Why do some nurses like to whine and complain i

[Springdaisy04]

I am a registered a nurse and I work in a long term care facility. I noticed that some nurses like to whine and complain. I remember at a previous job I worked at, also in a LTC facility that there were certain nurses that like to complain. One nurse in particular, her name was Mary X was always whining and complaining that I was helping her enough. I was the charge nurse. I did all the charting, followed up on all the lab reports and carried out all the orders. I would also handle any emergency that would come up. I was in charge of two floors and the supervisor was in charge of the whole building. I would also do the fingersticks and hang all the feedings when I wasn't too busy. I also did all the admissions. Yet this particular nurse was still whining. Nothing I did was enough for her. It's like she wanted me to do her job too. Any thoughts on this?

[inaniel88]

"Am I the only one who's amused by the idea of starting a thread to complain about nurses who complain?"

Well, how do you deal with people who complain day in and day out that they do too much and their jobs are too hard, when in actuality you do way more then them but just don't complain about it as much and they don't take kindly to being called out on it? Just put up with it? For how long? Until it becomes passive-aggressive and toxic? Maybe OP just doesn't want to contribute to the negative/whiny environment at work.

How to deal with negative/whiny people....I usually commiserate at first, but if I'm actually doing more than another person who is constantly negative and complaining about everything every single day, then I try to be annoyingly positive to get the point across that I'm annoyed by their negativity - it sometimes works.

[BabyFood26]

"Am I the only one who's amused by the idea of starting a thread to complain about nurses who complain?"

Well, how do you deal with people who complain day in and day out that they do too much and their jobs are too hard, when in actuality you do way more then them but just don't complain about it as much and they don't take kindly to being called out on it? Just put up with it? For how long? Until it becomes passive-aggressive and toxic? Maybe OP just doesn't want to contribute to the negative/whiny environment at work.

How to deal with negative/whiny people....I usually commiserate at first, but if I'm actually doing more than another person who is constantly negative and complaining about everything every single day, then I try to be annoyingly positive to get the point across that I'm annoyed by their negativity - it sometimes works.

I still stand my Elkpark s comment on the whole idea of starting this thread being amusing lol

I think it's just the way the whole idea was introduced maybe, or the way the concerns were voiced? Idk lol

But I think you are refering to a higher level/degree of unprofessionalism, not just whining.

As far as the topic goes in general, I try to remember that some else's behavior and the way the act towards me or just period, does not make or break me as an individual. It doesn't take away from my own success. It should not cripple my progress or productivity. It doesn't harm me unless I let it. And it definitely doesnt do anything for my own sanity to dwell on something I have no control over.

Yes there will always be negative vibes that arise in any workplace. The more people that partake in it and the more frequently it occurs, I'd say that can get pretty annoying. Some of us are just more senstive to the idea of ppls actions and attitudes than others. I would like to think I'm just someone who could care less most of the time. Until it actually effects my productivity, in which case I bring it to my supervisors attn. No one is going to make a bad name for myself. Only im allowed to do that! Lol just kidding.

Also, I think many of us have a pretty healthy view on what is considerate towards others, what is defined as mature behavior and general professionalism in the workplace. I'd bet that there are some folks that just cannot understand why everyone can't just hold the same values. I mean lets face it. It is not fun nor productive nor good for personal growth to listen to or be involved in gossip, trash talking, complaining, nit picking, whining, fabricating, manipulating, etc....

I despise drama. But I also try to stay realistic. And reality is, there is nothing you can do about it.

The less importance you set to other people's behavior in the workplace, the better off your mental health will be. Im not advocating ingoring actions/behavior that go against company policy. But I think you get my point.

It can be hard for some people to accept why someone else is the way they are. Most of the time it is not even that. It is just plain difficult to be surrounded by individuals who do not share your standards of how to behave as a professional or even adult period.

Bottom line is, if you feel that you are out numbered in your place of work by employees who are taking away from the company's mission and your objective of being there, if it bothers you to the point you feel like you are being smothered by negativity, find some place else to work before you drive yourself nuts. Not everyone cares about adding value to the work force. This can cause stress to some people who truly value their position in the company and actually enjoy what they do. But whiners will not change. Some people just have some more maturing to do, some never grow out of the victim/woe is me/why me attitude. They will be anywhere you go. The only thing you can do is change how you react to it. The polar opposite positive behavior come backs you mentioned are awesome. The only other thing you can really do is practice ignoring it, Unless you feel your job is in jeopardy because someone is falsifying information to cover their own butts or get brownie points, in which you need to have a serious talk with mngmt. All easier said then done though, right?