Well Echo maybe it will be helpful to hear another person's story in a similar situation. I'm going back to school for nursing after working 7 years at an IT-based service-bureau. Like you, I was overwhelmed initially by the decisions involved: go for LPN? RN? BSN? Accelerated program? Community college, public university, private college? Also, like you, I am very eager to move from my current state (Iowa) so the prospects of finding a program out of state added to my confusion.
What I found was that all the universities I inquired with had waiting lists. Plus, if I were to go out of state the tuition was a LOT higher.
At the local communitiy colleges, the cost was very very minimal... therefore there is a long waiting list at all of these programs. When I looked at out-of-state community colleges, the tuitions turned out to be blatantly against out-of-state enrollment. The cost of out-of-state community college is often higher than at a private school!
Ah, yes, the private schools. I found that the local private schools were more expensive, but feature smaller classes and also --very important-- no waiting lists! I was able to quickly and easily enroll in school starting this fall, and because I am currently unemployed I qualify for grant money as well as some subsidized government loans. To avoid too much debt I've decided to go for a two-year ASN instead of the BSN.
I've decided to ignore my yearnings to move on to a new state, to avoid the extra expenses and stress that such a move would cause. Nursing is such a wonderfully booming field that I've decided to wait on the move and have my moving expenses covered by my first employer as soon as I graduate and pass boards.
Since you are single and have money from your house sale in hand, you should be able to get through a program with little debt. Even with some debt, though, at least you can be secure in knowing you'll have such a high likelihood of getting a job just out of college. Also, if you are single and interested in traveling, I'd consider working as a travel nurse for a year or two-- a great way to check out areas you might be interested in moving to, while at the same time earning more money that an average nurse position will pay.
Good luck to you!