Do You Have a Toxic Boss? (eyeroll) - page 2
We all have had moments when we have been in charge of a group of people, so we understand how difficult it can be to try and accomplish what needs to be done and keep everyone calm and cooperative. ... Read More
Aug 29I agree. I, too have worked with people who sold out their morals and ethics after they got promoted, to keep their jobs and keep THEIR bosses happy. But it's also been my observation that environments like the one you described ATTRACT people who were already toxic.
Nursing is one of the professions that ALREADY has a tendency to attract it's share of people who are in it for inappropriate reasons, even if they're not looking at a promotion. People with malignant personality disorders like those adrenaline rushes, the power they sometimes have over life and death, the way they can control their patients...I could go on and on.
Aug 29The manager on my unit is someone I deem to be toxic. She spends every pre-shift huddle discussing things we are doing wrong that she has gotten in email complaints. In her tenure NOT ONCE has she said, "i appreciate how hard you all work" or something to that effect.
She is all about compliance and the bottom line which includes the things that make her look good.
She implicates our work whenever something negative arises and never looks at the system or other aspects of the unit...mostly because she is never on the unit.
Everyone works their tail off for 12 hours then listens to the 10 minute huddles of her negatives.
Its very demotivating.
Aug 29My manager is not a bad person. I truly believe that. He simply has zero managerial skills. He is unable to solve issues, deflects if there is one person that doesn't agree, turns every situation around to the employee that questions anything, constantly provides positive feedback, and is a complete company yes man. In regards to feedback, I mean that he constantly blows smoke praising that amazing job everyone is doing. No one can grow without real time honest feed back. Should you approach him with concerns, he will then turn that around blaming the employee with insecurity or lack of confidence. He simply can not trouble shoot or problem solve. But he came to us from Cedar Sinai so we are supposed to be completely in awe and thankful. Well he wasn't in management at Cedars. He was merely a physician. It is the elephant in the room constantly. As long as you are the employee that goes along and questions nothing then you are fine. That doesn't leave room to improve the work environment. He is polite and nice to employees but everyone feels like he is useless to the point we all try to dodge him.
Aug 30Was this author working at our hospital? Conflicts/stress with our boss has been the primary reason we lost 18 nursing staff last year. Of course none of them said anything about it in the exit interview because the HR person was "besties" with the toxic manager. Nice. So nothing changes. Even after one of those "engagement surveys" which just blasted nursing management, they still don't get it, or don't want to deal with it. The only way I keep my head high is the praise and thanks I get from my patients. Believe me, patients recognize a bad nurse, or one who isn't doing their job. I've also sought counsel from experienced nurses, ones who've been around, who are excellent at their jobs. If they think I'm doing a great job, then that helps my self-esteem. Because of circumstances I can't change jobs just yet, but believe me, I'll be getting off the toxic bus soon enough.....hang in there!