What would you do?

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I have a male resident that had an indwelling cath due to issues of not being able to void and when he was straight cathed, he had an out of at least 900cc... As I was cleaning him off after removal of the cath, he said to me, as I was cleaning his privates, "Gee, I hope you take care of your husband as well as you take care of me." Didn't think much of it at the time, but later, he called me back in there and was "milking" his member from sack to tip and asked me if I would wipe it off. I got a little freaked out when I went to wipe him with my gloved hands and his member was semi erect! Now normally that wouldn't bug me, but it really bothered me!

Today, he said that he couldn't go and wanted to be "drained" again! I told him that I would have the male nurse that was on do it, since I was in the middle of doing some other things that needed my attention. He got a little upset about it and said to me, "I would prefer a woman would do it, they are much daintyier about doing something like that." After that, I was very freaked out!!!!!!!!! This man has been found fondling himself, and is of right mind, but I'm not going to tolerate those kinds of comments. The male nurse would have done the cath, but the man refused to let him do it!

I want to refuse to "cath" him, but not sure that I can. I am not comfortable with doing that, even when I take someone else in with me!

What should I do?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?:imbar

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Sounds like he can use his hands... ergo, hand him the washcloth... no need to wash privates if the patient can do it himself... He can also be taught to cath himself...

Good point!! If he can do it. But, he may not want to.

I have a different question from the last.

I take care of an alziemers patient and sometimes he gets

violent. The charge nurse told me he can hit really hard.

He is not allowed to get up and walk without two assists.

He gets restless sometimes and wants to get up and won't

give me a chance to pull the signal light to get someone

to help me with him. He is not able to take direction

when he is agitated. I've been told in times past when they

get violent to disengage. In this case, if I distance myself

he is going to fall and hurt himself like he has already done.

Patients who are rational have a right to refuse to be touched

but when they are a threat to themselves and irrational

this all changes. What do you think I should do

when I'm alone with him and he is trying to get up

and walk and he's pushing me away and I know he's

going to fall but if I try to stop him from getting up he gets

violent with me.

He has an order for trazadone but they're not allowed to

give it more often than the book tells them to.

It takes several minutes for the staff to get there

and during this time I am the only one taking care of him.

They get busy at certain times during the shift.

I have a different question from the last.

I take care of an alziemers patient and sometimes he gets

violent. The charge nurse told me he can hit really hard.

He is not allowed to get up and walk without two assists.

He gets restless sometimes and wants to get up and won't

give me a chance to pull the signal light to get someone

to help me with him. He is not able to take direction

when he is agitated. I've been told in times past when they

get violent to disengage. In this case, if I distance myself

he is going to fall and hurt himself like he has already done.

Patients who are rational have a right to refuse to be touched

but when they are a threat to themselves and irrational

this all changes. What do you think I should do

when I'm alone with him and he is trying to get up

and walk and he's pushing me away and I know he's

going to fall but if I try to stop him from getting up he gets

violent with me.

He has an order for trazadone but they're not allowed to

give it more often than the book tells them to.

It takes several minutes for the staff to get there

and during this time I am the only one taking care of him.

They get busy at certain times during the shift.

You need to start a new thread for this, not hijack this one ;)

Now, back to the OP... if the man can "milk" his member, he can darn well clean that thing himself.

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