Wednesday November 23 2022

Tweety, BSN, RN · Nov 23, 2022

Good morning.

Joe, glad you're feeling better. Have a nice day.

Stars, glad you had some pep in your step.

J22, glad that nothing glaring was wrong with your CT.

I talked to my parents on Monday and they sounded very good. My mother's mentation is much improved after getting off metoprolol and having her meds looked after a bit more careful. I was bit surprised to find them alone. My sister had come back to Florida to take care of them things. My brother checked on them Tuesday and he said they were doing good and had no concerns.

My sister did not tell me she was coming back to Florida and isn't answering my calls. She made no effort to reach out to be to get together. She did get together with her daughter once, but was a no show another time she was supposed to come over. She was supposed to return to my parents on Monday but by Tuesday was a no show there. Apparently she said the had some plumbing issues she needed to take care of with the septic tank. No doubt needing money from my parents to do that, if that's even true.

Her daughter, my niece, called me last night and said she's back on drugs. After so many decades of dealing with her drug addiction, I don't care.

What I care about is I was counting on her to be the caretaker of my parents in their frail years because she promised us that. It's been horribly stressful on her, especially when mom was really confused and anxious for those weeks. I understand that. We've offered help in the way of home health aides but she refused.

I'm also concerned she'll take advantage of them financially. They do not have much money at all but she burned through tens of thousands of dollars of her ex-husband's money and isn't above taking advantage of my parents to get high. The access to my mother's opiates for her fractured arm and some chronic pain and their money I guess was too much for the addict in her.

Wow that was a lot to unload and I talked to a friend but I guess I'm still processing it all. I had to take a klonopin to shut it off and get some rest. I'm sick about it and not sure what I can do. At least I can send my brother over there to check since he lives clothes, but he's no caretaker and works a minimum wage job and has to work. I'll call the police if I have to. I'm sick about it all.

See Stars, you're not the only one with family drama.

I'm off today and with the gym closed I'll do some housework.

I hope everyone's Thanksgiving plans go well today.

No Stars In My Eyes · Nov 23, 2022

Whoa, Tweety, you do have a tangled web with your sister. That's so sad, and I am sorry to hear she could not pass up the drugs/$$, etc. Terrible.

My BiL and SiL are convinced we are after hubby's dad's $$, but HE NEVER HAD ANY. I don't know why they think he left a bunch of money; he took out a large insurance policy on himself and when he passed away, it went to pay off his burial, and the mortgage on the house and property. All Nannie has is her burial money, and some $ in her checking acct, and that's it. Oh, and a credit card with $500 something on it to pay off.

Hubby's brother has been left 1/10th of 1% on the value of the house, which is I-don't-know-what amount of money, but not too much, I'd say. He said long ago that he wouldn't agree to selling the house, although he doesn't want it. He just is trying to "get back" at his brother (my hubby). But he has no clue what's real and what is his imagination.

There are many things that need to be done to this house, like all the window panes, which are suffering from dried up and peeling caulking, and IMHO the windows ALL need replacing because only one or two can be opened. The kitchen-cabinets (old, deep, dark and SMALL for storage) set-up just plain sucks, and the appliances are OLD. The carpeting on the 6 stairs that go upstairs is BLACK with dirt and the fall-out of frequent sprays of febreeze in the hall. (Hubby is sensitive to, um, "organic" smells) And all the floors need cleaning, plus the woodwork on the front porch needs painting. And a lot more etceteras.

So what I am saying is that this house is pretty much a fixer-upper, and as such probably wouldn't get as much money as it is worth, although the lot and the neighborhood are good selling points. Not that we will sell, because not having a mortgage or rent is a big reason to keep it! I said something to hubby about not being able to constantly do the stairs as we get older; he said we would just move downstairs and use the den and make the laundry room from Nannie's bedroom to OUR bedroom. (That's assuming Nannie doesn't live for another 93 years.).

Hubby got some stuff at the grocery store to put together for a meal tomorrow, but I am not quite sure what. At first it looked like some crock-pot fixin's but he was talking about sliced ham because there was no turkey left at the store (?). Anyway, I don't have to do too much thinking about it, so I'm fine with whatever it ends up being.

Joe, I used to know a funny saying, something like "I feel more like myself than I used to......." --??-- Ah, that's not quite it! If it comes to me I'll come back and post it./ Glad you'll have some days off now. It is 66 degrees and sunny here! I think we will get some rain tomorrow and/or Friday, and again on Sunday. But who knows, because where we live a lot of the weather fore-casts go around us.

Oh, hey! Hubby told me I look like I've lost a little weight, so before I took my shower, I got on the scale: Lo and Behold! I am down by 5 lbs! Nice! ?

Hope all are having a good day!

Editorial Team / Admin · Nov 23, 2022

((((((((((((((((((((( Tweety ))))))))))))))))))))) I don't blame you, being frustrated and worried about your parents. And angry with your sister. But not surprised. I hope your parents continue to do well (with the medication changes for your mom), and that your brother can/will continue to check on them. Might be good to have a Plan B, in case they need more care. But I'm sure you've thought of that. // Did you bowl this week??

No Stars, so you get a surprise Thanksgiving dinner tomorrow? ? I hope the gypsies stay away!

Joe, good you are feeling better. And, good it is warmer so you can be out and about. I always found it fun to shop with all the seasonal decorations up, as long as I didn't NEED to be out for anything. Hated fighting the crowds!

No big plans for today. Have a good day!

Tweety, BSN, RN · Nov 24, 2022

Thanks for all the support.

Dianah, I did bowl this week and put a selfie on my Instagram. LOL. But we had a good night again. Last week even though we won we stayed in 14th place. This week our wins put us in 13th place. At least it's not last. LOL

I just got back from Walmart as my computer needed a new mouse and it wasn't that crowded at all. I'm one of those that has no problem with self-checkout and walked up to one without a line and done.

I do have compassion for my sister. She doesn't want to be an addict and it must be exhausting. She also probably should be on psych meds but doesn't have insurance and falls through the cracks of being able to get assistance. Her addiction has traumatized her daughter's childhood, her grandchildren that adored her had to deal with her being in jail, heartbroken my parents who are now too elderly to deal with it, and turned her into a thief, liar and manipulator. I've always stood beside her, believed in her, listened to her, offered her support but she lost my trust years ago but I never judge her. If my parents weren't involved I'd just let her do her thing and let go. But still not much more I can do at the moment.

My brother stopped by my parents and had no concerns about them being alone, so there is that.