I am going crazy here
... Here my situation. Maybe you can give me some advice, Please. I graduated this past May. The first time I took my exam I failed but passed on my second try,
only with God's help. Now, I have literally been looking for work for some time now since June and have only been told they are only looking for 1-2 yrs experience. Sure everyone has heard that line one time toooooo many.
OK, the two places I do know that's hiring are home visiting agencies. Both of them I faxed my resume but only put that I was looking for part-time work because at that time that's what they were hiring for. But I wasn't considered because I didn't pass my boards yet. Now I called both companies back and they are only hiring full-time. I currently work full-time at a stable non-nursing position.. this is not my dilemma - I am willing to leave my job for nursing.
The issue is .. My sibling works at one of the places I really, so badly want to work at. Another thing is - she is in a position where I would have to explain myself to her sometimes, even when I forget do to something - as new grads sometimes do or is that don't do
I do understand her position in this typed of situation if the two of us are ti work at the same place. sorry I didn't mention that I have only faxed my resume to this company, only after speaking to her about it. And she said "I guess you have to do what you have to do but I don't think it would be a comfortable situation because of my title there."
OK, I'm at the point in job searching where, if this is the one position that I'm offered, I would like to interview and accept it. Keeping in mind what I'm getting myself into but at the same time I would hate myself and I mean really hate myself if I didn't pursue this. (I'm the type of person that if I see something I want, I try my best and everything I got to get. If I get turned down I'll deal with it, but at least I tried.)
I"m a single mom with bills and a mortgage. Leaving my current position would actually be a little drop in pay but managable. I will soon be 6 month without nursing experience and competing with the Dec grads. I didn't put myself though all of this pain, sleepless night, headaches, time lossed my child and stress for in the end, get my license and not do what I so badly want do, work and be a Nurse.
this situation is really hurting my heart because if I can't find anything else so to pass up a position that could been offered because of how my sibling feels about it... I just don't know.
please help me sort this out. sorry if I'm long winded and thoughts are unorganized. I'm confused right now
all of your advice is appreciated
Oct 30, '09
by Meriwhen, ASN, BSN, RN Senior Moderator
Whether or not it may be ethical, you need to ask yourself: are you all right working under your sister--that is, can you take orders from her? What about feedback? Even if she gave you bad feedback or negative criticism? Would you be able to answer to her because she's in charge? Even if you did something wrong? Or will you expect her to cut you slack because she's your sister?
Likewise, she's got to think about: could I deal with my sister as my subordinate? Will she listen to me? Will she try to play the "sister" card if I tell her to do something she doesn't want to do? Will I be able to treat her as objectively as I treat the rest of my staff?
And both of you: Would you be able to keep your professional and personal relationships seperate? Or would being "superior" and "subordinate" start to carry over into your personal lives? This may be the case, especially if the two of you were competitive or clashed a lot when growing up.
If both or even one of you can't confidently answer these questions, then the two of you probably should not work together because it's asking for trouble. Since both of you are questioning this, then it's probably best that you look elsewhere: either in a different part of the facility that doesn't fall under her, or in a different facility. Sorry to be a damper, but that's my two cents.
ETA: I say this as someone who has had to work with a sister, and it wasn't pretty.
Last edit by Meriwhen on Oct 30, '09
thank you all for your advice,
i did receive a call for an interview and just decided to tell them that i accepted another offer, although i really didn't, because this situation it just too complicated.
i got the interview without them knowing i had a sibling that works there and was going to not say anything until after an offer. i would not have had a prb receiving orders or discipline from her but not sure how it really would have played out once in that situation and environment. she did continually explain to me how ignorant, and jealous a lot of the females in her office can be when it came to the already two sets of siblings that are there.
i ultimately realized my sister loves her job and i didn't want to be the reason for that possibly changing.
Last edit by HardTimes on Oct 30, '09