But I'm Pregnant . . . . . - page 4

Along the lines of the "But I have little kids . . . . " thread: One of my co-workers announced her pregnancy this week, stating that she was no longer willing to work weekends or holidays because... Read More

  1. by   bethin
    Gee, I think I'll get pregnant and use the excuses "no weekends, no holidays.
  2. by   LorraineCNA
    Had to jump in on this old one also. I'm a CMA and work in a very busy family practice. We have a gal in our office who spent her entire pregnancy front office (dr's office), couldn't pull charts (unable to stretch that high), unable to carry charts (too heavy), unable to do ANY back office (couldn't be on her feet). She had a miscarriage I'm not sure how many years ago and has lupus so she was basically on light duty if you want to call it that her whole pregnancy. She comes back to work 4 weeks after delivery and a month later...guess what??? She's PREGNANT again! So we're back to the same exact thing as last time.

    While I certainly want her to have a healthy baby...the girls a sweetie...I think it's unfair for the rest of us to have to pick up the load if she can't handle the physical aspects of the job. It IS a doctor's office, it's not all THAT physical.

  3. by   Paravell
    Hey Everyone!

    First let me extend a good job out to all those pregnant nurses who are still bustin' their butts and not using pregnancy as "an excuse" not to work!

    And, just to add another side to the story, try being a pregnant RN looking for a job! I lost my job in New Orleans due to the hurricane completely destroying my hospital. After that nightmare, we relocated and shortly afterwards I found out that I was pregnant! I needed time to recover from the whole hurricane ordeal, and then I started putting applications out. Well, the interviews go great but they always manage to ask the questions that make me say, yes, I'm pregnant. And now my my belly is getting bigger by the day so there is no hiding it! I have an interview at a dr's office monday and i hope they are more understanding. I have had no complications (knock on wood), i'm feeling good these days, and I don't plan on taking any kind of huge long maternity leave. I am desparately broke and WANT TO WORK! So, we'll see what happens. Anyway, just thought I would throw that in
  4. by   GooeyRN
    I worked until the end of my pregnancy. Severe nausea, vomiting, backaches, you name it. I did not ask for help w/ passing meds, treatments, or call bells. Out of curtesy, my coworkers gave me the group closest to the nurses station. I would not lift heavy patients alone, but then no one should. Everyones pregnancy is different. Some can work with no limitations and that is not so for others. If you are too sick to do a nurses work, find something else to do until its time for delivery.
  5. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Hi there! Just a few words come to mind reading this old thread:

    First: Let's just agree not all pregnancies go the same way---some go without incident. We all have heard the story of the nurse who "checked herself into L/D in active labor, after working her 18 hour shift downstairs"--e.g. "what a woman"! , etc. We have also heard of those stuck on bedrest after the 4th month, sadly.

    Next, we can all agree: It's not the same for everyone. And while there ARE women who take advantage of their "delicate conditions", most press on and do the best they can, given this TEMPORARY condition.

    Let us also agree, while reasonable accomodation should be made, it should not be at the cost of coworker's wellness and need.

    Finally, let's also agree not to turn this into an anti-pregnant-coworker thread......and keep the insensitive, inflammatory, generalizing, or uncaring remarks out of it, if we can, please.

    Last edit by SmilingBluEyes on Jan 27, '06
  6. by   Cooper13
    I know this is an old thread, but I think it fits the problem I am having.

    Have coworker that did IVF & ended up pregnant with twins. She's about 5 months along. We both are full time charge nurses on nights, working opposite 12 hour shift with a few part timers that pick up when we are off.

    Here's my problem--& maybe I'm just being a jerk (I know you all will give it to me straight, which is what I need). This person apparently went to the DON & said that she is willing to pick up extra shifts, but only if she is charge. We are chronically low staffed so this is an issues that does & will come up often. Without asking me (which is part of what bugs me so much about this situation), he told her that any shift she picks up, she can be charge.

    Let me clear...I don't mind working on the floor. I really enjoy my job & it's nice to be able to occasionally take my own team. & I certainly don't want anything to happen to her babies. But this decision is going to effect my check (of which EVERY cent has an allocated place). It doesn't seem right that because of a decision that she made, I'm going to lose money.

    When I noticed my schedule had changed the first time, I sent her a note to ask what was going on (again, no one felt it was important to tell me about this) ...& she came UNGLUED. Apparently, it was terrible for me to even inquire why my shift had changed. I dropped it with her immediately, since she came in hot & looking for a fight. I guess what I am looking for is advice about whether or not I should talk to the DON about this or ignore it & pray for her due date & that she doesn't get knocked up again? Any opinions or better ideas are very much appreciated. Thanks for reading.
    Last edit by Cooper13 on Jul 12, '16 : Reason: Misspelled & poor grammar
  7. by   StellaCJ
    How are they different? Just curious how things are done in different countries! Currently 13 weeks pregnant :-)
  8. by   Katie82
    Pregnancy in and of itself should not be a disability until it really becomes one because of some problem with the pregnancy. At that point, time to move to a different setting or go out on disability. Not fair to the rest of the staff. As far as not working weekends and Christmas - ridiculous. Find another line of work. I once worked with a nurse who told us all that she could never work on Christmas day because she promised her children she would always be home on Christmas.
  9. by   feelix
    There are good and bad pregnancies, low risk and high risk pregnancies and pregnancies requiring accommodations. All accommodations should be recommended by a doctor and should not mean more work for other staff. Not working weekends or holidays is a preference. Tell me what hospital and I will apply.
  10. by   JellyDonut
    I have dealt with the "Im pregnant" excuse before as a charge and as a director. Easy fix, they can always clock out and go home. There is no reason a pregnant person cannot take 95% of the patients admitted. No i don't want them taking a TB patient or a patient with shingles or a chemo patient and I am sure there are a few others. There is no reason they cannot take MRSA, VRE, CDIFF etc...

    While we are on it....people with children think they somehow deserve holidays off. Christmas because "I have children". Mother's Day because "I have children". Thanksgiving because "I have children" - well sweetie you should have picked another profession.

    I am not heartless I will gladly help my preggos out with lifting and turning but I would not do it for them. It is not the rest of the staffs fault you got knocked up! We are happy for you but you still have a job to do. I also have no issue when they return to work and want to leave the floor to pump. Most people are responsible and when someone is taking advantage of the situation they need to be addressed.

    the other peeve I have is when the women track down the men to do all the lifting. I witnessed a nurse leave a room and yell down the hall for a male nurse to help her get a patient off the bedside commode all while two female nurses were sitting at the nurses station flipping thru magazines. I stepped in and had a chat with the nurse and asked her why she called for the guy who was obviously busy when there were two nurses sitting three feet from her with the time to help. He said, " he is the guy and he should help us lift". Needless to say we had a long discussion to help her see exactly how incorrect she was.
  11. by   Katie82
    Amen to that, JellyDonut. Bedside nursing pays well, but there are a lot of trade-offs. I worked hospital for 11 years, then finally took a pay cut to work outside the hospital. You reach a point where work-life balance is more important than the money.

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