Tuesday December 13th 2022

Tweety, BSN, RN · Dec 13, 2022

Good morning!

Joe, do you mean by "partial breakup" that you broke up the romantic part and are just friends that still talk to each other? Hope you continue to go on the mend.

(((Stars)))

Ado, sounds like a bad situation with step-son.

Dianah, that's great you guys have a good relationship with your children.

Just got a call to schedule a mandatory inspection by the state insurance company I'm with. What a waste of tax payer dollars as I just had the same inspection by a private agency before they would insurance me. If it was good enough a few months ago for me to get insurance, why isn't it good enough now to keep it? Bleh...no sense getting bent out of shape.

Going to yoga here in a few and to see the movie "The Fabelman's".

Joe NightingMale, MSN, RN · Dec 13, 2022

2 hours ago, Tweety said:

Good morning!

Joe, do you mean by "partial breakup" that you broke up the romantic part and are just friends that still talk to each other? Hope you continue to go on the mend.

(((Stars)))

Ado, sounds like a bad situation with step-son.

Dianah, that's great you guys have a good relationship with your children.

Just got a call to schedule a mandatory inspection by the state insurance company I'm with. What a waste of tax payer dollars as I just had the same inspection by a private agency before they would insurance me. If it was good enough a few months ago for me to get insurance, why isn't it good enough now to keep it? Bleh...no sense getting bent out of shape.

Going to yoga here in a few and to see the movie "The Fabelman's".

Yep, that is the plan, to remain friends

No Stars In My Eyes · Dec 13, 2022

Jeepers! Hubby called me "by accident' when he was trying to get his dgt on the phone.

He is sitting out in the car, he sounds drunk. I asked him if he took his medicine this morning and he said no...so I brought it out to him, and on the seat beside him was a paper bag like you get at the liquor store, with the bottle top showing. I asked if he'd been drinking and he said no, that the bag was "just trash". Yuh. I hope he doesn't fall when he decides to come back inside.

Just sign me ---disgusted.

No Stars In My Eyes · Dec 13, 2022

Nope, yup, he fell. He decided to go across the street to see if the guy over there had the laptop set up for him. He made it right to the end of the driveway, and then he fell. A driver saw it and pulled over , the neighbor who has helped him up before came over, and another driver pulled over. They got him to the front porch, and I heard a lot of talking, so I went up to see what was going on. There he sat with the palm of his right hand bleeding, and a few other spots that were abraded. I got him in to the kitchen and bandaged him, then he asked me to make him a p'nut butter and mayo sandwich, which I did.

I talked to him and asked if he knew there was such a thing as an involuntary commitment, and he said he did. Of course, I know it did no good, but I told him that our anniversary is on Friday, and he is going to the doctor that day if he doesn't end up killing himself first. I said I would really appreciate it if he would stay alive so we can have a retirement together. He said "I understand" and I said I don't think you really do. He asked me if I had brought the liquor inside and I had, but I told him he doesn't need to be drinking any more. (I put the bag of little bottles under the kitchen sink and tossed the empty bigger bottle.)

I helped him downstairs to his recliner and now he is sitting there with his 02 on, nodding, snoring, and looking like a dope. Nannie is sort of napping. I guess her dementia keeps her from adding 2 and 2 together; anybody could tell he was terribly drunk.

I wish it was already Friday afternoon and he was at the doctor's office. I'm not going to mince words when I tell the doctor about this week, and so much to tell, only just after he was discharged from the hospital on Sunday.

He is so stupid, I can't stand it. But I know that intelligence has nothing to do with alcoholism.

I have so much more I could write, but it won't do anything but make me feel worse.

Thanks for being here.

Tweety, BSN, RN · Dec 14, 2022

7 hours ago, Joe NightingMale said:

Yep, that is the plan, to remain friends

Gotcha. I've always said even though I stayed friends with my ex(s) that we broke up...but are still friends, not "partially broke up". Haven't spoken to either of them in years but technically we're still friends I guess.

Stars your anger is palpable. I wish for you a way to give him an ultimatum. "You get sober either through rehab or any other way...or such and such will be the consequence" because "you're going to die and hurt yourself, and you're hurting me isn't going to work. But I know you're kind of stuck and then Nannie is in the equation, it's not like I did with my alcoholic and turned and walked away (actually he agreed to the one to move away) he wasn't able to get sober after my ultimatum.

I suppose him using a walker or cane to steady himself is out of the question.

Ado Annie, ASN, RN · Dec 14, 2022

Stars, I've taken care of patients with alcohol dependence who were quite intelligent and successful (I know you know this).

Tweety, that is frustrating to have to get another inspection so soon in order to satisfy the red tape.

We were awakened at 5:30 this morning by Hubs' phone with a weather alert -- a tornado warning saying "take shelter now"! The sirens were going off outside but we couldn't hear them in our bedroom. We got to the interior of the house, woke Twin A, did not wake Gma but we were right outside her door. There was a tornado that touched down about 7 miles south of us and last I heard it had torn up some trees and one house and outbuilding. In December! Twin B was at work at the hospital. I texted him and he had not been aware of the warning at all.