x post Medication management...( kindalong)

Thunderwolf, MSN, RN · Jan 12, 2006

If it was not germaine to your treatment (what brought you in and keeps you in treatment), it may not have been appropriate. If not, I would have chosen not to answer and just refocused the conversation.

Was it per chance, idle social talk on the doc's end, but awkward at best? If it was, people, even docs, can ask the stupidist things...they're human too.

chicagrl72 · Jan 13, 2006

If it was not germaine to your treatment (what brought you in and keeps you in treatment), it may not have been appropriate. If not, I would have chosen not to answer and just refocused the conversation.
Was it per chance, idle social talk on the doc's end, but awkward at best? If it was, people, even docs, can ask the stupidist things...they're human too.

It has nothing to do with my treatment and perhaps it was idle chat but not the kind I feel is appropriate. Thanks so much for your insight. I am still not sure what I will do - probably nothing but I wish I had come back with a good line. Instead I just froze ...and said "well we are not ready to get married right now although we are together .....and plan to be for a long time"

kadokin, ASN, RN · Jan 25, 2006

It has nothing to do with my treatment and perhaps it was idle chat but not the kind I feel is appropriate. Thanks so much for your insight. I am still not sure what I will do - probably nothing but I wish I had come back with a good line. Instead I just froze ...and said "well we are not ready to get married right now although we are together .....and plan to be for a long time"

Here's my thought. Although it may be seen as inappropriate, maybe she was concerned for your future and your ability to cope. Don't know your dx and don't think it is pertinent, but, ya know, adding a second child to a non-legally commited relationship COULD have a bearing on your future well-being. Being a single parent is just TOO MUCH STRESS. So is ending a long-term committed relationship. Put the two together and you could end up w/a basket-load of serious stress. Maybe your provider was concerned about the possible implications if you and dp were to call it quits. If you were married, at least there would be some sort of legal recourse/mandated financial support/concrete closure, etc. when and if the relationship ended. Just a thought or two.

You should probably ask WHY she asked that next time you see her. I understand psychiatrists enjoy having their questions answered w/questions. :rotfl:

But, seriously, an experienced clinician I work with once quoted another clinician HE used to work w/thusly: EVERYTHING is grist for the "therapeutic mill".

Food for thought.:)

Hope it helps

LoriAlabamaRN · Jan 25, 2006

I would say that as your psychiatrist, she was simply trying to see if there were problems you needed to talk about relating to that issue. Psychiatrists do ask deeply personal questions, it's part of their job.

CharlieRN · Feb 2, 2006

I would say that as your psychiatrist, she was simply trying to see if there were problems you needed to talk about relating to that issue. Psychiatrists do ask deeply personal questions, it's part of their job.

Is she perchance the doc who supervises your therapist? This is often the case. Frequently the therapist is functioning under the licsence of the MD who manages the meds. If so she has a legit interest in you general well being.