Quote from MBAWkg2bNP
Honestly, I have no interest in providing further responses to people that do not take the time to comprehend what someone is saying. Talk about having a chip on the shoulder. I can see now why the opinons of others are what they are for a minority of people in this profession. I am thoroughly grateful to not have personally been exposed to the level toxicity shown in this post over trying to have a thought-provoking discussion. Have a great day!
I think we all need to take a deep breath. Allnurses promotes the idea of lively debate. Which means you are free to disagree with anyone on any type of subject matter as long as your criticism is constructive and polite. We also ask that everyone to please refrain from name-calling. This is divisive, rude, and derails the thread.
Our first priority is to the members that have come here because of the flame-free atmosphere we provide. There is a zero-tolerance policy here against personal attacks. We will not tolerate anyone insulting other's opinion nor name calling. Our call is to be supportive, not divisive.
OP.....you came to an all nurses site and made some pretty strong negative statements about the profession we all hold very dear. We might fight amongst ourselves....but we will ban together when we feel we are under attack.
There have been reports that "nurses eat their young" since the beginning of time.......and if you search this site you will find them. Police officers, Firefighters, Iron workers all have their own form of....hazing the newbies or the probies and it is considered a right of passage...a male bonding experience.......but in a female dominated profession we are considered mean spirited, old hags, and mean girls. I guess in some cases that is true.....but for the most part it is not true.
Nursing is different from many other professions in that many graduate from school totally unprepared for the harsh reality of the actual job. These poor new grads enter their professional life totally unprepared for the harsh reality of life and life as a nurse. We are under paid, over worked and responsible for everything. We don't necessarily have the time to molly coddle and give positive feed back to the everybody wins generation.......the harsh reality that even small mistakes can cost someone their life and are unforgivable....something which many new nurses do not understand.
We are continually told by those who have NO CLUE what it takes to be at the bedside how it is done and what is wrong but never how to fix it. Without actually being a nurse it is very difficult to comprehend the enormous task that we complete everyday. So yes....there are time we might be short tempered.
There are many times we just don't have time to correct the same mistake for the 20th time. We don't have time for flowery, complementing conversations filled with glowing terms of endearments. We are highly educated and over whelmed and have learned to say what we mean and convey what we need in short precise crisp conversation and then it is time to move to the next task...for there is never enough time in the day.
Personally.....after 35 years in this profession I too have run into my fair share of passive aggressive or just plain aggressive personalities....but I have found them to essentially to be insecure and feel threatened. To equate this as a female phenomenon I would like to add my experience with lateral violence were both male threatened by female authority and intelligence....go figure.
I think lateral violence is something every profession is vulnerable to.....for there are boardroom executives that use less that scrupulous behavior to get ahead and others find that big part on the casting couch....men are considered ambitious and driven women are considered mean and catty.
Nursing is a difficult profession. It is not rainbows and puppy dogs. Life is harsh. Humanity is messy. People are cruel and mean. That is life. IN nursing we get a daily overdose of reality and life every minute of everyday......it makes our overcompensation precise and direct.
But I don't think we eat our young.