I have this Registar secretary, and she thinks she's in charge of me and to be honest, it's getting on my nerves.
At first, I tried to be nice to her and tried to be good friends, but I'm not sure what I have done to get her upset at me, but now...
She talks down to me in front of co-workers and parents. For example, she called me on my extension and told me that I need to check the immunizations again because this child did have her immunization record in her file and the parent yelled at her and did it in front of others. Then yesterday, I came in a bit late and went to get coffee, I didn't look in the front office and she called me over and asked me in front of the parent, "When do you get in?" and starts to scold me in front of the parent that she's been waiting for me and I wasn't in my office. I just told her okay, and went to help the parent.
Just a few months ago she sent me a email because my room organization. I was out for the day and the sub never came, so she had to help my diabetic and she said "she couldn't find my medication binder" and start to tell me I'm very unorganized. I did send her an email back, cordially, that the reason my room is like this is because I have no room in my office and I am trying to organize myself as much as I can
I have reported her a lot but nothing is changing. I don't want to confront her and get in trouble, but what should I do with her? The parents love her, the Admin know her, and I'm just trying to do my job in peace.
I'm currently documenting all she does to me on an excel sheet, but I'm just worried it won't be enough and she can retort back and I can get in trouble.
I feel your pain. My school had two secretaries in the main office that truly suffer from mental illness (one with a substance abuse problem). They certainly didn't save their behavior just for me (it was spread evenly throughout staff), but being "solo" sure did make it feel worse.
One entered my office in a rage, tried to get into my locked med cabinet to give a student tylenol "because you won't"... well no, because I had already given a dose an hour prior! This same woman took a medical call from a parent who reported that their child was diagnosed with an AVM and would need brain surgery within a couple of weeks - she never transferred the call to me, but did update the teachers and Principal... but not me. So for over a week I had a child in the school that had this condition and no clue. Administration wouldn't do anything to address it once I found out (when the doctor called me AFTER her surgery to ask what her baseline neurological status was, because she didn't seem at expected baseline!).
I did eventually request a meeting with this woman and it went about as well as expected. She was yelling and abrasive in the meeting, but they (Principal and Superintendent) pretended not to notice. Nothing was done.... and it was part of the reason why I ended-up resigning in the middle of my 5th year. In a job that I wanted to retire in. My heart goes out to you!
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I feel your pain. My school had two secretaries in the main office that truly suffer from mental illness (one with a substance abuse problem). They certainly didn't save their behavior just for me (it was spread evenly throughout staff), but being "solo" sure did make it feel worse.
One entered my office in a rage, tried to get into my locked med cabinet to give a student tylenol "because you won't"... well no, because I had already given a dose an hour prior! This same woman took a medical call from a parent who reported that their child was diagnosed with an AVM and would need brain surgery within a couple of weeks - she never transferred the call to me, but did update the teachers and Principal... but not me. So for over a week I had a child in the school that had this condition and no clue. Administration wouldn't do anything to address it once I found out (when the doctor called me AFTER her surgery to ask what her baseline neurological status was, because she didn't seem at expected baseline!).
I did eventually request a meeting with this woman and it went about as well as expected. She was yelling and abrasive in the meeting, but they (Principal and Superintendent) pretended not to notice. Nothing was done.... and it was part of the reason why I ended-up resigning in the middle of my 5th year. In a job that I wanted to retire in. My heart goes out to you!
I wanted to resign last year due to AP and this woman. They would just block me on so many thing, would not include me in anything and she would just be super rude to me and because she had a lot of teacher, Admin and parent back up, she felt she could do anything.
I'm just glad she's gone, it makes me job super easier and I don't have to worry about having her coming to my room to bother me again.
Same with APs, since the other two left, we have new ones. They are actually very sweet and actually listen to me when I tell them what's going on.
Right now I'm having an issue with a student and her mother, these women are backing me up and it feels so good. Same with front office, new secretaries and IT guy are basically backing me up too, if I need back up if that lady comes back with issues and starts something.
I really hope that you find another SN job, and somewhere better.
Amethya
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Old Thread but good news: She got fired this year.