Caring For A Family Suffering A Fetal Demise - page 3

Sometimes the most difficult and poignant things we can do as OB nurses, is simply be there.... George and Martha Night time briskness slapped me in the face as I climbed in to my car for... Read More

  1. by   clcRNky
    Your story holds close to my heart. I had a stillborn at almost 8 months pregnancy and had a nurse just as kind as you. I too am a nurse, working in the emergency department. I thought I would do well with l&d but I do not have the strength that you have after going through such a horrific delivery. My doctor along with the doctor you mentioned in your story denied me of pain medications and epideural. I was very upset. The labor was so intense and was medicated every 4 hours with 12.5 of demerol and 25 mg phenergan. I was in tremendous pain as I have the cervadil? and pit drip. But needless to say the physical pain ended and four years later I still deal with the emotional pain. I can not thank you enough for sharing your story and thank you for being so caring .
  2. by   pristock230
    As I sit here crying I thank you for writing your story. L&D is where I would like to end up, even though I am just starting school I know deep down in my heart this is the profession I should be in
  3. by   3dogs1cat
    I would just like to say you are an excellent writer! Also, I feel that as nurses we are so blessed (even though it doesn't seem like it) to be there to share the most intimate parts of peoples lives and help them!

    I work in the ED and we see miscarriages alot. I haven't really seen an actual fetal demise but I will definitely try to remember to be compassionate. We do deliver babies out here because we do not have an ob/gyn since we are not an actual hospital but these things are going to be important anywhere. I think sometimes it is easy to put up a defense in the ED with early miscarriages because we have to let nature take it's course but we can give emotional support and advocate for pain management.

    Anyway, thank you!!

  4. by   melissaplexy
    beautiful story....made me cry. The world needs to be filled with people as caring as you!
  5. by   strmjl
    As I read your story, I cried. I am currently working on an educational program for nurses (all nurses) for the psychosocial care of a family in the hospital when experiencing a stillbirth. Today I will speak to a group of nursing students just finishing up their rotation in Maternal Child Health. I would like them all to read this story. This story epitomizes the need for education and also assistance for the nurse who cares for them. You 'journaling' this story must have been very comforting to you. Thank you for your story. I wish I had thought to do something similar through all my encounters with such families. They are all still with me and in my heart.
  6. by   Chapis
    wow-this story brought flashbacks from when i was 19 and i had a miscarriage around the same time this lady did. it happened the same way, i didn't have the courage to see my baby in there. i also didn't understand why my doctor didn't let me have no pain medicine throughtout the whole entire night. i thought i was going to die, the pain was too much for me, they didn't let my boyfriend (back then), be in the room with me nor my sister. i wish i would've had a nurse like you to care for me when i was at the hospital. just know that she will always remember you and will be thankful for the care you gave her♥
  7. by   susanthomas1954
    I too, had a fetal death almost thirty years ago. I had almost a week between the news and the delivery. The first induction, with pitocin failed, and I was sent home to come back the next day for the prostaglandin suppository. I was only a couple of hours away from a c-section when she finally passed. The nurses gave us some "private" time with Jessica, but I never touched her.
    Now that my two sons are adults, I rarely have a day where I don't wish I had her as an adult. She was my first pregnancy to get that far along.....
    Three other nurses on my unit had the same experience during a five year period, and two of us did finally give birth to live infants, both of whom were very large babies, and extremely strong immune systems. So five pregnancies with two live births might make you wonder what was going on on our unit, no?
    That was back in the day when inhaled steroids were administered by mask by the RT's, and the patients would frequently lay their masks on their beds with the meds pouring into the air, while they went to the bathroom, or out TO SMOKE, or just didn't feel like finishing their treatments. The autopsy report was literally two lines long.
  8. by   tiffjh2
    I was crying as I read this, you are not just a very good and caring nurse but all round good person too..i can tell...I think nurses should always be compassionate and have the utmost passion for their career...and I can tell you do, I honestly can say i have a lot of respect for ob and neonatal nurses because I don't think I could do would be very hard and I admire u for being their for that family and I hope they know that u honestly cared for them! God Bless you!
  9. by   RikiTikiTavi
    You brought this story to life for me and brought tears to my eyes. Your ability to care for your patients and express yourself is a true gift.

  10. by   hofamb
    I am currently a nursing student on a labor and delivery floor and had my first loss patient the other day--a loss at 14 weeks. Reading this brings her face back into my memory and tears down my face--Thank you