in the news frequently. Once again a college athlete got off with just a slap on the wrist, although I don't think he counted on all the negative publicity this case has garnered.

    What disturbs me the most is the letters of the parents to the judge. The father's don't punish him for 20 minutes of action. Then the mother's letter, who by the way is a nurse for gynecological surgeries and in the past as a pediatric nurse, who had not one iota of empathy for the victim. Her letter simply astonished me. I can't believe as a woman, as a nurse, as a mother of a daughter she had no empathy for the victim! This troubles me the most! I imagine in her years as a nurse she must have taken care of a rape victim and her total lack of empathy for the victim disturbs me greatly!

    What do the rest of you feel about this?

  • Jun 20

    Quote from lifelearningrn
    It did bother me that the mother's letter to the judge was really an "all about me" narrative where she talks about how she can't even decorate her new home because of what happened. It was so self-centered, "why him; why me; why us????" I imagine the victim thinks that every, single day.

    How is the son framing this incident? He has convinced his parents it was consensual? That both him and this girl were having consensual sex behind a dumpster??
    No one would have consensual sex behind or around a dumpster! He treated her like she was garbage, raping her beside a dumpster! Thankfully two heroes appeared that put an end to the rape, stopped him from running away, and ensured she was given the medical care she needed.

    That his parents would either buy his lies or simply not care about the victim to protect their son makes me ill! The father's letter screams whats the big deal, while the mom's letter is ridiculous like she was trying to have him canonized for sainthood! Then the woe is me and woe is my poor family, I can't even decorate my house I'm so upset! Really! Really!

  • Jun 20

    Quote from arc1
    Whoa. Uhh no. I hope that does not happen to him. Vengeance is not the answer.
    I agree with you. I just wish this world was a better place where rape didn't happen period! I just hope the victim's impact letter opened his eyes to all the pain his actions of "20 minutes" have caused.

    What troubles me is he did not show any real regret and instead was focused on his losses, as if he was the victim. His family and friends who wrote letters to the judge did the same. One letter tried to minimize what he did as drunk college kids getting carried away vs a "real" rape like a kidnapping and rape. Rape is rape!

    In my years I know of too many woman who have been victims of rape. I helped a fellow college student who had been gang raped and then dropped off at the dorm go to the ER to be treated. She had been acting in a play with these men who she thought of as friends and they turned around and raped her and then dumped her off at the dorm like she was nothing! As a nurse I heard of many others struggling from pasts of sexual abuse and rape as both children and adults. This is such a prevalent problem and many times it goes unreported.

    I'm just so tired of hearing of these rapes by college athletes who seem to think the world owes them whatever they want and they can just take it without consequence! It galled me all the coverage about what he lost; his coveted chance to go to the olympics, his scholarship at Stanford, his chance to be an orthopedic surgeon. The mom even cried about not being able to enjoy decorating her new house because of this, someone suggested paint it jail house orange. lol They even had the gall to set up a go fund me type account to help pay the lawyers fees. I heard the dad was planning to appeal the verdict when it was clear his son lied about consensual sex! I'm glad the jury saw through his lies. It sickens me what jury trials put the victim through. She expected him to take a plea deal and admit his guilt and here he gets a lesser sentence after being convicted of three felonies!

  • Jun 19

    Quote from Keracee
    My dad could only finish 2 years of college as he had a full ride scholarship for football but after his accident they took it away from him. He wants me to go to college and he offered to co-sign on my loans.
    He is well meaning but foolish. If he is on disability he doesn't have a lot of money to begin with and private loans probably wouldn't approve the loan with him as a cosigner. But parent plus loans are different, they don't care what a person makes or even if they are working, they will give any amount of loan out that the college suggests above and beyond the cost of the school as long as the parent doesn't have bad credit. It wasn't that long ago that they didn't even look at someone's credit and just gave them out like candy!

    The problem is when he can't pay them he will default and then they will garnish what little disability he has. Don't do it. Find another way to go to school.

  • Jun 18

    Quote from roser13
    Policy is not law. Companies can certainly make their own policies and require that employees abide by them or risk termination. Policies have nothing to do with law.
    The policy to forbid you to discuss your pay is actually against the law. The federal law allows all employees to share and discuss wages. The National Labor Relations Board enforces it and it applies to all employees not just union workers!

    That said sharing pay info among employees may lead to bad morale especially if someone finds themselves underpaid. You can find a lot of good info about salaries thru such sites as glassdoor.com, payscale.com or even indeed.com!

    PS If you have the good fortune of working for a union you are told about the pay ranges for your position upfront no guessing and if you have a really good union you will know how many years it will take to reach the max!

    Also the hospital has to put its cards on the table and share its financial data with the union during negotiations as well.

  • Jun 18

    It's hard to believe nurses are professionals when we are subjected to time clocks and God forbid if we punch in even a minute late! Ridiculous! How many people are working off the clock over fear and threats re overtime! I refuse to work off the clock. I do my best to get out on time, heck because after 1

  • Jun 17

    Quote from Kooky Korky
    What would be wrong about women being modest? Circumspect? Sensible? Regulating their alcohol intake? Not getting rip roaring wasted with drugs or ETOH? Can people always have our cake and eat it, too?

    It is a lie that people, especially women because of the biological facts of life, can have it all all the time, in every case. At least, that is my opinion.

    There is much information about rape culture that I didn't think about before reading this thread, so thanks to those who shared this info.

    I still think it would be wise for a woman to live more sedately.
    Even modestly dressed women have been raped. You are buying into the rape culture myth that woman who are attractive and sexy are asking for it. Your solution is we all wear a burka? Guess what even those woman get raped and then are blamed for it by the Muslim system wear woman have no rights whatsoever.

    Why should women live more sedately? You have some strange, non mainstream ideas. Perhaps if the rapist hadn't drank so much he wouldn't have raped her, at least that is his excuse!

  • Jun 17

    Quote from arc1
    Whoa. Uhh no. I hope that does not happen to him. Vengeance is not the answer.
    I agree with you. I just wish this world was a better place where rape didn't happen period! I just hope the victim's impact letter opened his eyes to all the pain his actions of "20 minutes" have caused.

    What troubles me is he did not show any real regret and instead was focused on his losses, as if he was the victim. His family and friends who wrote letters to the judge did the same. One letter tried to minimize what he did as drunk college kids getting carried away vs a "real" rape like a kidnapping and rape. Rape is rape!

    In my years I know of too many woman who have been victims of rape. I helped a fellow college student who had been gang raped and then dropped off at the dorm go to the ER to be treated. She had been acting in a play with these men who she thought of as friends and they turned around and raped her and then dumped her off at the dorm like she was nothing! As a nurse I heard of many others struggling from pasts of sexual abuse and rape as both children and adults. This is such a prevalent problem and many times it goes unreported.

    I'm just so tired of hearing of these rapes by college athletes who seem to think the world owes them whatever they want and they can just take it without consequence! It galled me all the coverage about what he lost; his coveted chance to go to the olympics, his scholarship at Stanford, his chance to be an orthopedic surgeon. The mom even cried about not being able to enjoy decorating her new house because of this, someone suggested paint it jail house orange. lol They even had the gall to set up a go fund me type account to help pay the lawyers fees. I heard the dad was planning to appeal the verdict when it was clear his son lied about consensual sex! I'm glad the jury saw through his lies. It sickens me what jury trials put the victim through. She expected him to take a plea deal and admit his guilt and here he gets a lesser sentence after being convicted of three felonies!

  • Jun 16

    Quote from Kooky Korky
    What would be wrong about women being modest? Circumspect? Sensible? Regulating their alcohol intake? Not getting rip roaring wasted with drugs or ETOH? Can people always have our cake and eat it, too?

    It is a lie that people, especially women because of the biological facts of life, can have it all all the time, in every case. At least, that is my opinion.

    There is much information about rape culture that I didn't think about before reading this thread, so thanks to those who shared this info.

    I still think it would be wise for a woman to live more sedately.
    Even modestly dressed women have been raped. You are buying into the rape culture myth that woman who are attractive and sexy are asking for it. Your solution is we all wear a burka? Guess what even those woman get raped and then are blamed for it by the Muslim system wear woman have no rights whatsoever.

    Why should women live more sedately? You have some strange, non mainstream ideas. Perhaps if the rapist hadn't drank so much he wouldn't have raped her, at least that is his excuse!


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