The whole situation you describes spells a little rotten.
In the first place I wouldn't want to work for someone who wouldn't return my calls or acknowledge my letters. If she treats a potential employee like this, how does she treat her staff?
Secondly, In all the facilities I've worked at the pay was usually higher for specialities, or at least the same. It sounds like you have taken a demotion rather than advancing your career. Of course you did say you were Per Diem and now you have some (but not many) benefits, so that may be the reason.
If you are serious about becomming an ER nurse you may want to look elsewhere, jobs are pleantiful is most places. Take your time and find some place that will offer you the wage range you desire, the benefits and most importantly has a good orientation/preceptorship. Many nurses have turned away from ER because they were given scant orientation and had no support/resourse to turn to. It doesn't sound like this director cares one way or another, and I'd hate to see a potential great ER nurse become frustrated and leave, never to try again.
I'm not partial to ER nurses much,
am I? If you ever come to the Balti/Wash area send me an E-mail. You sound like someone who would fit in great in our family.