Last night at work was a day from *&^(. I had a patient come in and she was in very active labor. This was her 4th child and we knew that labor was something she was familiar with. I got her on the toco an then started looking for heart tones, and couldn't find them. I just started in labor 2-3 months ago, so I thought maybe it was my inexperience. Though the lady was pretty small, and I couldn't quite figure out what the problem was. The thought never occurred to me that maybe there were no heart tones. A co-worker came in and told me to go lower. She didn't realize that I started lower, and had been looking for 10 minutes.
Well to make a long story short the lady delivered a stillborn beautiful baby boy at 40 weeks gestation about 1/2 hour later. She came in a week before this with braxton hicks and the baby's Fetal heart tones looked great.
They were passing a card around for us to sign for the patient, and I want to say something from the heart about how truly sorry I am. I also want to say something about how beautiful the baby was. Does anyone have any words of advice or poems that they put on cards. I have had a few demises lately and everyone always states pretty much the same thing.
"I am sorry for your loss, and my thoughts and prayers are with you"
Thanks for any advice.