Whats to Enjoy about Nursing? - page 9

I'm a student and have been reading up on some of these forums and many, many nurses would leave their jobs if they didn't need the money. Everyone continually talks about how stressful their jobs... Read More

  1. by   Hoosiernurse
    I'm not there yet (still a nursing student), and neither am I a babe in the woods of life, either (37 years old, mother of 3). I think each person's feelings on here are valid and should be respected, but I find it aggravating how people who have a very "down" attitude about their work seem to almost hope the newer people will acquire their attitude. It's like they can't wait to see that spark in the eyes of the new nurse get snuffed out, so they will validate their own attitudes about nursing.

    That has been my general perception of people in any walk of life. People who are down about something want others to stop being positive about it and commiserate with them. That's why I've always irritated so many of those types...I refuse to be pulled down. There are down sides to everything in life, it's whether or not they are overwhelming for you, and whether or not there are enough "up" sides that you feel it's all worth it. That is purely perception, and it's going to be different from one person to another. What's intolerable to one is merely a tiny bump in the day of another.

    One day I might decide that where I am in nursing is just not cutting it anymore, and I will find one of a thousand other things I can do within nursing instead, because that's the way I am...I see possibilities and I go for them.

    I love the prospect of being able to move around and do so many different things in nursing. I will never stop learning, never stop using my head (and I've had jobs where I had to do pretty much nothing with my mind...bleah), never stop improving. As long as I have to work with other human beings, there are going to be politics, headaches, misunderstandings, meanness, slights...whatever. Some days I will come on this list and scream about them, and then I'll be back right where I belong the next day...being a nurse. That's normal and healthy stuff, you vent and then get back out there and find the good in things.

    I can't wait to be a nurse because I was once the patient. I had peripartum cardiomyopathy, but have since healed from it. Still, I will always be on meds and I will always carry this insurance in my chest called an AICD. It was this event in my life that showed me I wanted to make a difference in cardiac nursing. I know that's where I belong, and everytime I learn more about it I just become that much more excited. When you love something and are driven to it that way, the little bits of inconvenience don't matter so much.

    So I guess who we become in a few years as nurses purely depends on who we are inside right now, and how we're going to let things affect us, and what we do about it when they do. I'm sure it will be harder than I imagine, and more fulfilling than I've dreamed.


    Cara
  2. by   goinforitlpn
    Nicely put Cara. You are right. Every ones feelings are right and ought to be validated. However there should never be anyone trying to take another's bright ideas and strong desires to have a future in nursing and marring them with thier own bad experiences. We are who we are! Allow no one to change that.There is so much potential for personal reward and growth in nursing.
    Peds77 and AnnRN, we all share some stories that can taint the professiion if taken out of context by an inexperienced non-nursing or nursing person. Why do that? Why don't we let a bright mind learn themselves what is out there? Lord knows we need some sharp minds in this profession to join us. We are at an all time low there are not many people opting to get into it for a career. There does not seem to be a lot being done to fix this shortage.
    There is something also to be said here though and realized...someone can not make you feel anything. You have to feel that something on your own.
    If someone has come to the point that an MD or a pt. is making them feel less than who they feel they are, then it is time to take another look at what they are doing.
    Perhaps 12 - 14 hour days are just too long for you to be dealing with demanding people. As nurses we all know the egotistical personalities of many physicians, and the demanding character of some pts. Now, if you combine these things with the every day demands of the job on top of long days, and day to day life outside of your job, well, eventually something somewhere has got to give.
    I truly believe 12 -14 hour days can only be carried on for so long. Peds77, you may find you can deal with this MD, (who thinks the "MD" after the name gives them right to treat you as if you were a low form of life) with a little bit of edge, if you had a little more rest and felt more confident in yourself. Remember, this MD needs you and the other nurses 24/7 to complete his/her assessment of the pt. As far as demanding, demeaning pts. well they will always be with us, that is what makes the nursing world go 'round, but remember this, there are more ways to say #$@% u without actually saying it (don't every one go crazy on me here I am just figuratively speaking). And of course, it is always said with a smile.
    Learn to pick and choose your battles. Draw the boundary lines where you will not allow anyone to cross. What do you find offensive? Do some soul searching. Figure out the answers. Once yuo do this set the boundary lines and allow no one to cross them. You can still maintain your professiionalism while not being taken advantage of.
    You are afterall as human as the ones you are taking care of. Treat yourself as good as you treat them. It sounds like you are "burning out." If you are then you need to re-evaluate, and take inventory of what is important to you, and find the balance in your life and profession. Once you find the balance, you will need to create those boundaries and a plan to stick to them. If you do this you will return to the confident professional who will not allow this bully MD (who is most likely not satisfied with him/herself), and demanding pts. to interrupt another productful day again. Good Luck!
    Payitforward I think you have the right idea! Very very postive!
  3. by   blueyesue
    Quote from Hoosiernurse
    I'm not there yet (still a nursing student), and neither am I a babe in the woods of life, either (37 years old, mother of 3). I think each person's feelings on here are valid and should be respected, but I find it aggravating how people who have a very "down" attitude about their work seem to almost hope the newer people will acquire their attitude. It's like they can't wait to see that spark in the eyes of the new nurse get snuffed out, so they will validate their own attitudes about nursing.

    That has been my general perception of people in any walk of life. People who are down about something want others to stop being positive about it and commiserate with them. That's why I've always irritated so many of those types...I refuse to be pulled down. There are down sides to everything in life, it's whether or not they are overwhelming for you, and whether or not there are enough "up" sides that you feel it's all worth it. That is purely perception, and it's going to be different from one person to another. What's intolerable to one is merely a tiny bump in the day of another.

    One day I might decide that where I am in nursing is just not cutting it anymore, and I will find one of a thousand other things I can do within nursing instead, because that's the way I am...I see possibilities and I go for them.

    I love the prospect of being able to move around and do so many different things in nursing. I will never stop learning, never stop using my head (and I've had jobs where I had to do pretty much nothing with my mind...bleah), never stop improving. As long as I have to work with other human beings, there are going to be politics, headaches, misunderstandings, meanness, slights...whatever. Some days I will come on this list and scream about them, and then I'll be back right where I belong the next day...being a nurse. That's normal and healthy stuff, you vent and then get back out there and find the good in things.

    I can't wait to be a nurse because I was once the patient. I had peripartum cardiomyopathy, but have since healed from it. Still, I will always be on meds and I will always carry this insurance in my chest called an AICD. It was this event in my life that showed me I wanted to make a difference in cardiac nursing. I know that's where I belong, and everytime I learn more about it I just become that much more excited. When you love something and are driven to it that way, the little bits of inconvenience don't matter so much.

    So I guess who we become in a few years as nurses purely depends on who we are inside right now, and how we're going to let things affect us, and what we do about it when they do. I'm sure it will be harder than I imagine, and more fulfilling than I've dreamed.


    Cara
  4. by   rnanm
    I am so sorry you are seeing the many complaints about nursing, but the reality is there for each of us to learn from. It is up to you to decide how you will practiice, set boundaries, give of yourself freely or with reservation.
    I have been a nurse for 26 years and still feel compassion and empathy for my patients. I love teaching new grads and meeting the challenges nursing presents these days. Please stay strong and give yourself a chance to make a difference. Ignore the few who hate nursing because they will burn out soon enough. I welcome you with open arms. Good luck in your future nursing goals.:smilecoffeecup:
  5. by   goinforitlpn
    The fact of the matter really is this, for anyone who really is thinking of becoming a member of one of the most noble professions, if it truly was as bad as all of the complaining you have heard through all the faceless, nameless complaints of this venue there would not be anyone in the profession.
    There are many reasons why there is a shortage. Yes, it is true conditions have become worse over the years for nurses with new regulations creating more paper work, more than ever nurses have to cover our a_ _ now, although the pay may sound excellent, many look at what they give up in order to get that pay. There are other professions that pay women just as well, if not better.
    Also, there is a shortage of nursing teachers, which has created waiting lists in many of our nursing schools, which has driven potential nursing students into other fields because they do not want to stall there careers 2 to 3.
    Years ago, this is hard to believe for all you younger people, there were not many professions available to women outside of nursing and teaching. Today a woman can be almost anything she wants so, of course, there will be a shortage for that reason alone. When a woman can become something else that pays her more, for better hours which are more conducive to family life, well this profession has lost those women to those professions.
    Anyway, there still are nurses practicing, new grads right along side us seasoned nurses with longevity.
    The point is if it were all that bad there would be no hospitals, nursing homes, or any health care facilities that could function without the services of the many nurses who are practicing and loving it.
    So, for all of you who do hear those who are griping, take it with a grain of salt and remember that someday your venting may have a negative impact on someone too. Someone else's opinion of the profession should never have an impact on your noble ideas. We all have bad days when we wonder if we have made a difference to someone.
    Until you walk in that person's shoes you will never know what they have dealt with. It is not only MDs who see death, sickness, disability, sadness and disappointment. More often than not it is the nurse who will deal with it more than any MD. So, when you hear someone complaining keep that in mind. They may just need to get it out for the moment. And maybe for a brief period of time they do not want to be a nurse for various reasons. But just maybe they love what they are doing underneath all the layers of frustration they have been dealing with for so long, and all they need is a place to come and bounce there feelings off of to have other nurses help them figure that out. Or maybe they just need a vacation to re-group, take a deep breath and exhale all the negativity away.
    Someday when you are a nurse for a length of time you will understand what it is like to feel the frustrations, and the days you just want to run away, but you know you can not because you have other nurses, and CNAs and even families looking to you for strength and leadership. A nurse wears many hats in one day every day. So, go easy on the ones who come here to complain, they just need a break, a place to figure it all out.
  6. by   Moongazer64
    Quote from withasmilelpn
    Just a few years ago I said I loved being a nurse. There's been a lot of changes in my job this year and in my life - the loss of my youngest child which I think really changes your perspective and tolerance. It's been 3 years now and I'm finally starting to get that back but for a while it was just a paycheck.
    I am sorry for your great loss- I am a mother of 3 teens and pray I never know your pain, but rest assured, if you and your child love the Lord you will be together for all eternity one day. God bless you-
  7. by   lil-hosp.usa
    I can relate and I have only been a nurse for 4 years. I work in a small 25 bed facility where the nurses that have been there forever make it very difficult for the new ones. There are 10 RNs in all. They question all of our judgements when infact we are doing just fine and our evals suck- no constructive critizism, just critizism. I work with one other nurse at night plus an aide and whatever comes to the ER is ours, if we are so inadequate why the hell are we in charge?! Sorry i guess I had to vent.
  8. by   Hoosiernurse
    Heck, I have days where I don't want to get up for clinical, or something new is scaring the crap out of me...but I have decided that being afraid is not a reason to run. It's a reason to be careful, but just because I am afraid and don't want to get out of bed, put that silly uniform on, and head to clinical doesn't mean it's not important and that I shouldn't do it. I spent years running away from what was challenging or frightening to me. No more.

    And I totally understand people just needing to vent. Who doesn't? I have said things to my best friend about the trials and tribulations of being a mom, a wife, or whatever, that if anyone else heard it they would think really badly of me. But as has been said, it was only that sometimes you have to get out the "bad gunky"-to use Stephen King's phrase from his new bookl"Lisey's Story".

    Cara
  9. by   code50
    I could not agree with you more!For every bad day there are so many rewards.And if you're tired of the "politics" and the MD's and no longer want to deal with the families, ther is always nnight shift, which is what I did and never regreted it for a minute.In fact it helped me to remember why I chose nursing. It gave me time to work at a more even pace,to actually sit and talk to some of my patients.Granted, there were many hectic nites,code after code,patient going bad in one room while someone else is in need of tlc....well it all comes with the territory.As with any job, if you can't stand the heat........it's time to leave.I have worked with some of the most compassionate nurses you'll ever find & I have also worked with some of the most bitter,cold-hearted,uncaring ones (some of which I told they should get out) It is truly stressful,absolutely wears on your mind,body & soul, but if at the end of the day/nite you helped just one human being....isn't it worth while? Any comments from anyone?
  10. by   Hoosiernurse
    I agree with you, code50. Last week I took care of an unresponsive man who had Lewy Body Dementia (combo of Alzheimer's and Parkison's). I took care of his bed bath and linen change (which from the record on the trifolds had not been done for the past three days), got him into his new gown, did the basic assessment (where I heard crackles in his lungs that were so loud they could not be missed, even though everyone had put on his prior assessments that his lung sounds were clear), and then decided that his mouth was in terrible shape, so I did oral care. He was all gunky, but I cleared all that out (yeah, it was gross, you get over it and just do it. Would I want someone leaving ME like that if it was me, and it might be one day). At the end of it all, I took his blood pressure a second time...I always do it at the beginning and at the end of my AM care with unresponsive people. My instructor asked me why I do that when the vitals only need to be taken every 2 hours and I said that it's the only way that person has of telling me I did a good job...their only way of communicating with me. At the beginning of AM care his blood pressure was 136/89 with resp at 22, at the end it was 120/76 with resp at 18. Who doesn't feel better after a good bath and changing into fresh clothes? He looked more comfortable, and I knew I'd made a difference. That's what it's all about. When I'm on the floor, I feel ALIVE...not that I don't any other time, but even when I am doing mundane things on the floor, I really feel a strength in myself that I don't feel at any other time.

    Cara
  11. by   pacifica
    Cara, you sound like a very special nurse.

    :icon_hug:
  12. by   joeyandjana
    Well a year ago when I was just into this thing we call nursing I would have been just horrified at your reply on the subject, however it's now 20 months later and I've been working the telemetry floor my entire career of 20 months now, and I'm already burned out.

    I'm an LVN who's in the middle of finishing my BSN and I can honestly say I'm not in it for the nobelity of helping anymore. It's I'm afraid to say about the easiest way to pay the bills and retire comfortably with whatever it takes to be away from home the least. And that my friends is being an R.N. The abuse we take from the patients and even worse their familes coupled with the ever changing regulations and mounting duplicate paperwork that must be completed for each patient each shift, barely makes going into work worth it.

    If our employeers would at least stand up for us it would make it more bearable but these days it's all about pleasing the "customer". We can't even call them patients anymore, now they are our customers..Sure our wages go up every year but so does the acuity of the patient, coupled by cost-cuts from the hospitals by doinig away with our ward clerks and CNA's and before you know it you've now got 10 total care patients and not the state mandated 5 per licensed nurse. One could go on for hours about our broken nursing system but lets not because as much as I hate to say it i've become a bit of a nurse Ratchet myself.....Although I still am one of the most liked nurses on the floor because I am kind, compassionate and caring but I also lay down the law and can be a bit of a hard a??, so to say to the family and patients when needed. So far it's worked okay but I know one day it won't and my employer will not be there to back me up or any other licensed nurse for that matter.

    I'm sorry do dash your dreams there newbee, but keep the faith sister because you are going to need it. Good luck to you and God Bless girl.
  13. by   peds77
    Ok thanks for the advice for those who gave it..but i would just like tosay that I'm not here to disuade anyone from becoming a nurse I AM A NURSE that is a big part of who I am and I do Love it..but sometimes as i am sure ia all walks of life it gets a little hard to take people's abuse with a smile...I have the utmost respect for all nurses amd many,many md's some of my best friends are doc's and I also enjoy teaching new grads I'm actually a master preceptor and I didn't get that job by chance I earmed it.....anyway just think my earlier venting was misunderstood by some but..my lord a little sympathy or encouragement would be nice........

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