In A&P lab I sit across from a guy who has some "social roadblocks" if you will. He's a nice enough guy, friendly, smart. But a little different.
So the past few labs I've noticed that the other people at our lab table spend a good deal of lab time talking and laughing about this guy.
This really gets to me. Its distracting for one thing.
For another I have to bite my tongue the entire time.
I have ZERO tolerance for bully and bully behavior. I have a facial birth defect and lived in hell during my elem & high school years (and still really struggle with it), I would have thought this kind of thing stops once a person matures, but obviously not.
I admit, this guy can be somwhat annoying....things like he sings or hums to himself while doing microscope work, he has a "different" look as far as clothes and hair..wears those thick rimmed "drew carey" style glasses.
He talks alot. He mostly keeps to himself.
But sheesh....he's a human being and has feelings like the rest of us.
I don't know if I'll be able to bite my tongue the rest of the semester.
I know I'm sensitive to this type of situation, does anyone have any advice on how to best deal with this? I'll be really mad if / when this guy notices these other students behavior (1 guy about 28, a girl about 26 & another girl about 22) I've worked in hospitals before so I know how much of this stuff goes on and I think its really disgusting. Don't we all have more important things to do and to think about? I thought people outgrew this type of immature behavior!
I saw an ad for a new book called "Mean Girls Grow Up" maybe I should go buy it. I really speaks alot of a person who acts like this once they are an adult.
In A&P lab I sit across from a guy who has some "social roadblocks" if you will. He's a nice enough guy, friendly, smart. But a little different.
So the past few labs I've noticed that the other people at our lab table spend a good deal of lab time talking and laughing about this guy.
This really gets to me. Its distracting for one thing.
For another I have to bite my tongue the entire time.
I have ZERO tolerance for bully and bully behavior. I have a facial birth defect and lived in hell during my elem & high school years (and still really struggle with it), I would have thought this kind of thing stops once a person matures, but obviously not.
I admit, this guy can be somwhat annoying....things like he sings or hums to himself while doing microscope work, he has a "different" look as far as clothes and hair..wears those thick rimmed "drew carey" style glasses.
He talks alot. He mostly keeps to himself.
But sheesh....he's a human being and has feelings like the rest of us.
I don't know if I'll be able to bite my tongue the rest of the semester.
I know I'm sensitive to this type of situation, does anyone have any advice on how to best deal with this? I'll be really mad if / when this guy notices these other students behavior (1 guy about 28, a girl about 26 & another girl about 22) I've worked in hospitals before so I know how much of this stuff goes on and I think its really disgusting. Don't we all have more important things to do and to think about? I thought people outgrew this type of immature behavior!
I saw an ad for a new book called "Mean Girls Grow Up" maybe I should go buy it. I really speaks alot of a person who acts like this once they are an adult.
Well, I have several thoughts on this matter. First, these not so kind classmates of yours may not be pre-nursing students. Second, the nice classmate with some "social roadblocks" may not even be bothered by the rude classmates. However, there rude behavior does seem to be bothering you. Why? Is there behavior such an annoyance to prevent you from focusing on your Labs, or is it empathy that boils your core temp?
You might want to casually speak to the classmate in front of you about what you have observed. His response may make you feel more at ease, if he has noticed there rude behavior, and chooses to not let it bother him.
On the otherhand, if there rudeness bothers you to a degree of hampering your Labs, then you might want to speak to your Lab Instructor. Sometimes when I try to "police up a matter" so to speak, my :angryfire can get me in trouble. So, following your Chain-of-Command by speaking to the Lab Instr., as well as talking to the hateful chit-chat victim may be your next course of action, rather than a one-on-three confrontation.
I'll be really mad if / when this guy notices these other students behavior (1 guy about 28, a girl about 26 & another girl about 22) I've worked in hospitals before so I know how much of this stuff goes on and I think its really disgusting. Don't we all have more important things to do and to think about? I thought people outgrew this type of immature behavior! 
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Well, I have several thoughts on this matter. First, these not so kind classmates of yours may not be pre-nursing students. Second, the nice classmate with some "social roadblocks" may not even be bothered by the rude classmates. However, there rude behavior does seem to be bothering you. Why? Is there behavior such an annoyance to prevent you from focusing on your Labs, or is it empathy that boils your core temp?
You might want to casually speak to the classmate in front of you about what you have observed. His response may make you feel more at ease, if he has noticed there rude behavior, and chooses to not let it bother him.
On the otherhand, if there rudeness bothers you to a degree of hampering your Labs, then you might want to speak to your Lab Instructor. Sometimes when I try to "police up a matter" so to speak, my :angryfire can get me in trouble. So, following your Chain-of-Command by speaking to the Lab Instr., as well as talking to the hateful chit-chat victim may be your next course of action, rather than a one-on-three confrontation.