had it with nursing school already! - page 5

I need some feedback on how to deal with some of the issues that I am facing now in week 5 of school. Its really gotten old. We have lots of instructors that do not communicate well with each other,... Read More

  1. by   pagandeva2000
    Quote from firstyearstudent
    Absolutely! I am with you on that. I don't think grades correlate with how nice you are, how good you are in clinicals, how good of a nurse you will be, how smart you are or even, incredibly, how good of a student you are (one gal in our class is super smart but gets poor grades because she works full-time and is a single mom -- I don't know how she is passing but she does it!). That was the point of my post, being an A students does not mean you have to be disliked by your classmates.

    But I can see the point of the poster who I responded to -- learning is the priority here, not socializing.

    I will say, however, that sometimes people believe that there is a split between good classroom students who are poor clinical students and poor classroom students who are good clinical students. I do see this, but also plenty of students who are good overall or bad overall...
    My instructor had a motto: "C" your way out. If you happen to do better, great, however, the grade does not matter, the fact that you will be a nurse does. Unfortunately, this rule does not apply to the pre-requisites to nursing, at least in my school. I think that being competitive starts the minute you enter college when you want to become an RN. Most schools require a high GPA, which fosters competition, and the students are still brainwashed with this mentality throughout the nursing program. Personally, (and this is coming from a student that was second top of the class), I think they should totally do away with giving away academic awards...it takes away from the students that struggled with work, school, raising families and other drama who made it as well, even if it was a C average. I was not working while I was in school and I was on a paid leave of absence from my job and didn't have to worry about money, so, of course, I had the total focus, and made the good grades. It didn't matter to me, though. Bottom line is that I finished. Focus on comprehending the material, not the grades per se.
  2. by   moongirl
    absolutely! and my school has this "Nursing Student of the Year" award. Give me a break. All it boils down to is a popularity contest. NO ONE can be "the best".. only if they base it on acedemics, which they dont.We all "vote" and then the instructors have the final say. whatta bunch of cr*p

    Everyone has their own story. Who is to say I am any better than the girl sitting in front of me that is a single mom with 2 kids that had to move in with her parents so she could go to school to make a better life, and on weekends, she is waitressing to make ends meet... what about the guy in the back row who lost his daughter to cancer last year... and so the girl who gets all A's on her tests because she is 23 with no kids, no responsibilites (lives with her parents and they pay everything) she is student of the year?

    I absolutely HATE that award and am being very verbal about it. Probably get kicked out and I bet I wont be Student of the Year!
  3. by   pagandeva2000
    Quote from moongirl
    absolutely! and my school has this "Nursing Student of the Year" award. Give me a break. All it boils down to is a popularity contest. NO ONE can be "the best".. only if they base it on acedemics, which they dont.We all "vote" and then the instructors have the final say. whatta bunch of cr*p

    Everyone has their own story. Who is to say I am any better than the girl sitting in front of me that is a single mom with 2 kids that had to move in with her parents so she could go to school to make a better life, and on weekends, she is waitressing to make ends meet... what about the guy in the back row who lost his daughter to cancer last year... and so the girl who gets all A's on her tests because she is 23 with no kids, no responsibilites (lives with her parents and they pay everything) she is student of the year?

    I absolutely HATE that award and am being very verbal about it. Probably get kicked out and I bet I wont be Student of the Year!
    I didn't even attend my own graduation because of that mess, and I knew that I was up for the award. I remember we had a student that worked as a cab driver for at least 12 hours 7 days a week, and still came to school everyday. He had a language barrier, and unfortunately because of that barrier, I heard he failed the boards. He may eventually be the best nurse around, but heck, he made it out of there. Three cheers for him! I hope he makes it, eventually...he was really trying to make a life for himself.
  4. by   firstyearstudent
    I have tried to get to know most of the students in my class and once I hear their stories I am, with few exceptions, impressed by their committment and intelligence -- especially the foreign students who have so much to overcome.
  5. by   ByTheLake
    Since this is only week 5, rest assured that many of the people who are bugging you right now (fellow students) will wash out, and you will be left finishing nursing school with a better, more focused, more dedicated group of students. (And yes, even some of those show-offs won't make it!!)

    Also, again since this is just getting started, realize that you will have a different round of professors later on, they will treat you differently since you will have made it through the wash-out phase, and you will be expected to be more autonomous, self-directing, etc. and will have less busy work to do.

    Things will get better. For now, you just have to hunker down, stick to yourself, and get through it. I did very little socializing *at all* my first 2 semesters of nursing school. But now that I'm nearly done, I have a core group of friends who are as serious as I am but do not have any need/desire to one-up their classmates. We are supportive of each other, help each other out, encourage each other. And the entire class gets along better. Somewhere along the way, nursing school gets hard enough on its own that it burns the pettiness right out of most people ;-) Who has time for petty games when you have a 2 care plans due on Tuesday and an exam on Wednesday and a paper due *and* an exam on Thursday...
  6. by   damarystx
    I am sorry that you are having such a difficult time in school, I am in 3rd semester and have been lucky to be surrounded with incredible people. I take night classes and have made some incredible friends in the program. I do know that the day classes are a little bit more cut throat. So I try to support my friends in the day program that are haveing the struggles that you are. If you are in your first semester most of the people at my school would agree that 1st is one of the hardest because there are so many adjustments to make..organization was and is key for us, you are not only covering ALOT of material the environment is different than other classes...did you get into the program with anyone that you know? If not, what worked for me was being really supportive to other people, really showing that I was there to become a nurse not to compete with other students...in the end you all have the same goal...and realizing that the NCLEX is pass fail, that you will not know who got the higher grade...and that hospitals only care about your license not who graduated at the top of the class may help some others to lighten up a bit...hope this helped in some small way...Good luck and hang in there!
  7. by   w8tmansgirl
    It is that way all over. The Prereq's were not like that, but it seems that the "program" brings out the best and worst in people.
    You are there to make it through... that is all. Kiss what you need to kiss. and ignore what you need to ignore. It is only for the first semester...we have more to deal with next semester. But just remember, you can do anything for 7 days at a time... the weekend is still yours.(just use it wisely)
    We all cried the first couple of 5 weeks (even the bullies by the way), thought of getting on antidepressants in order to save our families sanity (and Ours), it is a part of the Nursing Process - Must Survive Humility...then we can get on with the program. Stop being afraid of your instructors, they have been just where you are, they know what you are going through, they sympathize with you, but the thing is, you have to want to be a Registered nurse all the way to your bones, or you wont make it. That is what seperates them from anything else.
    You will ALWAYS regret it if you quit!
    Good luck and hang in there!
  8. by   2sc
    Hang in there, you got this far already ! I too am in my first 2 months of my first year of the RN program and have gotten to know some really great supportive students in which we help each other out alot, there are cliques in the program too in which we dont seem to care much about since we are learning to let that crap slide and be concerned with exceling in what YOU do! we too have the rumour mill in fill working order, its amusing to see who has the time to get involved in the garbage that comes from the rumors . I spend my time studying and practicing instead . I have instructors that are great and others that are so wishy washy you really cant figure out how they ever got their degrees ! But if they can do it so can you!
    Having a variety of good instructors and bad instructors to me is a lesson on how to deal with ALL people regardless, since we will all have great and horrible patients after graduation !
    "What doesn't kill you will only make you stronger!"
    "keep your eye on the prize!"
  9. by   moonrose2u
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    and you will make friends in nursing school that you will have your whole career.
  10. by   pnut_bandit
    hi ! as a lpn student myself. i very much understand where you are coming from. i am only on my first semester and already i have wanted to quit :uhoh21: or do something else. but, i keep telling mysef that this has been what i wanted and i don't care who gets in my way. i am going to keep sticking my neck out. i want to be a nurse so bad that i am willing to deal with all of the crap. good luck and remember you can do it. ignore the others ! angel
  11. by   country mom
    Boy, this brings back memories. Just do your best to ignore the other student's back-biting and clique mentality. These actions come from their own feelings of insecurity. Also, the students who have to talk all the time about how much they know are really going to make it hard for themselves when they get out on the clinical floor. One thing nursing instructors dislike is a know-it-all. As an upperclassman once told me during a particularly difficult class, "just pass it and move on". Don't get caught up in the games people play, comparing their test scores and so on, it's nonsense.
  12. by   Aradien
    Quote from kristielpn2b2006
    It takes a lotttttttt of dedication to go through the program. You can't just "think" you want to be a nurse...you have to "know" you want to be one. ...You are fortunate to have been chosen to even be there.....STAY!!!!!!!!! IT DOES PAY OFF.......Remember this email when you wanna give up....
    Gosh Kristielpn2b2006, I really could have used you 15 years ago! Everything you have said is true, all of us are fortunate to be chosen, especially if your program is a small one. But the biggest hurdle I have faced with regards to this is to "know" I want to be a nurse. Everything else is immaterial. Therefore, within reason, what ever it takes, is what I will do to become a nurse. Disgruntled nursing staff, mixed up papers, whatever.
  13. by   nursetech37
    Quote from SunDvl
    I need some feedback on how to deal with some of the issues that I am facing now in week 5 of school. Its really gotten old. We have lots of instructors that do not communicate well with each other, countless hours of busy work, confusing assignments, and students who instead of supporting each other are contstantly trying to show each other up I can litterally feel the knots forming in my shoulders and neck right now. I manage time well and dont procrastinate.... so how do I learn to enjoy school again?
    Hey do not give up I have been wanting to be a nurse for a long time I am a cna known as a tech at the hospital I work. I have been having problems getting financial help to be able to afford to go to school so far nothing is working out . Just try to ignore everyone do what your intentions are and just do the best you can cause the world needs you.

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