Student Mom's opinions needed

jenrninmi, MSN, RN · Apr 2, 2004

Savings & I can qualify for a private loan without a co-signer if I apply before I quit my job. The loan and savings will be enough to cover my expenses for the 16 months I am in school. I shouldn't have to work during school.

Good luck to you and let us know what you choose! :nurse:

studentdeb · Apr 2, 2004

Savings & I can qualify for a private loan without a co-signer if I apply before I quit my job. The loan and savings will be enough to cover my expenses for the 16 months I am in school. I shouldn't have to work during school.

Good luck in what you decide. It is so hard to make these types of decisions. I worked full-time and my kids were in daycare and now I am home and honestly I think they had more quality time with me when I worked. I think if you are going to be happier going to school and you have more time at home, it will be better on your son.

Take care

jemommyRN · Apr 2, 2004

I wish you well with whatever decision you make. I know the feeling of being in the presence of my child but not really "spending quality time" with her. I would just pray about it and follow your heart. Whatever you do, don't forget the reason that you are doing it. To be there more for your son. I think that nursing school may be a lot more time consuming than you think so be careful. Try to talk to current students to get a feel of their true schedule. Remember, you are in an accelerated program.

rhiannonwolf · Apr 2, 2004

I wanted to let you know that I have been going through this same exact delimma. Before I got pregnant, I was accepted into an AT program where I live. I was going to enroll in the fall when surprise surprise, there's Ryan! I had to put off school for a year and half, but to me it was worth it. Now, I have a very temperamental 13 month old son who is very attatched to his mother :). What I decided in the end was that the accelerated track would be too difficult for me because of the time constraints. You go to school from sometimes 6:45 in the morning for your clinicals at the hospital, and you don't get home until 4:30 or 5:00 in the evening. Then there is all of the studying that is involved once you get home. It was because of this that I decided on going to school for two years for my BSN, which in most nursing schools you can do if you already have your bachelor's in something else.

I may graduate a year later, but in the end, it is much less stressful on me and my family.

That is my .02

Sincerely,

rhiannonwolf

guest22304 · Apr 3, 2004

Is moving in with your mom an option? My husband & I sold our house, moved in with my father and we are both going to school. My son is 3 years old, and I am so glad not to be working full time at a dead end job anymore while he goes to daycare M-F 7:30am to 5:30pm. I enjoy being home with him, although he goes to a preschool from 9am to 12pm Mon thru Fri, just to be with kids and have fun. Like alot of others said, I think it is worth it to wait another year. Good luck! I know its tough. What about financial aid? Can you qualify for any?

mitchsmom · Apr 3, 2004

Remember, "consistency" can also be in your routine and habits *together* as well as actual hours getting home, scheduling, etc. At his age he may not notice the difference in 3pm one day and 5pm the next, but he *will* notice if everyday you come home, look at his school papers, eat, have play time (insert special ritual for the two of you), bathe, do reward chart, read a story, go to bed with special song/prayer/whatever... etc. each day consistently (then mom burns the midnight oil studying). One of my sons absolutely HAS to have a routine/consistency or he is just all out of sorts & it has nothing to do with my hours, he's been that way since he was born (I was a stay at home mom his first 5 years). Again, your social worker may also have more insight into your particulars than we can know on here.