Saturday October 29 2022

[Joe NightingMale, MSN, RN]

Tweety hope the dog sitting goes well

Ado given the rising expenses it's understandable not everyone can go

Dianah sounds like a fun time

Stars glad he's sticking with the taper and the doctor is keeping him on track

NJ22 I think a coworker like that would drive me crazy too

Well, big news here was J and I did get together last night and had a long discussion regarding our relationship.  We both agreed the romance has been gone for a while, and while we like each other trying to make this a romantic relationship was turning into drudgery for us both.  Too be honest, the last year or so when he wasn't available to meet for dinner or a nightly call I usually felt relief.  We've never lived together and never could, and the intimacy has been gone for a long time, years

So we decided we would remain friends, we'll still talk and get together for lunch and celebrate each others birthdays and go to the theater and the arboretum.  But won't consider ourselves boyfriends and won't text/call every day and eat out every week.  

I was a bit surprised that it was J who initiated this, and not me, but he saw things more clearly sooner than I did.  I knew our relationship had become stagnant for quite a while.  And while this was a sad realization, it was also a relief too.  I'm glad  we'll still  see each other, but the pressure to maintain a romantic relationship will be gone

I'm still processing it and as a result didn't sleep well last night, although I do feel better this morning.  I'm not sure if I will seek another romantic relationship in the future.  J says he never will.  Currently I feel no need to do so.  Guess there is a lot of thinking ahead for me

Will be fairly ordinary day otherwise for me.  Bird watching in the morning,  then lunch with dad.  Svengoolie  has Count Yorga, Vampire which might be good  despite being from the 70s

Will be rather warm today,  in  the mid  60s

[dianah, ASN]

Hugs to you, Joe, as you go through this relationship transition.  Sounds like it was more a relationship realization (whatever title it is given).  Enjoy your birdwatching and lunch with your dad!

Hello to all!  Our only plans are Zoom Sabbath School, then lunch.  I may nap in the afternoon, as I had a difficult time falling asleep.  Once asleep, seems I did OK!

Have a good day!

[No Stars In My Eyes]

((((((Joe)))))) ~Changes, even the ones you agree with, feel off-center for a while. I understand the relief you feel, and am glad y'all will remain friends.

dianah~ I slept until noon, but still wanted to sleep more (avoiding the day?) but had to get up, as my hips and lower back were achey and being in bed did not make them feel better. Usually, I get up at some point in the early morning to go pee, and I take my meds then. Today, I didn't take them early. Now I am waiting for the meds to kick-in. 

I kind of dread having to get Nannie up, as I am sure something is soaked and will require changing and washing, etc. Last night when she got out of her recliner she was wet from the shoulder blades to the knees again. I had a chux on her chair but only on the seat part. The pee creeped up her back. I had to lay the recliner out as far as it could recline, sprayed it with febreeze and left the ceiling fan on all night, hoping to dry it out. I may not have a sense of smell any more, but I don't want the  house to smell like old urine!

I may have to go out and get some milk; maybe hubby will volunteer to do that.The convenience store is about a mile away, but I just really don't want to do anything at all:   ?  A-N-Y-T-H-I-N-G-!!

Later~ 

[dianah, ASN]

No Stars, hope your meds kick in soon, with good relief.  Fingers crossed Nannie will be DRY when she gets up!  If they were aware, they (Nannie and your dh) would be thanking you profusely for all you do and think about r/t what needs to happen.  Truly. 

[nursej22, MSN, RN]

Joe, I am wishing you peace as you make this transition in your life. Big hugs to you. 

I didn't sleep well, either. I had a weird, low back ache. I finally got up around 2, took tylenol and naproxen, and had some milk and crackers. And then slept in until 8, instead of my usual 5:30. I had a great run this morning, then stopped by the drugstore to get halloween candy, and calcium and Vitamin D supplements, as suggested by doc. When I look at the bone scan details, the numbers aren't that bad, really, just slightly low in neck of both femurs.  I am going shopping with dh soon, to the farmers market, and the feed store and then to see his mom. 

Weather is gray and overcast. And thus it will likely remain for 6 months. At least it isn't pouring rain. 

[No Stars In My Eyes]

Both the sleepers are sleeping in their recliners. It is 4 PM. Hubby will wake up in a little while and grumble that he won't be able to sleep tonight because of taking such a long nap (1 + 1/2 hrs, so far). Sometimes I wake him up, and sometimes I don't. I am not The Sleep Police. When you are a 'big kid' you ought to be able to figure these things out for yourself. Of course, hubby does NOTHING that will wear him out, and he is bored to his teeth being here. No impetus to find something he CAN do in spite of his health problems. Too bad he doesn't enjoy reading or have a hobby.

Soon enough, the supper question will arise. I can tell you that Nannie won't be eating supper at the time we usually eat, because she just finished her lunch.  // Her bed only had two 2" diameter wet spots so I just peeled the covers back and turned on the ceiling fan, as I REALLY don't feel like stripping her bed, washing and drying stuff and then re-making the bed. (Urine odor be derned, I won't be a fanatic about a 2" diameter wet spot!)

I used to be irritated when the Seinfeld show came up with the "Yada-yada-yada" that had EVERYBODY everywhere saying it. But now I can say "Yada-yada-yada" because it is TRUE. And Blah-dee-blah-blah, as well! WOW! Just another day in Paradise! (Not being un-thankful for all we have been blessed with, but this tedium is not my best-favorite thing!)

Soooooo...later, y'all.

[No Stars In My Eyes]

1 hour ago, dianah said:

No Stars, hope your meds kick in soon, with good relief.  Fingers crossed Nannie will be DRY when she gets up!  If they were aware, they (Nannie and your dh) would be thanking you profusely for all you do and think about r/t what needs to happen.  Truly. 

Actually, they DO thank me for the things I do for them...but it doesn't really help me feel better about all that I (have to) do, because it seems it is Never-Ending. I would love to see a glimmer of light at the end of this particular tunnel.

Hubby did get two phone numbers from an ER doc that have to do with AA or something rehab-ish, but naturally, it can't be taken care of during the weekend. He also talks with an old man from church who had to put his wife in a nursing home, as if he were the be-all and end-all of information about facility costs, etc. Hubby always says, "He had to pay $4,000 a week." But his two adult daughters helped pay it. So I don't understand him using this guy as any kind of resource. It sure doesn't really help US with anything to know what the old guy went through or had to spend. If hubby would only get some impetus to make calls himself, to places that can help us figure this confusing rigamarole one has to go through to place a parent. NANNIE IS NOT MY MOTHER! I am not responsible for setting everything up so he can sashay through the process. Well, enough of that; we have heard it all before!

Hubby just woke up. Whoop-dee-do! What's next, now? ?

[dianah, ASN]

Dh and I had a nice lunch and watched some of The Chosen while eating.  I made "haystacks" = like a taco salad.  Lay down a layer of tortilla chips (we crush 'em), then beans, burger, tomatoes, cheese, green onions, chopped cilantro, and (instead of lettuce) chopped red cabbage.  Top with salsa and/or sour cream.  Easy and tasty!

Then I had a nice phone chat with a long-time friend who lives in Georgia.  She and her dh were raised in SoCal, but moved to Georgia just after they had their two kids (which was just before we had our two).  It was nice to touch base.

Now, I guess we will join the online jam session.

Later!