verbal discipline and retalliation...(a little vent)

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here's the situation. at change of shift a few days ago, four nurses were sitting at the nurses desk, reporting off. seven aids were mingling with each other waiting for assignments, report, etc, down their respective halls. down comes one hall and when she turned the corner, right in front of our desk, out whips her flip cell phone in broad view and she continued to talk all the way down to the end of her hall (the unit she was one). i work ltc. i tried, quietly to say something as she walked by, but she ignored me. i called the supervisor on the other unit, and just told her what i had saw, and asked if she could tell her to please not pull out your phone and start talking while walking down the hall. no big deal to have cell phone on your person where we work, but it is to just whip it out and start talking. :rolleyes:

anyhoo, the person was asked as above, and came out fuming. starting calling me every name in the book, literally. (gay b****, kiss a**, i don't give a s*** what her title is, she can't say nothin to me, cause my name is (blank) and i can do whatever i want.) she has bashed me to three different sets of people, who (one group anyway) went and reported her to upper management as violently describing "what she was going to do to me the next time she saw me", which by the way, happens today at 3pm.

i didn't even find out about all the namecalling (and i mean, very colorful namecalling, etc) until late in my shift last night, and admin only knew about the one group she spoke to, who reported her.

anyway. big sigh. i am just tired of dealing with people who willfully disregard any rule or regulation with blatant disregard, and then who verbally threaten and intimidate. it was really not a big deal what was said to her. just the rule: don't talk on the cellphone on working hours. oh, but i forgot, my title doesn't mean anything, and who am i to tell HER what to do. :angryfire

i just wanted to let this out, it has caused me a sleepless, fretful night knowing i have to see her today.

thanks for listening:)

Specializes in rehab; med/surg; l&d; peds/home care.

oh how i wish us nurses would stick together and be one strong voice to those who try to push us down. you're right, we'd be one strong bunch. we could change so much. what makes nurses not want to stick together?

i can honestly say i get more support from this board than from nurses at work. though i must say i do have a handful of nurses that i work with who are angels, and support me. some just want what's best from themselves. i guess i can't judge them. but it makes it hard when some will discipline and others don't. i wish the cna's would just do their job. i hate having to have to repeat their duties every day to them: please pass your water, please answer that light, please wipe their faces after they eat, please do your vitals. can you imagine if they had to do that to the nurses? our boss telling us: ok, pass your meds, do your assessments, monitor labs, call the doctor for problems, etc. of course, we know to do those things. why don't the cna's know? why are they just trying to buy time till their shift is over? hiding, taking super long breaks, disappearing off the unit, "forgetting" that they had to do showers, "forgetting that they had vitals to do", etc. long term care is full of politics that i am growing so tired of. i just wish we could work together and take wonderful care of our elderly who desperately need our care! i am saddened to see the state of the elderly who are in nursing homes. it is truly a shame how a few people work so hard, but can't do it all. if we could just clone those who care, maybe our elderly would get the care they so genuinely need.

and i'm tired of the mentality from the cna's, oh, were short so i don't have time to do showers, etc. what?! if i'm short a nurse, i still have to get meds passed, treatments done, assessments complete, etc!!!!

sigh.

thanks to all of you who posted, and followed my thread. i so appreciate it. maybe we could start a threat for us ltc nurses (and hosp nurses too, all nurses!) who struggle with managing cna's and staff who don't want to work? a thread to share our strategies, and support each other?

i love my patients and residents where i work. if i go back, it will be for them, and no one else. i love the smiles on their faces when i come in and they say, thank god you're here we love you and you take good care of us! i am thanked so often by my patients and families for being a good nurse. i never get a thank you from admin. but the patients need someone who will look out for their needs, and in that building right now, there is but a few who do.

thanks you guys for supporting me! you're the greatest! i love this site! and to all you nurses who work thanklessly taking care of patients who need you, thank you, bless you. our reward will come in another life, i believe.

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