Death- your experiences - page 4

by Darkfield 6,578 Views | 31 Comments

I'm taking an informal survey here. I work in critical care and I see quite a lot of death. My attitude towards death has become quite callous - when someone is sick, they should be a DNR, and when someone is really sick, they... Read More

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    Quote from butterfliesrus
    I wouldn't say I am comfortable with death. I work in a nursing home and we have hospice patients who pass every few weeks because our company is very close partners with a hospice company. The nurses are wonderful and allow me to pray for every client as they approach their time, sometimes even joining me. I wind up crying every time a client passes, especially if they were long-term residents of the home. Death itself doesn't bother me, but the fact that I won't be able to see the patients the next day does. I pay my respects to every family, thanking them for bringing their loved one to the home so we could appreciate their lives. I haven't been to any funerals, but that's because I didn't think it would be appropriate. Taking care of and appreciating a patient's life is different than celebrating their life and past. I also don't really like funerals.

    In regards to how patients are to be cared for and DNRs: every patient has the right to as painless of a passing as possible and every patient has a right to protect their lives. Our personal biases are void of meaning. With myself, I'll probably be DNR, just because living on a machine isn't really being alive. Also- more pain versus no pain isn't very fun sounding. But- every one has their own choice. (Huge fan of DNRs personally- but sometimes I can't understand why younger patients are DNR.)

    I read above that a doctor only prescibes Tylonol? That is torture and should be reported to the authorities asap. That's unforgivable.
    I agree
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    When I was an EMT I had my share of death, but death should never make one become desensitized but if it happens it is normal. My 2 hardest cases were getting an unconscious baby to the ER , she died, I drove the ambulance(maybe at twice the speed limit). The second was me, doing CPR at the back of an ambulance on a child who was 5 years old. I still remember the look on the faces of the nurses and doctors when we brought her in...she did not make it either I dont think anyone will ever get "used to" the death of a child. I even cried after thinking what more could I have done differently, it always goes though your mind I guess. This helped me appreciate life more and I got very happy when we got to assist in the birth of a child, it the most overwhelming job ever.
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