Not too long ago I started a thread about what to say to patients who were anxious and depressed. I received a lot of great comments and advice but, I now ran into another issue tonight which has to do with the topic of this thread.
I went into this mans room and asked if he needed anything. He said he would like some ice water and juice and I got it for him. After I asked if he needed anything else he said yes, forgiveness. Naturally I asked what he wanted forgiveness for. He began to say that he was talking to the hospital chaplain and then started to go into his family life and some of his own. It was a pretty normal conversation until he mentioned that he did something really stupid back in the 70's and that's what he wanted forgiveness for. He said he tried to molest his daughter but stopped just in time. He then began to go on about how beautiful and smart this daughter was. I was just dumbfounded. The only thing that saved me was there was a fire drill at that moment and I had to leave to help close the doors.
I understand that working in the hospital you deal with all types including the most foul wastes of life but, they still need care. I just abhor child molesters and after hearing that I found it hard to care about anything that happened to this man. Now I don't want anyone to think that as a future RN if I ran into this situation again I would purposely cause harm to a patient with a twisted past because I wouldn't. I think I would just perform care without caring.
How do you handle patients like this if you know they committed horrible things? Have any patients confessed things to you that were unsettling?
P.S I would also like to give my deepest thanks to all who work with children and have to care for those who have suffered through things like molestation and abuse. How your hearts must ache some days.