Anxiety and low self-esteem - page 3

Hi everyone, Say...did anyone catch the Oprah that was on this afternoon? It was about people and their "social anxiety disorders". I seriously think I have this....as far as work goes. I think a... Read More

  1. by   ohbet
    Snoopy,Since Im not a psychologist,I can only give my "naive" theory on what you call "low self esteem"
    Youve got this unrealistic self imposed standard ,or maybe its an unrealistic standard at the hospital,that you cant live up to ,as a result your threatened,your self conscious.
    It helps me to remember that Anxiety cannot exist without self focus, and that if I mess up its not the end of the world,after all Jesus failed and got crucified,but it wasnt the end of the world for him.
    Im sure this DOESNT help,but I tried.

    Alot of the responses to your thread are that we cannot know it all,that even doctors consult.
    I heard a nurse say she did know it all,in her area any way,I just had to shake my head.
    Last edit by ohbet on Mar 20, '03
  2. by   rinker
    God it is nice to know that I too am not the only one who has this problem. I have been ready to give up nursing completely and I just graduated 7/02! I have one other problem beside that though. What does one do when the charge nurse treats you like s---? Even the preceptor I had does (they are best friends). I have had more people than one can count come to me and ask why I always get the hardest assignments and end up charting well into the next shift. I don't know what to do about this and hate to confront people. I have a tendency to cry when I get beyond mad and frustrated. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
  3. by   leeca
    l've just started nursing l had had the same feelings. l always got someone to double check everything l did, because l felt l may not have done it right.

    But now l'm learning to accept my own judgement and not rely on others to validate me.

    l have only been working for a month, and l'm starting to get more confidence in myself.

    You need to learn that there is no perfect nurse and mistakes will be made, l made mistakes and now l say to myself oops, l now know better for next time.
  4. by   P_RN
    You know sometimes I wonder how some of those people live with themselves. You are experiencing just the beginning. I've been there. Many times I have felt that I was just "IT" for that day.

    Check this site about workplace bullying.
    http://www.provcomm.net/pages/joe/adult_bullying.htm
    Last edit by P_RN on Mar 24, '03
  5. by   nrs-jlm
    WOW!!!i know exactly how you feel. I just started my first job on 1/03 and am already thinking about quiting. Even when I think I have a good day, my preceptor doesn't seem to think so. She' s really hard on me, and makes me feel like I'll never get better. I talked to the unit manager about it and she says my preceptor thinks i'm doing fine. I don't get it!I'm going to continue my last two weeks of orientation, but I'm already looking for a new job. Sometimes, before work, I get so nervous that I get a stomach ache. It really does feel good to know that there are others out there who are feeling the same. Everyone keeps telling me that I'm being too hard on myself...hmmm..that's a thought. Good luck to you!!!!!
  6. by   IloveSnoopy
    Hi all...
    Just thought I would bring this thread back to the surface...because I was feeling this low self esteem, I'm not good enough, I'm going to quit my job and work with animals feeling again....LOL...note my thread below about working with animals...LOL. Anyways...all I did is read thru all the posts and now I feel better again...geesh. I'm going to pull up this thread every once and awhile...so be prepared...LOL. Thanks everyone for all your support on this wonderful forum....it's a great place to go to build your esteem...
  7. by   Tweety
    (((((IloveSnoopy)))))

    I feel the same way sometimes. Last night I was giving a nurse an admission, and out of the blue she caused a big scene "why do I have to be the one to get the admission, you always give me the admission....blah blah blah...." Big ugly scene. "Ummm...because you've been playing video games for two hours and it's time to work now." Afterwards I beat myself up for my poor supervisory/charge nurse skills and how I didn't handle the confrontration very well.
  8. by   IloveSnoopy
    Thanks Tweety,
    You and I are on the same wave-length a lot of the time.....I always enjoy reading your responses.... I had a similar thing happen the other night....well kind of.....our ICU nurse was out on Med/Surg because the unit was closed and she only had one med/surg pt. on telemetry. All she did all night was read the paper, sew, check her e-mail, and play solitare. Anyways...I was super, super busy and asked her to do one little thing.....(kind of mean like, out of pure frustration) Anyways.....it was the wrong way to act towards her..and now I'll feel bad about it for days..because that's me....but man....it gets soooo frustrating when some do the work of five nurses and then others play games all night....it just isn't fair. Anyways....thanks for your response.....I always appreciate your insight on things...you rock!!!:roll
  9. by   Tweety
    Originally posted by IloveSnoopy
    Thanks Tweety,
    You and I are on the same wave-length a lot of the time.....I always enjoy reading your responses.... I had a similar thing happen the other night....well kind of.....our ICU nurse was out on Med/Surg because the unit was closed and she only had one med/surg pt. on telemetry. All she did all night was read the paper, sew, check her e-mail, and play solitare. Anyways...I was super, super busy and asked her to do one little thing.....(kind of mean like, out of pure frustration) Anyways.....it was the wrong way to act towards her..and now I'll feel bad about it for days..because that's me....but man....it gets soooo frustrating when some do the work of five nurses and then others play games all night....it just isn't fair. Anyways....thanks for your response.....I always appreciate your insight on things...you rock!!!:roll

    Thanks. It's nice to find common ground here on allnurses.com, that's why I keep coming back.

    Good luck. I'm even more frustrated now because my manager told me to lighten her load since she is orienting someone. EXCUSE ME??? Lighten the load of the one who is the least busy. Sorry when I'm in charge, I get paid to made assignements, otherwise do not put me in that position. Grrrr......then my low self-esteem kicks in. "Maybe I didn't handle any of this right, I'm not cut out to be a charge nurse, on and on and on....." This despite the support of my coworkers who were there at the time. Glad I'm off this weekend and thanks for listening.

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