2nd week and cliques already?

  1. 0 Hey everyone,a little about me:

    I have been rummaging this site for a few months now and am finally in nursing school. We just hit the 2nd week mark and needless to say, I am feeling disillusioned. I am 25 and consider myself a quiet, intellectual and interesting person. I come from a background in EMS and was taught from the medical model.

    The girls in my class are VERY loud, talk over the instructors (who have infinitely more experience), and have righteously joined little "cliques". I am starting to feel isolated because i dont have one. I just feel that I am different from everyone else. Everybody complains about how "hard" the readings are and how so and so teacher got an attitude with them. I, on the other hand find the workload rudimentary in nature and not difficult at all. I don't throw this in people's faces and stay quiet most of the time. I also try to help some people who are struggling.

    So my question is:
    Should I try to fit in or not?

    Thanks for all your replies
    Last edit by Joe V on Jan 21, '13 : Reason: removed bold
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  3. Visit  Scorpio8932} profile page

    About Scorpio8932

    Joined May '12; Posts: 2.

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  4. Visit  rebeccaann} profile page
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    Im in my second term , and as you explained with your class mine is the same there are people that are very disruptive and just like back in high school they make little groups. I sit by myself and focus on my work and such by myself i don't get myself into all the drama I'm there to get my education and move on. I wouldn't be too worried if you don't find a clique as you will most likely just be more distracted that way.
    Red35 likes this.
  5. Visit  RN 12/12} profile page
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    My nursing class started out like this, and like you, I felt very disillusioned because I didn't think people wanting to be healthcare professionals would be this way. I didn't make friends at first because I felt like I couldn't trust anyone. I don't know if it will end up being the same way for you, but by the time we graduated, we were one of the closest classes our professors had seen during their time at my school. Sad to say, but it took some of the people who caused drama to fail before we were able to all bond together. Keep your head up...a lot of people act like the way you're describing when they are nervous and feel like they have to prove something. Hopefully you will get to experience what I did with my class because it is so wonderful to feel like you have those people supporting you- even after you graduate.
  6. Visit  Mrsladysoul83} profile page
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    I wouldnt worry about it, im in my 3rd semester & im not part or dont want to be a part of a clique! Im 29 & the 2nd oldest person in my class & my only focus is PASSING CLASS, SCHOOL & BOARDS! i sit up front @ a long table by myself. I dont like mess or drama & in order for my name not to be associated with either i choose to listen to my music & read until the teacher starts teaching. Yeah it may come out as being anti social but I DONT CARE i dont have time for that. I talk to 1 other person & thats because she got kicked out the "clique" she was in because she told them she didnt want to study with them anymore because all they was doing gossiping & not studying & so they not only quit talking to her but moved from sitting by her too! SO KINDERGARDENISH! if u just want to be a part of something, get with a person that has the same goals in mind that you do other than that ITS ALL GOOD!
  7. Visit  Scorpio8932} profile page
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    Thanks for the replies!

    It's interesting because even the instructors felt the need to point out that it's rather
    premature for cliques to be forming. Even more interesting is that the "women" who act like
    this are the older ones with kids and have been cna's forever. I think that as a whole
    my class is very immature. I do talk here and there with a couple people who are quiet
    and serious about their education. The problem is, their not in my cohort! So I'm stuck
    in labs with big mouths. So when we have a ten or fifteen minute break, I use that to
    read!

    My peers in EMT school were very different than my nursing school counterparts. Most
    of them were laid back, serious about medicine and we all got along swimmingly. By the end
    we were all soo close. It's funny because I do end up sitting by myself in lab because they
    just talk TOO MUCH. I know I come off as anti social but I'm planning to go to the bsn level
    and don't have time for high school dalliances.
  8. Visit  blauren91} profile page
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    I'm only four days into my program and cliques formed the second day. Regardless of your opinion of your classmates, there are several different personalities in there and I'm sure there are others who are similar to yourself. I wouldn't isolate yourself because these people are now your family and a huge support group. You'll need them throughout the program so try and find something in common with them. It's still too eat to pin people's personalities. I have a hard time relating to others because I'm a timid person and I was certain I wouldn't make friends but I did! Good luck! I hope you find a little group of your own
  9. Visit  MrsP, RN} profile page
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    My program started out this way too... Just keep being YOU and do what you need to do. As time passes, things will get better. All people are good at different things, and eventually everyone will learn this and help each other. My class ended up being VERY close regardless of how we started out
  10. Visit  Philly_LPN_Girl} profile page
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    My program sounds like your program, the teacher has to constantly tell the class to be quiet like every ten minutes, the immature cliques, and everyone complaining about the work when it was easy to me. Just keep your head up, dont worry about the cliques, and set yourself apart from everybody
  11. Visit  nitasarn} profile page
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    No. You dont have to do anything different. I was the same way, when I was in undergrad I stayed mostly to myself, then one day while studying a girl approach me having trouble in anatomy and ask for my help. She ended up being my closest dearest best friend. Sometimes it helps not being part of the cliques, so when the teacher start talking about cheating and people doing tests in groups, your not involved.....
  12. Visit  Compassion_x} profile page
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    I've seen this somewhat in my program, but not many are rude to the instructors. Most of the cliques I've seen consist of people who were friends before nursing school. I've found that I've made many more friends from clinicals than just sitting in class. There's more time to talk and get to know each other and if you have more medical experience than the people in your clinical groups, they will want to use that to their advantage and ask you for help. And that doesn't necessarily mean they're "using" you, either, as I've made some friends that way. Use your judgment, of course.
  13. Visit  Esme12} profile page
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    Quote from Scorpio8932
    Thanks for the replies!

    It's interesting because even the instructors felt the need to point out that it's rather
    premature for cliques to be forming. Even more interesting is that the "women" who act like
    this are the older ones with kids and have been cna's forever. I think that as a whole
    my class is very immature. I do talk here and there with a couple people who are quiet
    and serious about their education. The problem is, their not in my cohort! So I'm stuck
    in labs with big mouths. So when we have a ten or fifteen minute break, I use that to
    read!

    My peers in EMT school were very different than my nursing school counterparts. Most
    of them were laid back, serious about medicine and we all got along swimmingly. By the end
    we were all soo close. It's funny because I do end up sitting by myself in lab because they
    just talk TOO MUCH. I know I come off as anti social but I'm planning to go to the bsn level
    and don't have time for high school dalliances.
    YOu are not in nursing school to make friends but you need to be friendly. I am not surprised......Man is a pack animal by nature ....I have always found those that feel the most vulnerable/insecure/intimidated/weak are the ones who develop a pack around them for they feel "stronger" in packs.

    Be friendly but you don't have to "belong". remember this too shall pass...I wish you the best ((HUGS))
    CallieNM likes this.
  14. Visit  Crazed} profile page
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    You should try to get along, but not fit in. Here's the reason why - I think that the most important skill in nursing is the ability to communicate with just about anyone. For me I become disheartened when it seems like my efforts to communicate are misplaced. Communication for me at times is exhausting.

    I am repeating a semester now and what I've found is some of these people are down right rude. They treat me as if I don't exist. I wonder how that translates to clinical. The truly funny part is others who know people currently in different levels of the program tell them, "Oh man you're so lucky to have Crazed in your class with you."

    Those people are nicer but it's still not the same.

    Over time these things will change. People tend to bond over shared experience.
  15. Visit  Prettybrowngirl} profile page
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    There's much good advice here--I especially loved the quote up top that you're not there to make friends but need to be friendly. Your description of yourself sounds so much like me! When I did my LPN there were 60 or more that started. Our class finished with around 11 people, and a few of those were transfer in!

    Don't worry about the cliques--focus on your personal reason for being there and surround yourself with others in lecture and study groups, that are serious too. Trust me: The instructors/professors do watch and know exactly what's going on! When they see that you are very interested in what you're learning by your grades and demeanor, they will take a vested interest in you--I know this from experience. Those that are just there for a social club and who complain a lot will often start failing or dropping out.

    Keep your focus and you'll do great!!


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