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I have a unique problem. I have five kids, 22, 20, 19, 17 and 14. My two oldest are off in college, the 19 year old lives with us and goes to college, works part time. The 17 year old is special needs with some psyc issues and other problems and we home school her. The 14 year old is fine. My problem is the 19 year old, almost 20, has always had a horrible temper. Lately he has been calling everyone here every name in the book. He treats us horribly. Today I had to pull him off his 17 year old sister and he was choking her and calling her horrible names, which Iwas there and broke it up or else I am sure the 17 year old may have been killed as it was a horrible fight. We have tried everything to reach this child. Talking, therapy, time outs, grounding which now he is to big for, we have told him his behavior is unacceptable. He said to me it was good I was here today to break up this fist fight/choking or he would have killed her. He said to her if she ever said anything to him again, he would kill her. Does anyone have any pearls of wisdom? I have told my husband I cannot live with the violence and he or I are going to go......I grew up in a physically and mentally abusive home and I just cannot live like that...............anyone have any other ideas I can try?
renerian
Thanks for replying youda. Hubby is due home earlier tonight so we can discuss it more. He worked almost a double yesterday, he is also an RN, so he was whipped yesterday. Heck your not going to alienate me...............no problem........thanks for caring enough to respond to my problem. I really do appreciate it....
renerian
Youda
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I am so sorry, too. It is with a great deal of hesitation, but with great conviction, that I must agree with Vsummer1. Outpatient counseling isn't going to do it this time. You are telling him that his behavior will only get him a little "counseling" which he will ditch just like he did before. Counseling? For attempted murder? You're not seeing this clearly.
That boy cannot come back into your home. The psychological and physical trauma that you are allowing to yourself and your minor children will only esculate.
Next time you won't be there to stop it. At the risk of alienating an online "friendship" I have to say that the end results of this is going to be someone's funeral. The only question left is which one of your family members is it going to be?
Jail or lock-down psych.