Just need some advice and input from other fellow nursing students, especially single mothers.
I'm in my 20s and am about to start nursing program this fall. I have a 4 and 3 year old, which my parents help me very much caring for them. Their father and I are separated, and although I am in a relationship with a very caring person, I do not want to make it their obligation to take care my children while I am in nursing school
. Their father offers no support, and in fact, hasn't even asked to see them for three months, so my relying on him is pretty much close to zero. I currently work full time, but realistically, once I start the program, I do not think I will be able to do this as my job is from 8:00-5:00. Although I have been very blessed to be working for a doctor who is flexible with my schedule, I just do not think that I will be able to keep up financially with my hours being cut for school. My rent for my apartment is pretty steep, and my parents are actually looking to go back to the Philippines and had offered to take my girls with them for a little while during my nursing school. I have given this serious thought, as I want to do well in school, and I know that it is only temporary...two years will fly by. However, it tugs at my heart to know that I won't be there to tuck them into bed at night, or be there to drop them off and pick them up from school like I do now. However, I think to myself.. going to school is not just for me, it's for them. For us all to have a better life, and we will benefit from my absence. So it's not like I will be absent in vain, and during the meantime they can enjoy their time with their grandparents and all the rest of my family in the Philippines. This comforts my thoughts as I know they will be in a great and safe environment. However, it isn't just a car drive away. It's a plane ride away, but I do plan to visit during my breaks, and of course call them daily. I am just weighing the pros and cons into this decision....I won't be as stressed with work and school allowing me to do well, my parents will take good care and watch over them, and they will be able to meet our other family members in the Philippines....but a huge con is that they will not be with me. I can barely go through a whole day without seeing them, much less two years (with visits here and there). My boyfriend has offered to pitch in and help the best he can, but he works full time during the day as well and is also looking to go back to school.
I would like to know what everyone else thinks about this. To the single mothers, how did you do it? Especially to those who really had no one else to help....are there programs that can help me with this? Daycare programs within the school? Financial programs? Any input or advice is welcome.
Thank you for reading.