I said something casually about a hobby I’d pursue if time and money were no object, and my boyfriend of 8 years went off on a topic that has come up many times: if you really wanted to do it, you would make it happen. Why didn’t you do it last night when you were just scrolling on your ipad? Etc etc He has a desk job and is not the bio dad of my son so although he helps a lot, he’s not financially responsible for him, and his bio dad doesn’t help either. I’m a hospice and home health nurse, often on call in addition to visits, often working 2 weeks straight with no days off. He doesn’t understand that even if they aren’t full 8 or 12 hour days, your brain doesn’t get a rest from work mode. Even if you don’t get a call while on call, you are at a certain level of stress and alertness. I often do end up putting in 50-60 hours, on an always changing schedule. And driving 100 plus miles per week. After work and family, the tank is empty. He thinks that if he has time to pursue hobbies, that there’s no reason I can’t also. He has never experienced the mental, emotional, and physical drain of this type of work.