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Snels50, BSN, MSN, APRN, NP 407 Views

Joined: Jul 12, '17; Posts: 10 (60% Liked) ; Likes: 17

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    llg, Hygiene Queen, Crush, and 2 others like this.

    Be sure you pay yourself first and have money direct deposited in your retirement account. Retirement will come sooner than you think.

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    Horseshoe likes this.

    You can't do anything about your husband. Not a thing. Take care of yourself. Eat healthy and exercise. Make sure you are set up financially. Make sure his insurance and benefits cover you in the event of his death. Is your will in order? Do you know how to pay bills and income taxes? Are you contributing to your own retirement fund?

    My husband of 40 years did nothing to take care of his health except to go to the doctor, take pills, and walk leisurely. His drug of choice was ice cream. He managed a severe anxiety disorder by eating, then going into a food stupor. His health started to deteriorate over 6 months or so. It was gradual and hard to tell because he was already nearly disabled and SOB due to his 300+ pounds. Then he showed me his legs one February day. They looked like tree trunks. Seven weeks to the day later, he was dead of bile duct cancer, liver, and renal failure.

    it was really hard, I took care of him round the clock for 7 weeks. No treatment, by the time we saw oncology, the only recommendation was hospice.

    Somehow I always knew my husband wouldn't live to retirement. I had prepared for being alone. Make sure you do too.

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    Kitiger and Emergent like this.

    I had my knee replaced 3 months ago. Oh my God, the pain. I was not prepared for how much it was going to hurt and how long I would have no energy. They don't really tell you that in the beautiful book the surgery center gave me. They did some pretty good medication teaching. Except they gave terrible advice on laxatives. They aren't kidding about the constipation. Senokot is what worked finally, for me. I had hallucinations on oxycodone. I thought there was a fire in my living room. And physical therapy pushing you to do your exercises. I hated my therapist because he had no compassion. After a couple more weeks I realized he was compassionate. I think it's hard for them to push knee patients. I had my surgery in a new surgery center. It was pretty innovative. They gave lots of meds pre-op and in the recovery room. Great job, I felt pretty good waking up. Used a bedpan for the first time in my life in the recovery room. I didn't appreciate being put out almost immediately after I got on the operating table. I would have liked to look around a bit. Greatful for lots of information on the web. It helped me to know what to expect. This nurse practitioner who thought she knew everything needed more comprehensive information.

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    Yes, it's disrespectful and demeaning. But realistically, when I used to work full time and every shift I saw different patients, sometimes I had a hard time remembering names. So, I would say "honey" instead of risking calling Mrs. Smith Mrs. Jones. And folks who may be sundowning a bit may not respond well to Mr. or Mrs. or Miss.

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    Beth1978, Rocknurse, hamolady, and 1 other like this.

    So this is a power and control issue and yes, this is a bigger issue than just going to nursing school. Your husband may be verbally and emotionally abusive. This isn't just nursing school, this is the rest of your life.

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    AlabamaBelle likes this.

    What could you have done differently? Considered alcohol withdrawal in your differential. Big missed diagnosis by the doc.

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    "Night shift is hard on the body and mind. You should be taking care of yourself.

    If boyfriend does not understand that.. you need to rest and recharge, you need a new boyfriend."

    Totally agree with this. And if he never gets it, certainly don't marry him.

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    mudd68, xoemmylouox, loriannprice, and 1 other like this.

    "At some point, many of us dream of working from home, coffee cup in hand, in a hoodie and yoga pants. Fortunately, there really are many opportunities."

    As a matter of fact, this is exactly what I do. I never would have dreamed this 41 years ago when I became an RN. Fast forward to 4 years ago, I received an e-mail from LinkedIn and this job ad caught my eye "Nurse practitioners, work from home in your pajamas!" As I thought to myself, "Yeah, right" I clicked on the ad and discovered it was from a major health provider in my area and it was perfect for me. I was hired and have been working for this employer for 3 years.

    I do online convenience care exclusively from home by computer. I diagnose common conditions, prescribe meds when necessary and refer if it's not a condition we treat. I am licensed as an RN and NP in 12 states. Since I live in MN, I never worry about the weather. I work per diem and pretty much work when and how much I want. I plan to hang on to this job until I retire.

    We have great comeraderie. We maintain a chat open with our co-workers during our shifts for consulting with each other, asking questions, and coordinating with the tech staff.