Ten Ways To Know You're Burning Out - page 5

Here's something a little different from the writer who usually brings you the funny top-10 lists. Recently, a good friend of mine I'll call "Viv"---an LPN who's worked at the same LTC for... Read More

  1. Visit  PPAA profile page
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    Oh gosh, after reading that i guess i'm burning out, lol.
  2. Visit  julieanneb profile page
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    I am new here. In fact,this is my 1st post. I have been a homecare nurse for the same company coming up on 9yrs. october 15th. And b4 i rant,please forgive my poor typing skills. I do not like computers nor do i like typing(this will lead up to part of my story) I was dx with ms in 2009. It was no big deal at the time. I felt fine and it hadnt sunk in. Than 2 months after dx,my mother dx with multiple myeloma and died 3 Thursdays to the day after dx. Went right back to work. Than in homecare we went from paper charting to computer charting,had to take a computer class while still in a haze from the mom's death. So,I'm trucking along,lugging a supid computer into my pts. home,performing infusions,wound vacs,etc....than charting on a computer after all that. If I wanted to be a computer whiz,I would have gone into computer science and not nursing! Okay,so,all the grief therapists telling me take some time off,use your pto(still hadnt even dealt with the ms dx,going back to work right after she died was good for me. Now,I am not telling my story for sympathy,just wanting to get across the insane burn out. And all of this is gonna be so hard to believe,but I promise you,it really happened. So,dx of ms in june,mom died in august,go back to work,take computer class in october,than I have a miscarriage,didn't know I was pg,was having a period and than starting bleeding heavily,trip to e.r. blah blah blah. So,after the miscarriage,had to do a round of salumedrol and decided ya know what,I have 120hours of pto time,it's time. Well,my company was unsure how to keep track of pto via the computer,and all my pto was gone. I wasnt paying attention to my paystubs,which list how much pto is used,My bad,I was a little out of my head,and just knew I hadnt taken anytime off and I have a lot of pto time left. I went to hr,vice president,and they admitted the mistake,I begged to please figure this out or I am headed to nuthouse. They suggested fmla for the ms,to cover their own mistake. GREAT! fmla. I dont know bout u guys,but i need to get paid. So,i took no time off. Now,fastforward to 2011. The ms is now hitting me,I have gone down to the lowest amount of hours that will still allow insurance. Can you say BURNT OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am working to pay for m.d. appts,injections,etc...All the while,infusing MS pts.,cancer,u name it. I am trapped,because I need the insurance. But meanwhile,I loathe nursing at this point,my health is going down the tubes d/t burnout which is making the MS progress. I am engaged,but we are like every other person in his economy,we need 2 incomes. And let me tell ya,I live simpy. I at one time surfed daily,ran marathons,taught pilates.....Now,I take care of sicko's,only to get sicker. I am on a hamster wheel. In addition to this,I have had 4 of the computers provided to us,slip out of my hand,as you know you drop alot of crap with ms,and I am responsible for the cost of the cracked screen. If someone told me 2morrow,julie,you no longer have 2 be a nurse,i think i would feel the relief that a person must feel that has been on death row for 9 years than was suddenly found innocent d/t dna!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Again,my words may be jumbled in this post,my spelling may be off,and I am sorry. burnout burnout burnout!
  3. Visit  julieanneb profile page
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    Quote from mysticalmoonray
    Thank you for posting this!!! I've been bummed out so badly for the past few months and couldn't figure out why. I work weekends and like others have posted it takes the whole week to de-stress. I also always think, talk, and dream about work in nightmares. I have anxiety and find myself taking my medication mainly after I get to work. It's really noticable since my fiance tells me to stop focusing and talking about the horrors of work since it gets me so worked up. Needless to say I'm looking for work elsewhere, even looking outside of nursing. Just for a change of scenery and I would much rather be doing something I really enjoy for less pay, then putting myself under such stress for a little more.
    I would rather sell tacky rugs on the side of the road than continue to be a nurse.
  4. Visit  julieanneb profile page
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    Quote from jadelee
    I don't agree, while relaxing and not being at work is great, there are nursing jobs out there, where you can look forward to going to work. How easy they are too get, where you live is a different matter. I think the problem above isn't the work itself's but the balance between work and everything else. It would be nice, but ? utopia to live in a world where you could work 70% of the time,. etc and have 30 % off for example. but the world economy is built on needing full time work to just pay the bills.
    Nursing jobs that I would look forward 2 would be a low dose morphine drip,some tequila,my favorite band,and all my friends, That is the only nursing job I would look 4ward 2. But I do admire your positive attitude.
  5. Visit  Veronica11 profile page
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    I greatly sympathize with all nurses experiencing burn out. I could relate to most of the things expressed by everyone, only my job was not in nursing but in social services. I too quit my job unexpectedly like the subject of this post. I didn't plan or have thoughts of doing so in this tough economy, but yet I have no regrets. Like her, I knew I couldn't go on the way I was. I am now researching new fields to get into, which brought me to this website. Thanks to everyone who shared their experience. Your words are invaluable. I would not want to get myself in the same situation again in another career. I hope you all learn to care for yourselves as well as you care for your patients.
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  6. Visit  SJC1 profile page
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    Important topic to cover. Burn out can quickly deteriorate the environment.
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  7. Visit  julieanneb profile page
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    Quote from suanna
    I think you were respnding to post, not the orignator of the thread. I'm not suicidal - I just am old enough to see a time when my health will not allow me to provide for my families lifestyle and enjoyment without not having the strength or time to participate in it with them. I can honestly say that death is preferable to struggeling to achieve a life not worth living. Nursing is a difficult profession and if we do it for a career, most of us are going to be old in body long before we are in years. I have enjoyed much of my practice and ALL of my time with my family. In recent years work is the sacrifice I make to provide for my family's joy. When I can no longer provide for their welfare I would rather "shuffle off this mortal coil" than have "...neither life diminished, nor love halved, nor honour abated" If I can remain healthy enough to live another 40 years and still work to enhance our lifestyle I will, I just don't see his as likely.
    Work is more and more a burden that takes me away from the things and people I love. It is a means to enable me to provide for those people. It is fast approaching that I will no longer be physicaly able to use work for that purpose and when that time comes I don't want to be a burden to my loved ones. I would rather they remembered me as a generous provider and a loving parent/spouse than the cause to thier poverty and sacrifice in my failing years. I know I'm burnt out - it's what happens to a lightbub you leave on for too long. It isn't the fault of the darkness it is just a fact of life.
    Well put! And it cracks me up that people give advice like..."go pamper yourself,go take a long walk" I love this one......."Light a candle and turn off all noise and meditate" I call a spade a spade,it's not a negative attitude,it's fact! And what if there is nothing you can do about burn out? what if you just have to keep working or you find yourself uninsured with multiple sclerosis(me)and have all th stupid meds to take,and cannot be homeless and have gone thru all your savings d/t the fmla time taken off,most of it without pay cuz you used your pto time for sick days?
  8. Visit  ICU1 profile page
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    Quote from KeepingItRealEeyore
    Thank you for posting this. I know exactly how your friend "Viv" feels. I myself have debated on faxing in my resignation letter and not looking back, but I can't due to the economy. I'm getting tired of dealing with rude staff and rude patients who think they are at a hotel or something. I'm also tired of management having grandios ideas that are unrealistic for the nursing profession.

    this post is the post that really gets to the heart of the problem that Nursing is facing and it only is going to get worse.

    management (I've been in management). Management at many places... totally lacks any imagination.(That's why I quit that job) New medicare law? Throw more paperwork at nurses (only now it's data entry) Many of us never thought when we went into nursing we would spend hours a shift at a computer. No matter what anyone tells you. Key strokes take longer than paper charting. Why do you think doctors don't type out their progress reports? Because they haven't been bullied into it.
    So throw more and more charting (data entry) at a nurse, and then complain to nurses that press ganey scores aren't high enough?
    Well GEEEEEE....I WONDER WHY? Here's my favorite...you have computers in the room to chart on, and then managament tells you not to act like the computer is the most important thing. lolololol. UNBELIEVABLE.

    And she also has a point about patients thinking they are at a hotel. For me it's not the majority of patients, not even close....but here's the problem. ONE of those patients can manipulate an entire shift.
    Ever been called into a room to move a pillow for a patient that's completely capable of moving themselves? Or, another one of my favorites...you ask they patient if there is anything else you can get for them, and they call you 5 minutes later for a milk.

    Look folks, it's pretty simple....it's all about money, it always is. Nurses are exploited, treated like children despite being highly skilled and/or experienced and unless they happen to work for good managers, have absolutely no say about patient loads that are dangerously heavy...or for that matter, have much say about anything. (Unless in a union)

    What's that all add up to? Danger for the nurse and unfortunately the one thing ironically, we are there to prevent, potentially dangerous outcomes for the patient that the nurse has not had the time to keep a closer eye on.

    And please don't bore me with the "negative attitude" lecture. I'm a realist...I also love being a nurse, but I know the deal.

    Nothing will change until Nurses function like Doctors. YOU group together and you CONTRACT with a hospital. YOU dictate safe acuity measures, YOU dictate break times. YOU work with hospitals to decide how best to produce patient satisfaction, and high productivity. Those are things that many if not all Unions don't even do.

    None of that means you won't be busy, but what it does is empower nurses...which translates to better patient care, better patient outcomes, happier nurses and happier patients.
    It's time to take control of the profession, as a country of nurses. Not a union here or there.
    Lives depend on it. That's why we are here.
    And I will say it again, it is ONLY going to get worse without MAJOR changes

    It's time to get bold. Think big and stop being battered from every side.
    eyeball, fantasyworld, VivaLasViejas, and 1 other like this.
  9. Visit  phred25 profile page
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    hi, yes,i am there!!! but what can i do if i can't do nursing??? i am willing to learn and i have many skills after being a nurse for 20 years...i tried home health and i liked it, BUT the summer heat was too much for me(old people like it HOT and can not afford a/c) i feel all used-up!!! like i have nothing left to give. can you think of something that i can do??? counciling sounds good but without an income, i am too scared to think...i am lookimg for work but i can not get unemployment...they said that i don't qualify...i have never been out of work before so i am lost. can you tell me who to call for help??? thanks
  10. Visit  julieanneb profile page
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    Quote from ICU1
    this post is the post that really gets to the heart of the problem that Nursing is facing and it only is going to get worse.

    management (I've been in management). Management at many places... totally lacks any imagination.(That's why I quit that job) New medicare law? Throw more paperwork at nurses (only now it's data entry) Many of us never thought when we went into nursing we would spend hours a shift at a computer. No matter what anyone tells you. Key strokes take longer than paper charting. Why do you think doctors don't type out their progress reports? Because they haven't been bullied into it.
    So throw more and more charting (data entry) at a nurse, and then complain to nurses that press ganey scores aren't high enough?
    Well GEEEEEE....I WONDER WHY? Here's my favorite...you have computers in the room to chart on, and then managament tells you not to act like the computer is the most important thing. lolololol. UNBELIEVABLE.

    And she also has a point about patients thinking they are at a hotel. For me it's not the majority of patients, not even close....but here's the problem. ONE of those patients can manipulate an entire shift.
    Ever been called into a room to move a pillow for a patient that's completely capable of moving themselves? Or, another one of my favorites...you ask they patient if there is anything else you can get for them, and they call you 5 minutes later for a milk.

    Look folks, it's pretty simple....it's all about money, it always is. Nurses are exploited, treated like children despite being highly skilled and/or experienced and unless they happen to work for good managers, have absolutely no say about patient loads that are dangerously heavy...or for that matter, have much say about anything. (Unless in a union)

    What's that all add up to? Danger for the nurse and unfortunately the one thing ironically, we are there to prevent, potentially dangerous outcomes for the patient that the nurse has not had the time to keep a closer eye on.

    And please don't bore me with the "negative attitude" lecture. I'm a realist...I also love being a nurse, but I know the deal.

    Nothing will change until Nurses function like Doctors. YOU group together and you CONTRACT with a hospital. YOU dictate safe acuity measures, YOU dictate break times. YOU work with hospitals to decide how best to produce patient satisfaction, and high productivity. Those are things that many if not all Unions don't even do.

    None of that means you won't be busy, but what it does is empower nurses...which translates to better patient care, better patient outcomes, happier nurses and happier patients.
    It's time to take control of the profession, as a country of nurses. Not a union here or there.
    Lives depend on it. That's why we are here.
    And I will say it again, it is ONLY going to get worse without MAJOR changes

    It's time to get bold. Think big and stop being battered from every side.
    This post is brilliant! My job that I have been at for 9 years,decided to go 2 computers. Im in homecare. I am not talking hand-held,small,nifty little devices,but large,heavy laptops. Not the sleek,light-weight laptops,but huge. So,in addition to seeing the pt.,we now have the added BS of carrying this T.V. size contraption in2 the home! really? And all the casemanagers,whom have not worked in the field with this,umm,thing(I dont even know what to call it,took it by a computer store and all the computer geeks were floored and wanted to weigh it and had never seen anything like it) have no idea,none,of the added work a keystroke as well as the crap this computer has caused! I have spoken up,I get looked at as though I should go live in the woods away from the world cuz I am nnot "up to date" with technology. So,I keep going down to the lowest amount of hours i can work to keep insurance,and this computer is still causing more work! I take care of people,I am a nurse,who takes care of me??????????? YOUR POST IS BRILLIANT!
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  11. Visit  amdale profile page
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    I have not been a nurse very long 1.5 yrs. I work on a med/surge floor. It is an extremely tough floor to work. As I am told the worst floor in the hospital and possible in the county. I am already feeling burnt out according to the list provided and can't believe it. I generally think of myself as strong, though I know can be a push over. So to feel this way about a career that I thought I would love is frustrating and depressing. I feel so overwhelmed at times that I am afraid to try other aspects of nursing. I feel stuck. It seems if I can't do nursing here I will fail elsewhere as well. Any suggestions?
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  12. Visit  julieanneb profile page
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    Quote from amdale
    I have not been a nurse very long 1.5 yrs. I work on a med/surge floor. It is an extremely tough floor to work. As I am told the worst floor in the hospital and possible in the county. I am already feeling burnt out according to the list provided and can't believe it. I generally think of myself as strong, though I know can be a push over. So to feel this way about a career that I thought I would love is frustrating and depressing. I feel so overwhelmed at times that I am afraid to try other aspects of nursing. I feel stuck. It seems if I can't do nursing here I will fail elsewhere as well. Any suggestions?
    Thats the curse of nursing. It sucks you in,you feel like a quitter,you feel you are a bad person if you want out of it! I have often imagined winning th lottery and thinking I would cry tears of joy if I never had to be a nurse again. Than this voice comes in my head,the voice goes like this "Oh,i would work maybe 2 days a week prn,or,I cant leave nursing completely" Thats the nursing curse. I am sure there have been studies on what I speak of. There has to have been. Florence Nightingale is probably rolling over in her grave d/t what nursing has become. you work on a tuff floor,you've put your year in,can you think of any other avenue of nursing you would like? You will not fail if you tried another area of nursing,your just in "the nursing curse"....and man oh man it can make you feel stuck. And maybe your afraid of trying another area of nursing cuz your so beat down by the med-surge floor? And,maybe your afraid of trying another area cuz u may realize you still dislike nursing all together and than what would you do? Thats part of the nursing curse. I see all these new grads,bright eyed,excited to "make a difference" only to see them disenchanted. You are not weak. You are strong! You are working in med/surge for crying out loud. DO NOT LET THE PSYCHOLOGY OF THE NURSING CURSE MESS WITH YOU. It's hard,i know. When you did clinicals,do u recall any area of nursing that interested you the most?
  13. Visit  phred25 profile page
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    Hi, sorry you are having a bad time, i do understand. before you give up...go back to school. i love bedside nursing but it is very very stressful. while you are thinking about school, consider going to ICU. they will train you and you will decide if you can do this emotionally and phyically draining job. ICU will teach you how to do what you love and you may fall in love with it...but school will give you the ability to grow in many other directions. good luck no matter what you decide. nursing is not a job...it has a life of its own...it will be who you are...it will influence everything you do.
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