I am trying to change jobs, feel like a big loser living at home with the 'rents and not making enough money to pay for my own house (had to sell back in October). Work at home (medical transcription) so don't have a lot of contact with the outside world and do not really have any close friends in this area that I can talk to.
I have been accepted to the ADN program in town and ever since have been trying to figure out how to swing all this. Would pretty much HAVE to continue working full time because I don't dare lose my health insurance (thyroid cancer requires monitoring twice a year). So I realize that full time nursing school (no option to do part time) and full time transcription (no option to pare down to part time) will be a heck of a horrible schedule, even though I don't have kids and am single.
My parents don't think I can hack the schedule. They see how miserable it will be, and I agree. They are also (or at least my mother is) scared that I will catch H1N1 flu because of the fact that it's still going around (and I need to take a summer class starting middle of July) and will probably still be going around and will likely worsen, in the fall when nursing school officially starts.
My parents love me and don't want to hold me back. But they don't give me any "yeah, you can do it" pep talks or anything and I am thinking maybe they are right, maybe I'm crazy to try this. I would be in a high risk category for H1N1 complications (obese) and would not have much time for sleep, which runs down your immunity, once the school plus work schedule starts in the fall.
How do I figure out if I should just call it quits before I even start? Maybe I am just heading into a big disaster!
"I just think it's probably more practical not to do it, at least not at this time, but I want to just go for it even thought my parents think I'm putting myself in a world of misery and a disaster if I fail."
I'm sorry, it just sounds like YOU are the one setting yourself up to fail. I don't think you are ready for this challenge. Your attitude says it all. You put in your post that you didn't think it was the right time and not practical then put it all on your parents. Nursing school is a place to take responsibility for YOURSELF. Not to put things off on other people. I also see you using H1N1 as an excuse. When you truly want something, you don't look for a way out, you just do it.
I'm sorry, but I think you have other issues to take care of before starting school. I don't mean this to be cruel, but I think you should let someone else, someone who really wants it no matter the cost, to take your place in the program. I'm not saying you can't go back eventually, but you need to focus on yourself right now. You should look at your well being. Physically and mentally. Get this in check, and may I suggest getting out of your parents wing if they are the ones holding you back, and apply again!!!
Yes, I know the weight needs to come off! Especially if I want to be a nurse. It's so hard. I've lost 100 lbs before but gained it back. I felt so much better with the 100 lbs off. It's difficult because it's very hot here so not much outdoor activities possible without the risk of heatstroke! Not able to afford a gym.
I don't think my school has health insurance for students.
OK. I'll give you the "kick in the butt" that you say your parents never gave you.
1. Stop making excuses for yourself. If you want to do something ... do it. If not, do something else. But either way, take responsibility for your own decisions and actions. Give things a try so that you can figure out what you like and don't like. Choose a career and then start taking steps in that direction. If something doesn't work out, choose another direction. That's how people succeed in life. They don't succeed by sitting around and making excuses as to why they are not going anywhere.
2. As for it being too hot to exercise ... excercise at night ... or in the early morning .. . or in your house ...etc. You don't need an expensive gym membership to excercise. Only a very small percentage of the world's population belongs to a gym. Stop using that as an excuse.
3. You say you "don't think" the school of your choice has a health insurance. Find out for sure. Ask them what other students do. Explore your options before assuming that your only option is to work full time. Maybe if you would work part time, you could keep the health insurance and just pay a portion of the premium (which could be covered by a small student loan.)
No one can help you if you won't help yourself.
Now ... that's the type of lecture that my "go getter" parents would have given me. (Other parents would have kicked their kid out of the house when they reached adulthood and forced them to sink or swim.) It sounds like you have loving parents who are willing to help support you through school by providing you a safe place to live. That's terrific. Appreciate that they can help you in that way -- and stop blaming them for not handing the education to you on a silver platter. Recognize that you now have to do YOUR part to step up and do the work of making arrangements for your schooling so that you can get a good job and support yourself in the future.
This post may seem a bit harsh ... but you said you wished your parents were the "go getter" types. You seemed to want and need a dose of what "go getter" types would say. Yes, such parents might praise you more than yours do ... but they would also teach you that nobody gets ahead by sitting around making excuses. People get ahead by moving forward. That's what you need to do.
Good luck to you. I really hope you pull yourself together and start moving down a path towards a better life for yourself. Just put one foot in front of the other -- each and every day.
You can "what if...?" yourself till the cows come home and still be right in the same place. It comes down to this, do you want to be a nurse? If the answer is no, then get yourself to a career counselor and start figuring out what you want to do.
If the answer is yes, then do it. Living at home while you're in school has no shame attached to it at all. Find out if there's health insurance through your school, if there is...enroll and change your work situation. If there isn't, and you do need to continue your work schedule, well, at least your job allows the flexibility to go to school and work. It will be tough, but there's no reason you can't do it.....it really just depends on whether you want to do it.
You're a grown adult, you can't depend on your parents for motivation. While I'm sure your parents love you, they are who they are...wishing that they become the kind of folks who are your cheerleading section won't change anything. You can't change them....but here's the good news!!! You can change the way you look at life; you can become your own cheerleader!!! In fact, you're the only person who can make this change. Because, really, you could have a fleet of cheerleaders cheering you on, but until you believe that you can do something....nothing will change.
This is your life, not theirs, you're responsible for what you make of it, and most importantly you will have to live with what you make.
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"I just think it's probably more practical not to do it, at least not at this time, but I want to just go for it even thought my parents think I'm putting myself in a world of misery and a disaster if I fail."
I'm sorry, it just sounds like YOU are the one setting yourself up to fail. I don't think you are ready for this challenge. Your attitude says it all. You put in your post that you didn't think it was the right time and not practical then put it all on your parents. Nursing school is a place to take responsibility for YOURSELF. Not to put things off on other people. I also see you using H1N1 as an excuse. When you truly want something, you don't look for a way out, you just do it.
I'm sorry, but I think you have other issues to take care of before starting school. I don't mean this to be cruel, but I think you should let someone else, someone who really wants it no matter the cost, to take your place in the program. I'm not saying you can't go back eventually, but you need to focus on yourself right now. You should look at your well being. Physically and mentally. Get this in check, and may I suggest getting out of your parents wing if they are the ones holding you back, and apply again!!!
Best of Luck-