Caring For A Family Suffering A Fetal Demise - page 4

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Sometimes the most difficult and poignant things we can do as OB nurses, is simply be there.... George and Martha Night time briskness slapped me in the face as I climbed in to my car for the familiar trek to work. It... Read More


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    As I read your story, I cried. I am currently working on an educational program for nurses (all nurses) for the psychosocial care of a family in the hospital when experiencing a stillbirth. Today I will speak to a group of nursing students just finishing up their rotation in Maternal Child Health. I would like them all to read this story. This story epitomizes the need for education and also assistance for the nurse who cares for them. You 'journaling' this story must have been very comforting to you. Thank you for your story. I wish I had thought to do something similar through all my encounters with such families. They are all still with me and in my heart.
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    wow-this story brought flashbacks from when i was 19 and i had a miscarriage around the same time this lady did. it happened the same way, i didn't have the courage to see my baby in there. i also didn't understand why my doctor didn't let me have no pain medicine throughtout the whole entire night. i thought i was going to die, the pain was too much for me, they didn't let my boyfriend (back then), be in the room with me nor my sister. i wish i would've had a nurse like you to care for me when i was at the hospital. just know that she will always remember you and will be thankful for the care you gave her♥
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    I too, had a fetal death almost thirty years ago. I had almost a week between the news and the delivery. The first induction, with pitocin failed, and I was sent home to come back the next day for the prostaglandin suppository. I was only a couple of hours away from a c-section when she finally passed. The nurses gave us some "private" time with Jessica, but I never touched her.
    Now that my two sons are adults, I rarely have a day where I don't wish I had her as an adult. She was my first pregnancy to get that far along.....
    Three other nurses on my unit had the same experience during a five year period, and two of us did finally give birth to live infants, both of whom were very large babies, and extremely strong immune systems. So five pregnancies with two live births might make you wonder what was going on on our unit, no?
    That was back in the day when inhaled steroids were administered by mask by the RT's, and the patients would frequently lay their masks on their beds with the meds pouring into the air, while they went to the bathroom, or out TO SMOKE, or just didn't feel like finishing their treatments. The autopsy report was literally two lines long.
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    I was crying as I read this, you are not just a very good and caring nurse but all round good person too..i can tell...I think nurses should always be compassionate and have the utmost passion for their career...and I can tell you do, I honestly can say i have a lot of respect for ob and neonatal nurses because I don't think I could do it..it would be very hard and I admire u for being their for that family and I hope they know that u honestly cared for them! God Bless you!
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    You brought this story to life for me and brought tears to my eyes. Your ability to care for your patients and express yourself is a true gift.

    Ricki
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    I am currently a nursing student on a labor and delivery floor and had my first loss patient the other day--a loss at 14 weeks. Reading this brings her face back into my memory and tears down my face--Thank you


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