student nurse needs help from Dads/Dads-to-be for psych assignment

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Hello everyone. :)

I am taking the remainder of my pre-reqs this summer, after having completed the first year of nursing school in an ASN program. I am working on an assignment for my psychology class which requires me to interview men with expecting wives/sweethearts, as well as fathers of children under the age of two. Will someone please help me out by answering the following questions? The questions were written by my professor. The more responses, the better. I have tried other message boards with no success.

No names are necessary, but I need to compare responses by age and level of education. I believe location, nothing specific - general region will do, is also necessary. Please respond! Please, please..... :)

Questions:

  • Was the birth(pregnancy) of your child planned or was it a surprise?
  • How do you feel about becoming (being) a father?
  • Did you (do you) go to the doctor visits and check-ups?
  • What about delivery? Were you in the delivery room? What was that like?
  • Have there been any changes (do you anticipate any changes) in your life since the birth of your child? What are the most noticeable?
  • What about your relationship with the child's mother (wife, sweetheart)? Has that changed since the birth of the child? Describe?
  • What do you think a father's job or responsibility should be in taking care of the child? Should they get up for night feedings? Bathing? Playing?
  • What is the hardest thing about being a father?
  • What is the best thing about being a father?
  • Do you think you'll do the same things in parenting as your own father did as you were growing up? Why or why not?

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was the birth(pregnancy) of your child planned or was it a surprise? surprise

how do you feel about becoming (being) a father? [color=#ff0000]it was intimidating at first

did you (do you) go to the doctor visits and check-ups? [color=#ff0000]every single one

what about delivery? were you in the delivery room? what was that like? [color=#ff0000]i was there for the delivery, and alll i can say is incredible

have there been any changes (do you anticipate any changes) in your life since the birth of your child? what are the most noticeable? [color=#ff0000]i feel like i am more grounded now

what about your relationship with the child’s mother (wife, sweetheart)? has that changed since the birth of the child? describe? [color=#ff0000]no real change

what do you think a father’s job or responsibility should be in taking care of the child?[color=#ff0000]an equal role to that of the mother should they get up for night feedings? bathing? playing? [color=#ff0000]yes

what is the hardest thing about being a father? [color=#ff0000]finding time to juggle work and family responsibilities

what is the best thing about being a father? [color=#ff0000]getting to experience your child growing and all of their achievements

do you think you’ll do the same things in parenting as your own father did as you were growing up? why or why not?[color=#ff0000]i really couldnt say my father wasnt in the picutre

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questions:

  • was the birth(pregnancy) of your child planned or was it a surprise? planned, pregnant on 1st try. (holy fertility batman!)
  • how do you feel about becoming (being) a father? awsome! i've never been so proud of anything in my life.
  • did you (do you) go to the doctor visits and check-ups? all of them.
  • what about delivery? were you in the delivery room? what was that like? was in delivery room, nothing short of a life changing event of biblical proportions.
  • have there been any changes (do you anticipate any changes) in your life since the birth of your child? what are the most noticeable? some changes, all for the better so far. i felt pressure to plan for the future more aggressively (retirement, life insurance, homeownership, ect.) honestly, most noticably for me is all the equipment, we can't seem to walk to the mailbox without trailering mountains of gear! that and the realization that i'm completely responsible for the life of another human being. (who authorized this!?!)
  • what about your relationship with the child's mother (wife, sweetheart)? has that changed since the birth of the child? describe? my love and respect for my wife has grown exponentialy since our daughter was born. she (they) make me who i am, i would not be able to function on the level i do without her. watching her be a mom is just incredible.
  • what do you think a father's job or responsibility should be in taking care of the child? should they get up for night feedings? bathing? playing? yes to all, but only if you want your child to love you.
  • what is the hardest thing about being a father? hearing my daughter say "bye-bye" all the time because she thinks i'm leaving for work even when i'm not.
  • what is the best thing about being a father? coming home (usually from work) and hearing that excited little monkey yelling "dadeee dadeee!!!!" out the window.
  • do you think you'll do the same things in parenting as your own father did as you were growing up? why or why not? never in a million years, my father left when i was 7 y/o and spoke to me twice in the 20 years after that before he died. he was divorced 3 times, had 5 children (2 "illegitemate") and wasn't a parent to any of them.
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I really appreciate the fact that you two took the time to reply. Thank you very much! All I needed were a few real Dads to compare to published research on changing trends in fatherhood. I received one reply by PM, so I am good to go!

Holy fertility Batman - I laughed out loud at that!

Once again, thank you both!

Gayle

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  • was the birth(pregnancy) of your child planned or was it a surprise? a suprise
  • how do you feel about becoming (being) a father? i was happy and excited.
  • did you (do you) go to the doctor visits and check-ups? many but not all of them.
  • what about delivery? were you in the delivery room? what was that like? i was ther and got to cut the cord. it was pretty cool.
  • have there been any changes (do you anticipate any changes) in your life since the birth of your child? what are the most noticeable? i already had stepkids so there really wern't any radical changes.
  • what about your relationship with the child’s mother (wife, sweetheart)? has that changed since the birth of the child? describe? relationships kind of ebb and flow regardless of whether there are children or not.
  • what do you think a father’s job or responsibility should be in taking care of the child? should they get up for night feedings? bathing? playing? yes....all of those things
  • what is the hardest thing about being a father? lack of free time...
  • what is the best thing about being a father? having someone to play with...
  • do you think you’ll do the same things in parenting as your own father did as you were growing up? why or why not? i think that i am pretty different than my own dad......i don't really know why....

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Thank you for your reply, winterbot428. I have finished my assignment, but your comments are useful as we are still discussing fatherhood issues in this course.

You said you thought it was pretty cool to be able to cut the cord. I have often wondered about that, when I see fathers cutting the cord on those TLC and A&E showing women giving birth. I wondered whether or not it was actually meaningful and symbolic to the father, or if he felt that it was simply something he was expected to do.

Again, thank you!

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