So Depressed!!!

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mammaoftwo

183 Posts

Are there any online classes you could take? That is what I am doing this summer, of course they are pre-reqs and I don't know where you are in your program at this time. Best of luck.

rnmomtobe2010

1,051 Posts

I hear ya. I just got the word that my grandmother is literally dying. I have to leave for Memphis in the morning. Things happen for a reason. Futurecnm, I don't have any family where I live. My husband and kids are all I have. He is about to take a truck driving job so you know that he will be traveling, which depresses me even more. We need the money though and I have learned to shut up about that.

rnmomtobe2010

1,051 Posts

I tried to take online classes. One class was the wrong class and the right one was offered only on campus. I had one online and one evening. I could not get a soul to watch my children for 50 minutes!!!

TrudyRN

1,343 Posts

Take advantage of the extra time with your kids and gear up for the fall. Next babysitter you have make it clear that you expect reasonable notice if s/he decides not to babysit after all. And do not give this last twit a good reference if she has the nerve to ask for one!!

I'd drop her a note if she wouldn't take my calls. She needs to know how immature and selfish and destructive her behavior is. That way, once you calmly, maturely let her know, maybe she won't do it to anyone else.

That said, I wish you the very best summer possible. The kids grow up so fast.

Do try to find several friends, relatives, etc. who can serve as secondary, emergency, back-up sitters in case your new, main one doesn't work out.

Isn't it interesting - in a profession that is made up of so many, many people who have childcare problems, so many single parents, too, that the schools dont institute some type of on-site child care for students? And for their staff, who probably also have this trouble from time to time. Maybe you can run this by your school? Perhaps it could be staffed by an RN and some students, who might get some small amount of credit for Peds or Community Health by working at the on-site child care center.

queenjean

951 Posts

Before you start school, you definitely need to come up a with a back up plan. If one babysitter backing out at the last minute derailed your plans, I'd say you need to reevaluate. I'm saying that as someone who went to school full time while working full time with a nursing baby and a preschooler.

While in nursing school, my main babysitter had a baby, and took a month off (reasonable, of course, but still had to find back up). My back up babysitter's mother died suddenly and unexpectedly. My kids got the chicken pox and the oldest couldn't go to preschool. My oldest had emergency surgery. And then there were the colds, fevers, upset stomachs and the like that kept the kids home from time to time.

From what you tell us, any one of these situations might very well have derailed your entire nursing school plan. You know how often kids can get sick, or things can happen. Luckily my ultimate back up plan was that my husband take off work, and he had accumulated a total of 5 weeks of leave for that purpose. He used three weeks in a one year time period for staying home with our kids when I was in school.

While schools will be reasonably accommodating, there is NO WAY you can miss more than a couple of days during the entire semester. My program was set up so that there was NO leeway on clinicals. We could not miss one clinical hour, or it had to be made up. If we missed more than a full clinical day (12 hours) we were dropped for the semester and had to re-enroll. Every lecture day we had an exam. This was in the days of master testing, so you had to pass with an 80%, and you got three tries, or you were kicked out of the program. If you missed an exam, it counted as one of those tries. If you missed a make up exam, you were automatically dropped.

I'm not trying to discourage you or brow-beat you; I'm just saying that it sounds like this should be a wake up call to you. That lots of things happen during life, and if you are in school where you need to have a 100% commitment, then you need to make sure that you have several back up plans in place for your childcare. Use this summer to expand your network of friends and childcare providers. I ended up having a main babysitter, a back up friend who could potentially watch them at a moment's notice, and then if nothing could work out, my husband would call in sick. Which he did a lot of that year!

Newyorican

5 Posts

Specializes in Med/Surg, Oncology, Community Clinic.

Maybe online classes is a choice?

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