Any other nurses have a baby voice?

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I've always been mocked about my voice by EVERYONE. I literally sound like a three year old. I can't help it. When people call my phone they ask to speak to a parent and I'm a grown 24 year old women. After hearing people make fun of my voice after all this years, I've grown to not let it hurt my feelings anymore. However, it is annoying as heck. Everyday at work I get asked one of the following questions from family members or other staff:

"Do you always sound like this?"

"How do you sound when you get angry?"

"Your voice is cute"

"Your voice is sexy"

"You talk White"(which I'm not)

"Is that your REAL voice" ( no, I'm just pretending)....

People also think I'm SUPER nice because of my voice. This can be bad news when staff attempt to walk over me.

I never have any good comebacks. I'm the one who thinks of comeback 3AM while lying in bed.

Advice?Comeback ideas?

I started having an assertive voice, when patient will call me too cute, and stuff. it annoyed me because I felt like they wouldnt take me seriously in caring for them, but my actions are more assertive than my voice, so there was no need to worry much but, I got tired of hearing how reserved, how cute, how awwww i am. Till i rage, I guess people wondered about me. im in my mid twenties, gtfoh. im not a kid.

Wow. Didn't know so many other had this issue. I don't have time to see a speech therapist. I work FT, school FT, Church, hubby, life. Maybe there is a youtube tutorial. I like my voice and don't want to change it, I want to just have smart things to say back to people that make snide comments.

Here's what I would say....

"Do you always sound like this?".......... Reply... "Only when I'm mad" said with a smile

"How do you sound when you get angry?"......... Reply........."Like a grizzly bear"

"Your voice is cute"........."Yours is not" (wouldn't do that one at work)

"Your voice is sexy"........."Just like the rest of me" (Also wouldn't so that one at work)

"You talk White"(which I'm not)....... "Really, so do you"

"Is that your REAL voice" ( no, I'm just pretending).... "Is that yours"

I have had people say weird things to me all of my life. Until about 4 years ago, I only weighted 100lbs and I'm 5'8. People would say the rudest things to me about my weight. Like, "Are you anorexic?", "You make me sick", "God, you're so skinny" (my favorite reply to that one... "And you are so NOT"), "Do you eat", "Do you have a disease that makes you skinny and is it contagious 'cause I want it" And the list goes on. Finally when I got close to 40, I gained enough weight that while still skinny not super skinny. It's a good thing. Not only can I buy clothes that fit but the older I got... the less understanding I was to rude comments.

I hear you! Until I turned to my mid 40's I couldn't keep weight on, and people were incredibly rude with "are you anorexic or just ill" statements.

To the OP--I would really look them straight in the face and say "Wow, how random...and inappropriate". Works every time.

I lowered my voice like a man and people started taking me more seriously.

Nope, I'm at the other end of the spectrum. My poor son (who is an adult) still has people who think it's me when he answers the phone. I would love to have a voice that doesn't sound like a baritone trying to sound feminine. I don't even sing happy birthday out loud to my kids - I have the Milli Vanilli act down pat. We just need to embrace who we are. I have a big, booming, deep voice that doesn't fit my appearance at all. Your voice isn't taken seriously, and I sound like I am ticked off at the world. Wouldn't it be nice if people could appreciate us for our actions and our competence instead of how we look or sound?

omg! that was me too! Do you eat?? Really? -.- Am I breathing? What do you think? :p I was 5'10 in 7th grade and didn't get over the 100 lb mark until I was nearly out of high school. I can add "are you bulimic and are you diabetic (um what?) to that list. :p

Wow. Didn't know so many other had this issue. I don't have time to see a speech therapist. I work FT, school FT, Church, hubby, life. Maybe there is a youtube tutorial. I like my voice and don't want to change it, I want to just have smart things to say back to people that make snide comments.

I completely agree. I like my voice and am not going to speech therapy. I'm articulate, I enunciate, and speek intelligently. My husband loves my voice. No desire to change it. Yes, its annoying having to always prove myself, but I absolutely do not need speech therapy. I'm able to use a firm tone when I have to and am then taken seriously.

omg! that was me too! Do you eat?? Really? -.- Am I breathing? What do you think? :p I was 5'10 in 7th grade and didn't get over the 100 lb mark until I was nearly out of high school. I can add "are you bulimic and are you diabetic (um what?) to that list. :p

I myself have battled obesity since middle school. It is just as rude to make comments to those who are "skinny." My cousin is tiny and gets mean comments all the time. She absolutely eats. Its just her frame, and her weight is perfect for her frame. I think she's beautiful, but its sad because she really won't wear shorts or dresses because of the comments she gets.

Wow, this thread has been great, despite the issues people struggle with, of course. I am a petite 24 year old who has received all of these comments -- are you anorexic? Do you eat? Do you have a parent with you? I even had one patient tell me it would be very hard for me to find a husband, since "most men would think you were a kid!" I have been married since age 20, by the way :). On my bad days, it has shaken my confidence and made me feel like I would never be taken seriously, which is a shame since I love my job. I have spent so many days, months, trying to gain weight, change my hair/makeup to look my age, speak with confidence. But you know what? I like the way I look. And if you like the way your voice sounds, please don't change it for anyone. It's you, you are unique and just how God made you.

Wish I could give you some comebacks, I'll be checking back to find some of my own. I usually just say, gosh, that's not much of a compliment is it?! (one lady replied, "I didn't intend it to be" :eek: )

Some people just have nothing else to talk about.

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