Resting after school's over?!??!

[Starfish1]

I have a little dilemma here...I currently work PRN as a tech...the first two weeks we had off I worked 3 12 hour shifts...last week I worked two and this week I worked two. I really think and feel I need time to rest after this nursing program!!! I already have a job lined up and I think i DESERVE a little break- even if you consider working 2 days per week a break...( I do I think ) however my husband asks why I am not working full time and acts like my preceptorship is not going to be full time (it's 3 12 hour shifts per week) and wonders why I am not working during preceptorship too....how can I explan to this guy that I am working full time with out losing it? money is not a factor here....I was very upset yesterday because he just doenst get me at all right now when it comes to work...and I have a job at home too ( I do ALL the cooking cleaning and laundry ) my 3 days at the hospital total 36+ hours no matter if I work 3 days or 5 I am freakin working FULL time

he then goes on to say that plenty of nurses work 4 12 hour shifts in a week...I personally think this is CRAZY I am exhausted after 3....and was indirectly saying that he expects me to work this upon graduation- another reason I got sooooo upset....thats like 48+ hours and the household to take care of:uhoh3:

Sorry, I need to vent and a way to explain this to him (he is VERY stubborn and hard headed)

[hopebewild]

Omg you deserve a break! does your husband work 12 hour shifts? does he work in a hospital? if the answer to those is no then tell him to shut his piehole! lol

[whodatnurse]

Did you tell him plenty of husbands cook, clean, and do laundry?

[CRIMSON]

Are his legs broken? Why is he not helping at home if you are working also?

Tell him divorce is always an option to lighten your load.

[itsmejuli]

Your husband sounds like a selfish jerk expecting you to do all the housework plus work more than fulltime hours.

Why doesn't he help around the house? Hope you don't plan on having kids with this guy.

[llg, PhD, RN]

Yep. I agree with the others. It sounds like he doesn't respect you, your work, etc. He may be one of those guys who needs to always feel superior and in control of the relationship. He may uncomfortable with the idea that you are going to be a professional nurse, earn a decent wage, and feel more empowered. So, he is trying to re-assert his superiority. That's serious.

Your marriage may need some serious counseling if it is to be a long-term happy one. Do you have kids? If not, you might want to delay that until you know he is sufficiently mature and secure to stick with for the long term.