I have been doing the prereq's for 3 years!! YEAH 3 YEARS!!
I started off great, but once I hit the A&P - went down hill!!
Spring of 06 - Hubby was in hospital dropped AP 1
Fall of 06 - took Chem because it seemed there was chem in the beginning of AP
Spring of 07 - Started off Ok in AP - bombed the bone and tissue test - ended up in the hospital with a miscarriage (did NOT know I was expecting) - dropped the class
Fall of 07 - GOT A D
Spring of 08 - HERE WE GO AGAIN???????
I am a 35yr old mom of three (11, 7,6) - hubby is a OTR truck driver - home on weekends and then I do overnight on those weekends as a CNA at an assisted Living center.
How come EVERYONE ELSE CAN BUT I CAN"T?
I even sit down to study and with chant (in my head)- "I need to study!" But can not seem to focus.
So, I am also a very emotional and easily stressed person - I used to be able to handle anything, but in 2004 my mom died suddenly, Hubby had a heart attack and then my dad committed suicide - then we moved in 2005 - I can not seem to get back on track from all of this.
Financially we are better then ever, but I can not seem to handle the every day chaos anymore - it take me two hours to calm down from yelling at the kids to go to bed!!
No, I have NO hobbies or outlets, but I am beginning to think I need medication - if I go on meds will this hurt me in the long run??
Sorry so long - just needed to pour it out!!
Hubby actually told me to drop out because it might be too hard for me!! THANKS SWEETIE!!!
Please don't give up, when I saw your post and you said it took 3 yrs I kinda choked I have been working on mine for 10 yrs off and on because my oldest daughter with cp needs so much care and my dad had cancer and died. I now run an agency for my daughter so I can hire and fire my own help and I work 24 hours overnights as a cna and etc. YOU CAN DO IT. I am taking a&p 1 with lab and dev psc right now and sometimes I think what the heck am I doing but then I say I know this is for me. It is in the depths of cold maine I live but when the weather is alittle warmer I walk on the Beach and actully splash ocean water on my face and I dont know why but it gets me through the woes of the day. Yes sometimes I think I need meds but so far so good, just wanted to tell you I will be 50 in June of this year so keep on keeping on. I will be thinking about you.:redbeathe:redbeathe:balloons:
Specializes in Rehab, CICU, ICU Pulmonary, ER, OB.
I am sorry to hear that your going through this! DO NOT GIVE UP! If it's want you want to do.
I am in the same situation as you:
Spring 2004 I dropped A&P because hubby and I were almost on the verge of divorce.
Fall 2005 I got a 69.4% needed a 70% to pass.
Fall 2006 I started it again, ended up failing because I didn't drop in time because I was pregnant and had hyperemesis.
So now I have to go to a completely different school. Once you take it 3x's your automatically kicked out of the program. I have been in school for 7 years! FOR A TWO YEAR DEGREE!!!! I have received a associates in medical office management and became a EMT-P waiting for things to fall into place. They didn't.
So now I am applying to other colleges praying to get into one!
I just wanted to let you know your not alone! If you want it... fight for it. Prove them ALL wrong!!
I don't think your question should be how come you can't do it and everyone can. You have been through major life changing events and you still have to deal with every day life. I think that may-be you should take a semester to your self and concentrate on healing from the loss of your parents. Talk to a counselor about your feelings and then when you return to school you will be able to concentrate.
I think that it is to hard to expect your self to just perform when your dealing with such grief. Our mind, body, and soul need time to recoup and it just sounds like you are on over load. I have not suffered the loss you have but I was on over load with school, kids, and responsiblities. I gave myself this break to just unwind and revamp. I'm now looking forward to my semester. I think it is important to just be kind to your self -Love you. If you do give your self a semester off may-be you can review your books and material so that you will have an easier time when you re-take the class. So what if it has taken 3 years-I'm at 3 years for all my pre-req's for my BSN. As long as you are progressing towards your goal that is all that matters -you'll make it. I pray that you will soon have peace and be back to your regular self.
I took prereqs at night, because I had a full-time job and was a mother and wife at the same time. I knew A and P would be tough so I took them all by themselves, and all the prereqs. took me years (I think it was four years), but I hung in there and chugged through them and knocked them out. I remember thinking OMG I will be in school forever... Well I got the prereqs done in May 2007 and started nursing school in September 2007. W00t. Yup still in school but now the end is in sight and I am loving nursing school. Lots of work, but so worth it. Keep at it, and if you have to slow down and take a little bit longer, don't beat yourself up over it. If I can do it, anybody can. Best of luck to you. Regards, Jean
Oh my...I'm sorry to hear about your hardships (((hugs))) I just wanted to say that
I'm a 28 year old single mom of four kids (ages: 12, 11, 9,and 1 yr)...I have no idea how I'm going to pull this off but I know that "nothing in this world worth having comes easy"
There'll always be friends here for you, someone to talk to, someone who's going through some of the same things you are...I've had moments where I want scream and want to pull my hair out...who doesn't? Your a strong woman...you have to be or else you wouldn't have made it this far....just keep on pushing.....stay strong and stay focused.
i have been doing the prereq's for 3 years!! yeah 3 years!!
i started off great, but once i hit the a&p - went down hill!!
spring of 06 - hubby was in hospital dropped ap 1
fall of 06 - took chem because it seemed there was chem in the beginning of ap
spring of 07 - started off ok in ap - bombed the bone and tissue test - ended up in the hospital with a miscarriage (did not know i was expecting) - dropped the class
fall of 07 - got a d
spring of 08 - here we go again???????
i am a 35yr old mom of three (11, 7,6) - hubby is a otr truck driver - home on weekends and then i do overnight on those weekends as a cna at an assisted living center.
how come everyone else can but i can"t?
i even sit down to study and with chant (in my head)- "i need to study!" but can not seem to focus.
so, i am also a very emotional and easily stressed person - i used to be able to handle anything, but in 2004 my mom died suddenly, hubby had a heart attack and then my dad committed suicide - then we moved in 2005 - i can not seem to get back on track from all of this.
financially we are better then ever, but i can not seem to handle the every day chaos anymore - it take me two hours to calm down from yelling at the kids to go to bed!!
no, i have no hobbies or outlets, but i am beginning to think i need medication - if i go on meds will this hurt me in the long run??
sorry so long - just needed to pour it out!!
hubby actually told me to drop out because it might be too hard for me!! thanks sweetie!!!
I can really relate to what you are going through and I too have had several "life events" crop up and set me back time and time again. I too have been trying to get through the pre-req's for several years. And, I am also 35. I finally sent in my first application last month and hope that this might be the beginning of something good.
Do not give up! I found that seeing a psychiatrist was very helpful as well as medication (dealing with stress, focusing, etc.).
Do not feel too bad about your honey saying it might be too hard on you...men like to "fix" things and maybe his response was more about his worry for you and your well being than a statement that you can't do it.
I noticed the post was a few months old so I hope that you figured out what the best thing was for you. And, do not forget that while it may seem like you are just running in circles, every step you take is a step closer to your goal...even the steps that seem to be taking you backwards. Just remind yourself why you are doing this and where you want to be. If your why is strong enough it will push you to keep fighting and keep trying to find the resources you need to make it.
I really do know what you are feeling and I can honestly say that I am glad I kept pushing and fighting to keep moving forward.
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Please don't give up, when I saw your post and you said it took 3 yrs I kinda choked I have been working on mine for 10 yrs off and on because my oldest daughter with cp needs so much care and my dad had cancer and died. I now run an agency for my daughter so I can hire and fire my own help and I work 24 hours overnights as a cna and etc. YOU CAN DO IT. I am taking a&p 1 with lab and dev psc right now and sometimes I think what the heck am I doing but then I say I know this is for me. It is in the depths of cold maine I live but when the weather is alittle warmer I walk on the Beach and actully splash ocean water on my face and I dont know why but it gets me through the woes of the day. Yes sometimes I think I need meds but so far so good, just wanted to tell you I will be 50 in June of this year so keep on keeping on. I will be thinking about you.:redbeathe:redbeathe:balloons: