Am I the only one to feel this way?

[LadyMadonna]

I saw one of my former contemporaries from the nursing home where I used to work as an aide at the grocery store today. She happens to be a BSN now and assistant DON of a nursing home. She is also very beautiful (something I have never been in my wildest dreams). So she was strolling down the isles with her child (from her adoring husband, he used to dote on her when we worked in the nursing home) in the buggy. There I was, 100 pounds overweight, dressed in frumpy clothes I have worn all week, my own 3 yr old daughter with nappy hair and a dirty face I had with a loser (who also happens to be a creep who I hardly ever got a kind word from) and my claim to fame is a pathetic LPN diploma. Just seeing her tonight has made me so depressed I can't even concentrate on my studies (studying to be a "diploma" RN....whoopie do *twirling finger in the air* :stone ) and struggling as hard as I can to keep my head above water in what I am taking...I feel like such a loser and so depressed I want to cry

Have any of you ever been in the situation I'm in? I'd like to feel I'm not alone.

[LadyMadonna]

I can only speak for myself: I posted to a down-in-the-dumps OP, and did it with all good intentions, no bashing even entered my mind; answered in a vacuum, if you will. I had no idea of your past struggles. My feeling as I've read all the replies? You're right, Lady, no one else is living your life, therefore none of us can possibly answer exactly what you need to hear, that which will help you. Most of those posting (some of whom I feel I know, from 2yr on this BB) wanted to help. Some shared past experiences and friends' experiences, to let you know they speak from past hurts, that they weren't just being flippant with replies. As another poster said, take what may help you, and leave the rest; again, I feel they meant well. I truly wish you well, hope your therapist is helping (and if s/he isn't, I hope you find another who will), and look forward to seeing you continue to post.

I'm terribly sorry, I didn't mean to clump all posters together with the couple I was frustrated with. I know the majority of people offered the best advice they could to someone on a message board and it is very much appreciated.

I think it is also easy to misconstrue some things on a message board and take them the wrong way. It's a touchy subject and easy to get defensive about, especially when you're on the other end.

I know people were just trying to help. I truly apologize for getting in a huff.

[VickyRN, MSN, DNP, RN]

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