Am I a failure? - page 3

In my current situation, I am a nursing student who failed "common concepts" last semester. I am currently taking "common concepts" but I am currently failing. My class is only pass/fail based on test grades only. I got 78,... Read More

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    Firstly: please get help or talk to someone about your feelings. No part of nursing school is worth suicide.

    Second: failing at a task or course of study does not mean YOU are a failure. It simply means that this time, you failed at a specific task/thing/course of study. Learn and move on, either with this area of your life, or choose a new direction.

    Third: blueprints for the exams are not cheating, they are trying to show what type of questions are there, and how to apply critical thinking to them. I personally give my students a blueprint, or example if you prefer the wording, for their math test. Not the actual questions, but very similar ones. I teach people how to answer those questions. If you can do those, you'll pass my exam.

    Fourth: Writing good test questions is not as easy as it might seem. What seems perfectly clear to the person writing it, because they know what they are looking for, can come across very differently to the reader. It takes several times of people taking tests to weed out questions that end up being misleading or misunderstood. Even the NCLEX has trial run questions in it, that aren't part of your score but are being tested out for future use. In order to have well written exams, many of us use the some of the ones provided by the publisher of the textbook, and yet there can still be problems. We have entire books about writing good questions.

    Also, to maintain continuity of what each class learns, we use same or similar tests, otherwise there is no consistency.
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    I appreciate all the constructive input from everyone. This was more beneficial than I hoped for. It gives me an outlook I could not have thought of.

    My anger and suicidal tendencies have passed. I accepted that nursing is not my "cup of tea". My next move is changing my major or career direction. I will make what I can with my setback and see where it takes me.

    Dwelling on this topic any longer offers no benefit in my opinion. I cannot change the past now. I will try to change the present and make a new beginning for me.
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    Quote from Redstudent
    I appreciate all the constructive input from everyone. This was more beneficial than I hoped for. It gives me an outlook I could not have thought of.

    My anger and suicidal tendencies have passed. I accepted that nursing is not my "cup of tea". My next move is changing my major or career direction. I will make what I can with my setback and see where it takes me.

    Dwelling on this topic any longer offers no benefit in my opinion. I cannot change the past now. I will try to change the present and make a new beginning for me.
    I'm glad you are no longer suicidal and as tough as nursing school is, it should not make anyone feel that way.
    Nursing is not for everyone and if it makes one miserable to the point it was making you, then that is a huge sign that, indeed, it is not your "cup of tea".
    This is not a failure, this is a realization that this is not for you.
    This is absolutely okay.
    I sense hope in your post and your willingness to pull what you have learned from a negative experience and grow and move forward.
    You will not become a nurse-- so what!
    Play to your strengths and pursue what makes you feel good about yourself and will provide you with a fine career.
    I wish you well and good luck in your future endeavors.
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    You sure do like to make excuses don't you? I believe that this is the kind of attitude that easily becomes weeded out of any nursing program. Perhaps this isn't the profession for you?
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    I know it sounds unprofessional of me to do this online. I had no academic adviser to get a hold of. I know many students want to avoid negative talk like it was bad karma. I was narrow minded when I earned a 54 on the exam. I wanted to see what it was like outside my school. Like I said before, this forum was way more helpful than I could have imagine.

    I initially thought the "blue print" for exams was cheating because the professor I am taking thinks it is cheating. That is the only thing I did not do. It is a resource that needs to be used. I figured it out pretty late.

    Well that is past news to me now. I am being assisted by 2 career counselors to find a job and make up for the setback. They are also looking into other majors I can go into and start anew.
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    Good luck and warm wishes for what ever path you choose!

    Takes a lot of guts to step back, reevaluate and choose to change.
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    "I spent my weekend studying for exam 3 only to see a 54 as a result."

    You only spent a weekend studying for exam 3??? You should be studying the material before lecture so that during lecture it is reinforced in your head. You should be studying as you go so that before the exam you only have to review. You should NOT be studying everything 2-3 days before the exam. Bad strategy.
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    Nursing school is hard. It's hard for a reason and some people won't make it, which is not necessarily a bad thing. Instead of listing excuses about why it's difficult start thinking of new ways to study the material and implement those methods. Yes a three hour lecture class is long but as a nursing student you should have more than enough practice at studying for at least three hours at a time to train your brain how to stay focused & retain the information.

    You are planning to enter a profession where people's lives are literally in your hands daily. It should be expected to work your tail off have the knowledge to be able to do this. We've all been there to know how difficult it is & all the frustrations of testing, time, etc. Try working a full time job & raising babies during nursing school like myself and so any others have done.

    Rise to the occasion - prove to yourself that you are able & willing to do this. Nursing school doesn't last forever but when graduation comes you will feel so much better about yourself and your accomplishments knowing how hard you have had to work for it and it will make you a much better nurse in the long run.

    I believe you can do it if you shift your thinking, but if its not working out for you - there's no shame in admitting that you tried something about didn't workout as long as you can say you gave it your best shot. There are many other careers out there and a ton of people who ended up in jobs they hadn't initially set out for.
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    Quote from Hygiene Queen
    I couldn't believe it either!
    Me neither.
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    Nursing school is not unlike hostile brainwashing. It takes a ton of work for the teachers to break your spirit and make you feel defeated for them to start building you back up. It is necessary to break the chain of basic memorization/teaching for tests learned in precollege education. You need to figure it out. You may know the material but possible overthinking/overcomplicating the tests. You work with the information given in the questions and nothing more. Cover the answers and try to come up with an answer on your own (don't waste to much time if your truly have no idea). Ask yourself what makes an answer wrong when you dont know what is right. for example if it asks which lab value is outside normal range and you only know 2 of the 4 you have at least given yourself a 50/50 chance. Find different study partners. It takes a gentle blend of egos to make a group work and each person must be able to contribute to the group with either knowledge, leadership or style. Keep study groups to 4 or less people and build in breaks. Common concepts could be anything in nursing. If you could be more specific I could offer some guidance for study tips.


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