Travel Nurses and Relationship

NotMyProblem MSN, ASN, BSN, MSN, LPN, RN · Nov 10, 2016

Traveling within the state when I did have a husband was no problem. I'd have my shifts scheduled together, do the three-sometimes (not very often) four in a row, and come home. He always had the option to drive up had he chosen to do so. But he'd mainly use that time to sign up for extra shifts. Traveling out of the state was out of the question for me...no desire whatsoever to hop a plane.

But why postpone a wedding for this? Is this a strike assignment with mega bucks that conflict with the wedding date?

Travel1414 · Nov 11, 2016

Thanks for the reply. She really wants to experience it before marriage. It's something she feels really strong about. I won't stop her but want some advice to handle this long distance relationship.

NedRN · Nov 11, 2016

What is her input? Relationships are unique, and there is nothing to replace frank discussions. What are your fears? Clearly you have some (tell her, not us).

This may not be about your relationship at all. Many women have never experienced independence at all and she may view this as a last chance before the expectations of marriage make it impossible.

NedRN · Nov 11, 2016

It occurs to me to add that if your worst fears are realized and you grow apart during this period, or if she finds another, this is a good thing. Better now than to discover it after marriage. Talk about it with her and express your feelings (to a point - insecurity is not attractive). Your post may have been more about how often to call her, or visit her, and that too can only be by mutual agreement. The travel nurse mantra is you can survive anything for 13 weeks, so you will survive as well for 13 weeks apart.