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  1. I dont intend to turn this into a stay at home mom versus working mom topic.

    I do know that I love being home way more than I love being at work, this is coming from someone who used to be the "perfect" nurse, etc. Sometimes there are no perfect answers. And sometimes we have to realize we cant be really good at both. If you and your family are not happy, dont assume that that is how it has to be.

    I would recomend a great book called "Your Money or Your Life".
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  3. by   P_RN
    Thank you . I'll call the library tomorrow. I just wish I had 20/20 hindsight....like 33 years ago.

    No question, I made nice money all those years......started when my "baby was 10 mos old" finished when she turned........... 32.....other "baby" is now 31.

    Should have rethought priorities.....too late now.
  4. by   CEN35
    P RN - like your signature......but the truth of the matter is 100 years from now? Nobody is going to think twice or give a rats !@#$ about any one of us here now........unless your somebody like George Washington or Bill Gates.....or somebody the schools little history books bring up over and over again.

    just my 2 cents
  5. by   P_RN
    CEN you are a caution!!!! LOL


    In MY family we can trace back to the 600's.
    I'll have you know that Daniel Boone was a great, great,........son of a distant cousin of mine.....and THAT was more than 100 years ago

    Oh and one of my great-great-great-great- (etc)-grandmamas threw flowers in the path of Lafayette when he visited here.

    So there!

    Point being, if I had it to do over, I would have spent time with my family and not with my "beloved employer"- NOT.... that turned its back on me when I got hurt....after I was employed there 22 years. So here I am, can't work, got nobody here......what did it all get me? Nuttin' Honey.
    Last edit by P_RN on Aug 19, '01
  6. by   Katnip
    Linda HP, your decision is the right one if you comfortable, happy, and your family is, too. I stayed home with my kids when they were small. Now they're teens and a preteen and I've decided to go back to school full time. By the time they start heading off to college, I'll be working.

    I don't regret staying home, and I don't think you will either. I have friends who worked throughout their children's lives, and those kids are fine, happy kids too. A lot depends on Mom's satisfaction.
  7. by   RNforLongTime
    I would love to be able to stay home and take care of the house and have a nice hot meal on the table for my husband when he comes home from work. Unfortunately, I am not a trust fund kid and paid my own way through college with as much help from my parents as they were able to afford. I lived with them throughout college and they didn't charge me rent and paid my car insurance for me. They have also done the same for my younger brother. My baby sister decided on a different route and got married and had children.
    I am in debt from college loans, car payments and credit cards-which I racked up all by myself. SO for the next five or ten years--probably ten years when my loans and credit cards will be paid off-I will have to work a 40 hour week at the hospital where I am currently employed. I have been married for a little over 2 years and as of yet do not have any children.
    Now that I am older(I'll turn 29 on Wednesday the 22nd), I appreciate my parents and tell them so every opportunity I get. They instilled in me a great set of values and for that I will forever be grateful..We weren't a Brady Bunch kind of family by any means but we all love and respect eachother a great deal. For that I will forever be grateful to my parents.
    Family is waaaaay imprtant than work any day of the week but I also have bills to pay. I also like having a car to drive and food to eat and water to shower and bathe and wash clothes and TV and this here computer to post things such as this. And you need money for these things and because I am not related to Bill Gates, I must work. That and I LOVE Nursing!!!!
  8. by   Nursz-R-Awsm
    Linda and PRN, you have given me something to think about. I will look for the book too! This has been a topic of discussion in our home for some time now. I am a new grad. By the way kaknurse, my bday is coming shortly after yours...I will be 31 on Aug 27th!

    My husband and I really want a family, but I also really want to learn all I can at my job. I am (or will be) torn. I believe once we conceive, Lord willing, that I will have a clearer picture of whether or not I will still want nursing to be happy. Cyberkat is right... it depends on mom's satisfaction and if mom is happy, she can be a better mom when she's with her kids. I am dealing w/the same... car pmt, CC debt and loaned out from school...but if I decide I am happier as a SAHM, I will live without the little extras if I have to. Flip side... if I really need the satisfaction of keeping up skills and adult interaction, job satisfaction, etc.... we will find a way to deal with that also. Guess I'll find out!?
    ~Lisa

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