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I was wondering how some of you have dealt with orientation and gossip. I recently had a bad day on my floor a progressive care unit. I was upset with the woman who is over our internship because she said that i was "behind the others in the progressive care internship. I have been on the floor now for about a month and a half with no experience except for nursing school and feel that i am doing okay. I confided in someone that i have known for years about my frustration and how hurt i was when the woman told me i was behind the others. To make a long story short, my friend went back and told this woman and today she basically told me i have about a week to get it together. My preceptor says i am doing fine. I am charting,giving meds, talking to multiple MD's about lab levels (everyone is on a monitor with potassium/mag protocols) and doing my assessments daily. I may not be as quick as the others but i get the job done!!! I just felt like venting and actually feel hurt by this. I was feeling so good finally and now i'm unsafe and unable to deal with the job, even though a few weeks ago i was doing okay. I think people can be so pathetic sometimes, you can't even cry on someone's shoulder without it coming back to slap you in the face. I only have about one month left, so wish me luck and pray for me. I know i can do it!!! :crying2:

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Specializes in med/surg, telemetry, IV therapy, mgmt.

This is an awful thing to have happened to you. Based on what you've written I would do two things:

First, tell your "friend" that you are disappointed that she told the director of the internship program the things you told her, you thought, in confidence. Don't say anything more to her than that. From now on the only thing you talk with her about is the weather. Don't talk to her or anyone else at work about your feelings any more. At least, not at this time.

Secondly, I would go to this director of your internship and tell her that after thinking about what she said to you, you would like to have some specific feedback from her as to what ways you are behind the others and just what kinds of things you should be doing that she is suggesting you are not doing. Tell her she left you hanging and you have a right to know why she would make a statement like that without backing it up with examples. If you didn't learn this in school I will tell you that the evaluation of a worker involves letting them know when they are not working up to the level expected of them, backing it up with evidence of examples and incidences, (always, always!) offering them help in correcting their shortcomings, telling them exactly what kind of performance is expected and then following up. If this lady were any kind of nurturer of new nurses she would be giving you specific examples of where she feels you are behind and giving you advice or information to help you get to the performance level you need to be. Based on what you've written I would say she stinks at her job. (But, don't tell anyone I said that--I don't want her coming back at me. :rotfl: )

Finally, if you don't get a satisfactory answer from the director of your internship program, and if things get to look bleak (like you've been told your employment might be in jeopardy), I would tell you to go to your nurse manager and tell her how you have been treated by this woman. I'd hold off doing that for now because this woman may be a jerk and acting totally on her own and have no influence over your employment. So, don't stir up anything with your manager if you don't have to.

Don't let the fact that you didn't have any kind of experience in nursing before going to nursing school eat away at you, babe. I didn't either and some people used that as a weapon to make me feel like I was somehow inferior to them. It's horse pucky. Shame on them. I turned out just fine, and so will you.

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Daytonite hit it on the mark! Hang in there!

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This is an awful thing to have happened to you. Based on what you've written I would do two things:

First, tell your "friend" that you are disappointed that she told the director of the internship program the things you told her, you thought, in confidence. Don't say anything more to her than that. From now on the only thing you talk with her about is the weather. Don't talk to her or anyone else at work about your feelings any more. At least, not at this time.

Secondly, I would go to this director of your internship and tell her that after thinking about what she said to you, you would like to have some specific feedback from her as to what ways you are behind the others and just what kinds of things you should be doing that she is suggesting you are not doing. Tell her she left you hanging and you have a right to know why she would make a statement like that without backing it up with examples. If you didn't learn this in school I will tell you that the evaluation of a worker involves letting them know when they are not working up to the level expected of them, backing it up with evidence of examples and incidences, (always, always!) offering them help in correcting their shortcomings, telling them exactly what kind of performance is expected and then following up. If this lady were any kind of nurturer of new nurses she would be giving you specific examples of where she feels you are behind and giving you advice or information to help you get to the performance level you need to be. Based on what you've written I would say she stinks at her job. (But, don't tell anyone I said that--I don't want her coming back at me. :rotfl: )

Finally, if you don't get a satisfactory answer from the director of your internship program, and if things get to look bleak (like you've been told your employment might be in jeopardy), I would tell you to go to your nurse manager and tell her how you have been treated by this woman. I'd hold off doing that for now because this woman may be a jerk and acting totally on her own and have no influence over your employment. So, don't stir up anything with your manager if you don't have to.

Don't let the fact that you didn't have any kind of experience in nursing before going to nursing school eat away at you, babe. I didn't either and some people used that as a weapon to make me feel like I was somehow inferior to them. It's horse pucky. Shame on them. I turned out just fine, and so will you.

Thank you for your advice, I go back tommorow so i will have "my stuff together in the morning" so I can be safe for my patients!!! :uhoh3: AMARTIN1

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Daytonite hit it on the mark! Hang in there!

Thank you!!! I'll keep you guys posted. I hope I have my job next week. AMARTIN1

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I feel for you daytonite. I don't understand why the experienced nurses are so negative to the new nurses. I think what she should've done was told you what she expected from you and what you needed to work on. Just know that you are not alone. Hang in there.

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This is an awful thing to have happened to you. Based on what you've written I would do two things:

First, tell your "friend" that you are disappointed that she told the director of the internship program the things you told her, you thought, in confidence. Don't say anything more to her than that. From now on the only thing you talk with her about is the weather. Don't talk to her or anyone else at work about your feelings any more. At least, not at this time.

Secondly, I would go to this director of your internship and tell her that after thinking about what she said to you, you would like to have some specific feedback from her as to what ways you are behind the others and just what kinds of things you should be doing that she is suggesting you are not doing. Tell her she left you hanging and you have a right to know why she would make a statement like that without backing it up with examples. If you didn't learn this in school I will tell you that the evaluation of a worker involves letting them know when they are not working up to the level expected of them, backing it up with evidence of examples and incidences, (always, always!) offering them help in correcting their shortcomings, telling them exactly what kind of performance is expected and then following up. If this lady were any kind of nurturer of new nurses she would be giving you specific examples of where she feels you are behind and giving you advice or information to help you get to the performance level you need to be. Based on what you've written I would say she stinks at her job. (But, don't tell anyone I said that--I don't want her coming back at me. :rotfl: )

Finally, if you don't get a satisfactory answer from the director of your internship program, and if things get to look bleak (like you've been told your employment might be in jeopardy), I would tell you to go to your nurse manager and tell her how you have been treated by this woman. I'd hold off doing that for now because this woman may be a jerk and acting totally on her own and have no influence over your employment. So, don't stir up anything with your manager if you don't have to.

Don't let the fact that you didn't have any kind of experience in nursing before going to nursing school eat away at you, babe. I didn't either and some people used that as a weapon to make me feel like I was somehow inferior to them. It's horse pucky. Shame on them. I turned out just fine, and so will you.

:yeahthat:

LaVonne

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