My life is over!

UM Review RN, ASN, RN · May 6, 2005

I am so so confused. The administrator talked to a group of the administrative nurses, one was the former DON and they all told him that they saw no reason why I shouldn't be allowed to come back to work. I would feel better if the DON and administrator were both working together and had both been there. I have many witnesses that were there while we talked. I feel like they are playing mommy against daddy. I agreed to go in tonight and work 11-7 but I am still wary of that place. I would love to call the DON but I hate her and it isn't my place to call her and tell her all of this. So many problems and issues.

I'm with Matt's Mom on this, Chad. They did you dirt and you need to wipe your feet of that place and start over somewhere else. You never should've been let go to begin with, and now it appears that they want their cake (to satisfy the "customer," they fired you) and eat it too (you've been asked to come back because they're short).

So what's to stop a repeat of that scenario from happening?

jnette, ASN, EMT-I · May 6, 2005

I'm with Matt's Mom on this, Chad. They did you dirt and you need to wipe your feet of that place and start over somewhere else. You never should've been let go to begin with, and now it appears that they want their cake (to satisfy the "customer," they fired you) and eat it too (you've been asked to come back because they're short).
So what's to stop a repeat of that scenario from happening?

Couldn't agree more !!! Angie and Mattsmom have it right. They are jerking you around BIGtime ! SHAME on them !!! :madface: What a sorry bunch.

I wouldn't trust your DON (or ANY of them for that matter) in a sh*t house with a muzzle on ! :angryfire

Truly sorry about this mess, Chad. I'd insist on having everything removed from your records if they truly mean it and are willing and so eager to reinstate you ...BEFORE you agree to return.. ask to verify that your record has been cleansed of all wrongdoing.

Then, and only then stick it to THEM !

Get YOUR cake now, and eat it !!! Let on like you're willing to return ONLY if they've rescinded on all accusations, cleared your records of all abuse charges and false allegations.. and once you're satisfied they have, then tell them you have reconsidered and feel you can no longer feel comfortable working there, as you have no assurance this will not happen again. Then walk away.

I'd stay as far away from that place as possible.

CHATSDALE · May 6, 2005

call me paranoid but i am afraid that if you go back due to administrator say so then the don is going to be angry about you going over her head

get statement from everyone who might possibly know anything and request that you be shown your folder...you need to know what is in there pro or con

while you are looking over the folder number the pages and then write a paper such as

'REVIEWED DATE TIME SIGNATURE'

if you decide to stay at this facility watch your back

good luck

Regina66 · May 7, 2005

I was involved in a situation about 10 yrs ago. It was at a Nursing Home and it involved myself and 2 other CNA's. The 2 CNA's were best friends for 15yrs who trained me on the bedfast wing. I worked with them for 2 wks before being put on a floor by myself. These friends were mad at each other and one decided to bring up charges of abuse on the other one as punishment. I was questioned by the DON and the State. I had never seen this nice lady abuse anyone, but I was listed as being in the room with her while this abuse was performed. I was scared, but I told the truth and stood by this lady. The charges were dropped and the other aide lost her job. This just goes to show you can never trust anyone completely and you must always cover yourself no matter how long you know someone. (This aide is still working at the same facility and was awarded Aide of the Year 2004.)

LydiaNN · May 7, 2005

I wouldn't go back. This resident left, but what if another difficult one comes along? (I shouldn't even say if, I should say when) Really, do you want to go through this again? It's the administration you need to be worried about! Go with your instinct and stay away!

Chad_KY_SRNA · May 7, 2005

I went in for a 12 hour shift last noc. I still feel awkward.

Twinkie1 · May 7, 2005

I went in for a 12 hour shift last noc. I still feel awkward.

Give it some time.. keep your head up and do your best.If you are still uncomfortable.. look for another job. I personally think that everything will just blow over and it will be like yesterdays news.

Best Wishes :)

Twinkie

hartmoon · May 25, 2005

Last Friday night I worked 10pm-6am and was called in to work at noon. The weekend manager said it was an emergency that she had to talk with me. I go in and they tell me that a resident told day shift that I had been verbally abusive with her roommate. I comply with the facility totally. State comes in this week for annual survey this week and they interview the roommate and they feel she is uncomfortable with me and according to the DON they told her that they wanted me out of the facility and substantiated the claim of abuse. I am terminated today. The DON told me that in 10 working days State will have decided whether or not this will go on my abuse record and to call her. I never verbally abused anyone, the person I was working with was in the room the whole time and the resident had no specific complaint just that everybody treats her bad which isn't a new complaint. I didn't get to speak to state or adult protective services, the DON told me that she "spoke to them on my behalf". The DON told me that she had fought with them and told them that I was overworked and it was her fault and she said she begged them to keep it off of my record. She said that the State people had my phone number and would be calling me but its a little late now. I have no job, my life goals and aspirations are on the rocks and I feel like someone has kicked me in the ribs.

I don't know what state you are in but I had a somewhat similar thing happen at the end of Jan this year. I too felt life was over and I still tackle some of those thoughts at this time. However as far as the state goes, I highly recommend getting a good labor lawyer as I have. The state is independent of your facility and will conduct an independent investigation and your lawyer will be of help with this. At this time you should have written down everything you can including names, addresses, phone numbers of anyone you work with and everthing that's occured including dates and times. These can be submitted to the state. If in the end you are exonerated you will still need a lawyer to mediate with the state's lawyer to exponge the complaint from your record. If you can you should get copies of everything in your employment record. In the meantime, take care of yourself and surround yourself with supportive people. Ask for help.