Should I give my manager's email to my 'job hopper friend'?


This friend got hired as a new grad at a nursing home, which gave her proper orientation, according to what she told me when I asked. She also promised to stay for at least 6 months. They also give her permanent PM shift and let her take 3 weeks of vacation 4 months after she was hired. Her vacation will be in a few weeks. On the other hand, she has to drive 40 minutes to get to work, and she didn't have benefits during training. I forgot to ask if she will get benefits after training.

About 2 weeks ago, I was shocked when she emailed me saying that she would work for another nursing home, which pays her better, and is only 10 minutes from where she lives. I got shocked knowing that she would work as a charge nurse at this new job. So she decided to leave the place that hired her as a new grad, despite the fact that she promised to stay for at least 6 months

In the middle of all this, I got my first job on a oncology floor at a medium sized hospital. I'm in my third week of training. Yesterday she asked me for my manager's email to apply for a day shift per diem position. This is what she wrote me: 'Well, about the job in xx, I went to the orientation 2 days, but I saw some moments which the Director of Nursing was not nice with her employees, and I didn't like to work for her. I quitted the job already. However, I still work part-time for 2 nursing homes in yz near your hospital. I think if I have some experience in Acute care, I may easily get a job as a NP whether at a hospital or a nursing home in a future, so I just want to get some experience even working per-diem some times if I have a chance.

For me, I really don't care where I work, just to make some money and have time for my kids and study is good enough. I am also planning to join Military so I can easily get a job as a NP when I finish my education. I know, people may think I calculate too much now, but I am not very young to wait for everything, so I have to plan.'

To clarify, the hospital where I work is 40 minutes from her house, and she is 40 years old. Right now she is applying to the NP program. I didn't know that she's working at 2 SNFs, and apply for a charge nurse position at a third one. I thought she was working full time at the first one.



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Sorry I hit the wrong key. Anyway, I told her that it was not appropriate to give her my manager's email without asking, and that I will ask my manager when I have a chance. I wonder if that was the right thing to do.

I'm also planning for my future, but right now as a new grad, my plan is to be a safe nurse to protect my patients and my license. I think my friend is too fast and ambitious. What do you think?

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Rose_Queen, BSN, MSN, RN

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I would tell her she needs to apply for jobs through the HR approved process, which usually involves applying for open positions online. HR generally weeds out those least favorable and forwards the rest on to the manager of the position. Also, depending on the job situation in your area, she would be smart not to be burning bridges. Word gets around.

Meriwhen, ASN, BSN, MSN, RN

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Agree with the PP: tell her that she needs to go through HR.

I know you're trying to be a good friend, but worry about your own career. Let her worry about hers.



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Based on her grammar alone, I'd not provide her my endorsement.

Regardless, I wouldn't even consider providing a manager's e-mail address to anyone. I *might* consider hand-delivering a resume in parallel with the online process but only for someone that I considered a blue-chipper.