I love to teach, but I know that I have many many nights in the ER when I don't get to pee until I get HOME from work (and then God help DH if he's in my bathroom!).
When you're flying as fast as all that, it's very hard to slow down and teach someone else how to do what you do. Really, if they want a new nurse to get a good preceptor experience, tptb need to CUT that nurses ratio down, not bring it up because "you have help".
When you give me a preceptee, you either want me to do what I do every night, to the same high standard, OR you want me to slow down and teach, which requires a lower ratio. But I don't see how you can have both.
I can spend all day teaching someone how to put in a foley, drop an NGT, log roll a hip, place an IV. But I CAN'T keep up the pace AND teach them my thinking process, why I'm doing what now before I do that and how I switch gears in my brain to accomodate something else quickly. That takes time and thought that I just don't have when running my full load AND trying to teach as well.
On the other side, new nurses need to remember to bring their ego to work with them - they won't get it on the floor. Even the best of us sometimes have a crisis of confidence and we bull through it. A new nurse IS a crisis of confidence (understandably) but with a full team, the preceptor simply doesn't have time to baby them through that. Does it suck?? Absolutely!!
For TPTB: CUT the ratio for those with preceptees if you want them to stay and learn, instead of run screaming from the floor or profession.
For New Nurses: It's NOT personal mostly, it's circumstantial. You're having to learn in a less-than-ideal situation and everyone around you has their full caseload (including short staffing and all the other fun stuff that comes with it). A nurse who hasn't peed in 10 hours, will probably seem to be or be too busy to stop and explain clearly every time you ask a question, even if he wants to.
For preceptors: Do the best you can - isn't that what we always do anyway <sigh>. Until TPTB get the picture, we'll continue to be overworked, tired, and less than the good teachers many of us want to be. Something's gotta change.
For all you new nurses who stick it out on the floor, only to fly into management as soon as possible.... PLEASE remember this stuff and work to CHANGE it for the people you manage. How come it always seems that folks who end up in management from the trenches forget where they came from? Never understood that!
Ack! turned into a rant .. sorry!